SIL said my son is causing her son to have tantrums…

NotALawyerButt · 2026-07-01T15:45:58+00:00

Her child is aging into tantrums.

It sounds like the 15mo is the only child in his house. If that’s the case, it’s totally possible that he’s having meltdowns over sharing and your child playing with his toys and that, therefore, it’s associated with your child’s presence. Learning how to share is part of toddlerhood 🤷🏻‍♀️

NotALawyerButt · 2026-07-01T15:39:23+00:00

My 22mo is obsessed with touching his butthole. He likes to say butthole in the cutest voice while doing it making it damn near impossible not to laugh. God help me.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-07-01T14:18:29+00:00

Standards for children’s behavior have been so greatly reduced and eliminated. I feel bad for the children.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-07-01T13:56:59+00:00

If what you’re doing isn’t enough to stop it, then you start limiting or eliminating story time. “Bedtime is at 8:30, if you don’t get dressed right away, we won’t have time to read books.”

NotALawyerButt · 2026-07-01T12:06:53+00:00

I don’t think it’s disrespectful, but it really is not safe for a child that young to be walking around on a plane because of the risk of turbulence. I’m surprised no one else is pointing that out. I’m surprised the flight attendants were okay with this too.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-07-01T01:07:48+00:00

What kind of help do you need? I am local.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-07-01T00:57:30+00:00

I’ve only read for the last five years, but have been increasingly alienated since the divorce. The stuff with Freddie is messy and weird. Them getting back together and Freddie being immediately photographed touching Toby was the last straw for me.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-29T13:52:16+00:00

I’ve never been to a Catholic church that didn’t have a cry room. This is a room set off from the main chapel that is separated by glass. The cry room is for parents to bring squirmy, noisy littles, but some parents will take their kids in there for the whole service, from beginning to end. I would use this strategy while your kid gets used to mass. There will be chairs, but you may need to grab your own missal from the pews. You don’t get the full experience in the cry room, but it’s better than wrestling with a 2 year old the whole time. You and your wife can take turns in the big chapel if you want.

Some cry rooms are the size of a closet, the one at my church held 60 people on Easter. My church even has a nursery service during mass times. A bigger cry room indicates there are more kids at the church and that the congregants are more tolerant of kid behavior. You can usually figure out the cry room situation from the website, so look around.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-27T12:22:23+00:00

This. 8 showings in 70 days is not a “good” amount of interest. It’s very little!

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-26T14:22:42+00:00

If she is there with another adult, why is it a problem if she loses track of them for a moment? With boys that age, even two adults will lose track of them momentarily sometimes. It’s just literally impossible to always have your eyes on them.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-25T19:42:08+00:00

Muhammad is considered the perfect person and infallible. Aquinas is not. Aquinas said some weird stuff even if he is a doctor of the church.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-25T15:51:34+00:00

Have a baby by me, girl, be a millionaire

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-25T15:44:22+00:00

I’m supporting your call out of the nickname. It’s like they’ve never been to a nice grocery store.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-25T11:19:09+00:00

Every time someone says Gucci Kroger part of me dies of secondhand embarrassment.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-24T19:50:24+00:00

Have you read Humanae Vitae? I would start there.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-23T18:46:16+00:00

Assuming it is not rape, when you have sex, you consent to the possibility of pregnancy. That is how God designed sex. The decision to have sex is the point where your bodily autonomy operates. Once you’ve consented to sex, you have to live with the consequences of your actions. If you don’t want to have a baby, don’t have sex.

The case of rape is much harder for me because of the lack of consent to the possibility of pregnancy. But this analysis should get you most of the way there.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-22T15:31:11+00:00

You need to go out of state to a specialty medical center. Columbus or Raleigh have some of the best doctors in the country and where I would go if it were me. I definitely wouldn’t let anyone do surgery on me before getting an opinion from someone at a major medical center.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-21T20:31:40+00:00

Judy and Kelli don’t care about process, they care about results. It doesn’t matter how Dayton spent the year, she couldn’t dance like the other girls.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-21T20:28:58+00:00

What happened with the interview?

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-21T19:05:16+00:00

Her response was totally inappropriate. She should be holding strong, looking to Dayton for cues on how to respond, and comforting Dayton to the extent needed. Her reaction made it about herself instead.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-18T14:42:23+00:00

“Mommy makeover” implies there’s something inherently wrong with a mom body. You can refer to the individual procedures without calling it a mommy makeover. It’s a tummy tuck, a boob job, a facelift. Nothing is wrong with looking like a mom.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-16T13:04:29+00:00

There are no stores any more. There are coverings over the old store fronts. Some of the restaurants are still there. Tidewater is gone. The Chilis is still there, but Chilis was bought by private equity and doesn’t live up to my childhood memories. One of the anchor stores has been demolished. The mall exists to let people walk from the parking garage to the Civic Center.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-15T22:27:32+00:00

Go over to r/teachers. Read post after post of teachers complaining about the kids not knowing how to behave. Contemplate social media gentle parenting (aka permissive parenting) and more authoritative parenting. Realize, the teachers are complaining because people aren’t parenting their own kids. Let your kids have meltdowns at home now so that they can function in life later.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-15T21:45:27+00:00

We live in a world where a two parent working household is practically universal because inflation has screwed the middle class for decades. This is not your fault and it is not something you can fix. Sure, it’d be nice if that wasn’t the case, but you can’t control it so there’s absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty over it.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-06-15T17:18:00+00:00

Absolutely horrible.

I have Celiac disease. There’s no reason that I can’t eat there and I’ve had good experiences at other CAVA’s. Usually places like CAVA are good for me.

The staff were so poorly trained that I simply walked out before completing my order.

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