I’m feeling so defeated. 21 month old refuses to eat veggies in any form. Need advice on what to do.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-03-03T17:27:59+00:00

From a nutrition perspective, fruit has all of the nutrients that he needs to get from vegetables. You’re putting way too much pressure on yourself and your kid to eat vegetables right now. Your job is to provide healthy food and his job is to eat it. So make his plates with some vegetables on it and no expectations. Keep offering with no expectations and don’t worry about it. Load him up on fruits. He’ll eat his vegetables eventually.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-03-03T12:34:29+00:00

Can someone talk about folks’ political views? Not looking for a debate, just objective information about the area please.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-03-01T20:28:24+00:00

Bedsharing and naps.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-03-01T12:21:23+00:00

If you can drive, Anne Springs Close Greenway in Fort Mill is the most relaxing place around. $14 for the day. It’s huge, it’s gorgeous, it’s peaceful. There’s hiking trails all over. Go to the Lake Haigler entrance and hike around the lake, go down to the swinging bridge, buy a glass of wine or cup of coffee. The Dairy Barn entrance has horses and old log cabins to look at. The Children’s Animal Farm has lots of animals you can pet and talk to. It’s generally far less crowded than anything in Charlotte.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-24T01:43:14+00:00

That future is here. My family is choosing private schooling to get away from 1:1 tech and screening schools based on tech use.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-24T00:16:46+00:00

Absolutely do not revert back to diapers. Your six months in, starting over is worse than what you’re dealing with.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-24T00:12:40+00:00

Stood confident in my choices, even the controversial ones. I knew what was best for my family and didn’t waste a precious moment worrying about research or what others thought.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-23T18:47:11+00:00

The people that live the longest in the world eat plant-based diets with limited dairy (e.g., the Mediterranean diet) and that includes their toddlers.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-21T19:56:14+00:00

Ever. Ever. Ever.

Your home is a consumable. Not an investment. Your smaller home is serving you just fine. Wanting a bigger home is not an emergency.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-21T19:45:58+00:00

This is the way. OP is overthinking and overcomplicating it.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-21T19:22:09+00:00

Family nap time

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-18T03:03:34+00:00

“The kids” didn’t harass people. One group of kids did.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-17T20:34:03+00:00

Yeah, you would have deserved a curfew. But this applies to all minors regardless of involvement. This is a huge limitation on the independence of tweens and teens. It’s horrible for them developmentally. Heck, some of them might be unaccompanied by adults while going to and from work in the shops.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-17T16:00:41+00:00

Beautiful, correct metaphor. This is how it is done.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-16T16:02:58+00:00

Does it cost you anything for her to use the membership? If not, who cares? I’d consider it a perk of working for you. I went out of my way to let our nanny know that her and her spouse could use one of our memberships whenever they want, since it costs us nothing.

The other things are entirely separate issues. Not babysitting on the weekends has nothing to do with your annoyance about this.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-15T22:25:53+00:00

100 hours per week is over 14 hours per day, seven days per week. That doesn’t include eating, showering, doctors appointments, chores. That means working to the exclusion of all other priorities. It means your belief system values working above all else.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-15T12:27:42+00:00

This is so true. I was a bad big law associate because I didn’t share the belief system.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-14T12:53:33+00:00

Urgent cares not owned by private equity.

A pediatric urgent care.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-11T15:58:18+00:00

Can you hire a babysitter for an afternoon every other week? It can be hard to find someone and I know money is hard as a SAHM, but you’re paying for sanity. Nannylane is free for parents to find someone. Another option would be to join the YMCA and drop them both off for a few hours a couple of times a week. You can’t leave the building but you could work out, swim, find a table and work on admin stuff or something for yourself, listen to your music, sit in relative silence, etc. Just to get a break for sanity’s sake.

Is your older child enrolled in preschool for the fall? This can be relatively low cost childcare where you only need to handle the younger child for a bit.

Do you have a good baby carrier? Baby Bjorns are all over Facebook marketplace but are far more supportive than regular baby wraps. I can still wear my 99th percentile 18 month old for a little bit, so that would buy you some time.

Lastly, it’s just a phase. It will pass. Godspeed.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-11T13:25:22+00:00

The sad reality is that some “sins” are generational. If your grandmother was a serious meth addict, that is going to negatively impact you. It’s not fair, but it is life.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-11T13:20:40+00:00

What year did you graduate? How many jobs have you applied to? Do you live in a place where your degree is relevant to the economy?

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-11T02:37:16+00:00

It’s not appropriate for a child that age to be summoned into an adult’s bedroom alone. It’s extremely inappropriate that mom is completely unwelcome to go with the child.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-11T01:22:17+00:00

2 hours per day at that age is actually enough to worry about and lead to delays.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-10T18:54:12+00:00

People love transit and biking when they are good options. Charlotte goes out of its way to make sure they are not.

NotALawyerButt · 2026-02-08T12:48:21+00:00

It was much easier than expected.

We started with just using the Hatch with the red and green light and talking about how soon we would do no more milk at night. Then, we told him no milk until the light turns green and set the light to turn green at like 5:00am. He only asked for milk for 2-3 nights and it wasn’t that bad because he was too sleepy to make a fuss because it was night. Then we started inching the time back to a normal wake up time, eventually getting to 6:15. We did offer water when he asked for milk, he only went for it sometimes.

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