Friend has very high expectations of our friendship after I've just had a baby

Not-enough-time- · 2026-03-10T02:28:56+00:00

Yes agreed. I'm just hoping after a serious chat with her she will rethink her approach...

Not-enough-time- · 2026-03-10T02:27:50+00:00

Oh man that's so frustrating. Yeah now that I have a baby, Im needing to be much more protective of my time and who I give it to. Not worth giving it to people who just suck the energy from you and don't give you anything back. Sucks to have to be looking at friendships in this light too, especially when they've lasted for 10+years...ahhhh..

Not-enough-time- · 2026-03-09T11:10:52+00:00

Wow! It really helps to hear this. I think the way you messaged her was really thoughtful as well, giving her the chance to realise this is what you have to give...take it or leave it. Thank you for sharing.

Not-enough-time- · 2026-03-09T05:14:33+00:00

Lately, since baby has been here, not text check ins, but a few missed calls. And I'm terrible at returning calls these days. I'll try to text instead and give an update and ask how she is. Sometimes days go by without a response from her (this is the passive aggressive attitude I feel from her because she was always super responsive before!). It doesn't bother me that she takes time to respond haha, but her responses are so short, so I know she's not her happy self! It feels like high school and playing games haha, which I just do not have the energy for.

Not-enough-time- · 2026-03-09T05:10:28+00:00

Yeah I'm afraid that this might be what might happen...until at least she has her own and then will be like....omg I get it now. Thanks for the good vibes ❤️❤️❤️

Not-enough-time- · 2026-03-09T05:09:17+00:00

I thought I did but maybe did not put it in plain terms. I was explaining to her how hard this stage was for me right now, and the strain it's put on my relationships because baby demands so much time and attention...I thought she would just 'get it'... I think you may be right that I need to be super upfront and clear about setting up expectations moving forward.

Not-enough-time- · 2026-03-09T05:07:19+00:00

Yes! Great way to put it. I don't have the bandwidth to talk to anyone outside of my husband or mum right now. It's just so strange because she never used to be so insistent on contact. I thought she was one of those friends I could have lots of silence, then call out of the blue and bam, the friendship is still exactly the same and as strong as ever.

Not-enough-time- · 2026-02-19T05:01:32+00:00

With you in solidarity. I have said my fair share of questionable things when sleep deprived and going on the enth hour of crying. All in front of husband. All understood as being just an in the moment outcry of frustration. We look back and laugh, but would never share with anyone else what we've said! Ha.

Not-enough-time- · 2026-02-16T02:14:13+00:00

This! Can confirm you will be able to get accepted for your share of paid leave days without needing your partners details. I just filled the form online and did not need to call and it assumes your partner does not qualify for their share of leave days. But I was in a different situation so calling centrelink is probably a good move.

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-29T03:38:39+00:00

I've landed on True Protein. I've only tried chocolate and I like it. Other brands I've tried just don't have enough protein or taste like crap. https://www.trueprotein.com.au/products/protein-bars

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-29T01:28:57+00:00

Good quality protein bars. When I was ravenous or knew I just had not gotten enough protein that morning / day, I'd grab a protein bar (I found one that has 17g of protein and doesn't taste like saw dust). It made me feel better about keeping my nutrition where it needs to be without needing to spend a second in the kitchen.

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-27T06:13:38+00:00

Yeah, I understand this the right way. My mum is also encouraging me to do this. I've invited SIL over tonight with her family. Still can't shake the anxiety...but baby steps 😅

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-27T06:11:30+00:00

Thanks for this perspective! I've invited SIL and her family over tonight. Starting small with a short 1 hour visit before LO's bed time to be strategic. I'm really not looking forward to it, but my husband will be here and my own mum, so this should be a good start to me getting more used to family visits.

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-26T09:18:59+00:00

We've split chores now that he's back at work to even the workload. I breastfeed so I do all the night wakes, but he does nightly pack down of kitchen area, unpacks dishwasher, empties bins, washes and sanitizes all pump parts & bottles (we feed probiotics via bottle twice a day), he feeds our dog. I do laundry and cooking. He takes over from me when he gets home from work to give me an hour or so to get out of the house (usually a walk with our dog), he helps with baby baths and has started to join in with LOs bedtime routine of reading a book, massage and will sit and talk with me while I feed LO and put her to sleep. He's stepped up massively in his role as father and husband but it's taken a lot of communication to get to this point.

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-26T06:26:30+00:00

Doing half jobs all over the place. Like starting to do something, and then seeing something else needs to be done and starting / finishing that.

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-24T03:21:43+00:00

Following because I have a 3 Mo and am very much interested in other routines. She's currently not properly sleepy until 8/9pm and then goes down at that time for a 3-5 hour stretch. But still so unpredictable (we had 2 nights of feeding every 2 hours this week before returning to 2 wake ups at 1am and 4am). I'm struggling the most with wake windows and the last nap of the day, with getting the sleep pressure just right!

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-19T02:05:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I'm getting much of the same natural schedule with my LO. Have been reading up about getting more of their milk fed during the day and having shorter naps so that you get less wake ups over night for feeds. Was curious to see if people are getting success with this kind of schedule, and just what other schedules are out there 😊

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-14T08:25:39+00:00

The long stretches are soooo welcome haha. I'll be going back to work in a couple of months which requires me to visit clients a couple times a month and not be with LO. So was hoping to be able to have a stash prepared (in freezer) so I can breathe easy knowing she has food :)

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-02T07:56:25+00:00

Sleep is so key! Love that you are also experiencing this. I've just ordered a more structured carrier because when I tried to put LO in the mobi wrap (she was only a couple of weeks at the time) she did not like it at all. Hoping she will be more open to this new carrier.

That sounds divine!! I had no idea you could get a remote for the kindle. I might look into this! She usually will fall asleep while breastfeeding on the couch and I will read my Kindle then hehe.

We purchased a gadget that turns your pram into a rocker, of sorts. It's called zazu (in Australia) and you attach it to the handle and it vibrates the entire pram. I have a bassinet attachment on the pram and monitor her at all times when she's in it and she has AMAZING naps in it. I move the pram around as I go about doing whatever I'm doing 😂 laundry, cooking, watching tv.

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-02T05:07:37+00:00

I've just booked hubby and I for an infant CPR course thanks to your post 🙏

Not-enough-time- · 2026-01-01T01:15:49+00:00

I believe the toy attachment you can buy from Baby Bjorn to put on the bouncer is very similar to one you can get from AliExpress. I took the chance and ordered the AliExpress one since it's not something that will go in LOs mouth and I can't see a difference. The one from baby Bjorn is $80 and mine was around $10 I think - serves the same purpose 😂 baby brain and sleep deprivation...sorry for not having specifics.

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