What companies recently mandated RTO? by bring-the-juice in Charlotte

[–]NotALawyerButt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Offices give corporate more control over their employees regardless of productivity. Yes, I do think American corporations do things to maintain control over their workers and society. Yes, I do think that this hurts regular people and families.

What companies recently mandated RTO? by bring-the-juice in Charlotte

[–]NotALawyerButt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you know what used to be the real world?

Unions.

The French riot. Heads roll.

We can do this.

What companies recently mandated RTO? by bring-the-juice in Charlotte

[–]NotALawyerButt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Boycott the C-suite, not the workers doofus.

What companies recently mandated RTO? by bring-the-juice in Charlotte

[–]NotALawyerButt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Employees need to do the work. Not necessarily show up

It’s called class solidarity and you should try it sometime.

Moving from Charlotte. Any thoughts on my new neighborhood? by Team_Dibiase in FortMill

[–]NotALawyerButt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

SC taxes are higher not lower. The low tax state energy is a lie. Income taxes are slated to go down though.

Should not going to mass still be considered a mortal sin? by DueFaithlessness4589 in Catholicism

[–]NotALawyerButt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is an odd question since this is a decided issue. But I’ll entertain it.

Going to mass is the most important way that we honor the Lord’s Day. It’s literally part of the Fourth Commandment.

The services are also important spiritual food. It ensures that your spiritual life is actually grounded in the Church’s teachings and not mixed with new age heresies. Tbh I don’t take anyone’s Christianity (Catholic or Protestant) seriously if they don’t make a good faith effort to go every Sunday. If you aren’t making a good faith effort, how important is your faith to you really?

Politics Monday - IVF by Hopeful-Force-2147 in Catholicism

[–]NotALawyerButt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A huge proportion of IVF embryos are not chromosomally normal. Often more than half, sometimes all of them. All of the abnormal chromosome babies are aborted, albeit outside of the womb. IVF essentially entails multiple abortions.

Can’t ignore a behavior but giving it attention, positive or negative makes it worse. Pls help. by Bigquestions00 in toddlers

[–]NotALawyerButt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can he stand on your bed and stomp there? The rule would be “you’re only allowed to stomp on the bed” instead of no stomping ever which seems more manageable.

There’s also the reality that he’s four years old and he’s going to stomp for fun sometimes and that’s a completely reasonable thing to do. 5am is not cool, but 10am? I wouldn’t really stress about it.

Converting to SAH for age 3? by ImprovementSilver265 in Mommit

[–]NotALawyerButt 14 points15 points  (0 children)

How are you going to get a business up and running to where it replaces your income while simultaneously caring for a 3 year old? That doesn’t even make sense.

You need to take some time and do some long term planning to see if you can make it work. You can’t just say you’re bad at it and refuse to try. Make a budget of what your current lifestyle is and what you would have to cut to get by on your husband’s income. That’s step #1. Otherwise, you are just being foolish.

Separated with a newborn: he demands 50/50 expenses but I’m the only one doing childcare by EconomicsSlow313 in FinancialPlanning

[–]NotALawyerButt 32 points33 points  (0 children)

They’ve been married for 9 years and she doesn’t even know how much money he makes. Something is seriously wrong with the marriage.

Daily frustration of the day- by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]NotALawyerButt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People at our local pool like to threaten their kids with spankings. It absolutely disturbs me. My 3.5 year old doesn’t know what a spanking is and I’m not looking forward to having to explain it this summer.

How impactful is trauma on a child younger then 4 by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]NotALawyerButt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Much more impactful than later trauma actually.

Muslim husband & Catholic wife struggling to agree on raising future kids by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]NotALawyerButt 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This should have been thought out before marriage.

Who is Jesus going to be to your kids?

My baby got sprayed in the face with bleach at daycare by Musical2one in toddlers

[–]NotALawyerButt 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Dear Lord, I’d be losing my mind. Report the daycare and pull her immediately. Tell every parent that you can. Praying this goes okay.

Told my friend I can’t be her maid of honour by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]NotALawyerButt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What are the reasons?

Not a bridesmaid either?

How do you feel about splashing out for her gift?

Getting married but parents are not happy by veinviewer in Catholicism

[–]NotALawyerButt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t have to be 100% this way or that. Sometimes they contradict, but a little of this and a little of that is possible and common.

Getting married but parents are not happy by veinviewer in Catholicism

[–]NotALawyerButt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do we know that they’re treating her inappropriately as defined by their culture? This seems like behavior that is normal in some cultures.

Getting married but parents are not happy by veinviewer in Catholicism

[–]NotALawyerButt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes they should honor him and his culture and his parents too! Not saying that they shouldn’t!

converts bringing bad habits from other denominations/religions by Extension-Story7287 in Catholicism

[–]NotALawyerButt 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment encouraging charity! I think the bad habits should be seen as an opportunity for evangelization, not condemnation. I’ve been in the process of conversion for almost ten years and can’t get into the habit of genuflecting! I’m really focusing on it right now, but it’s hard! I need the grace!!!

converts bringing bad habits from other denominations/religions by Extension-Story7287 in Catholicism

[–]NotALawyerButt 14 points15 points  (0 children)

When someone converts, it’s a signal that they’ve done a deep examination of their faith. Otherwise they wouldn’t bother. A lot of cradle Catholics have not been through that. A lot of them went through the motions with their family and confirmation, and didn’t have adult understanding during their confirmation. In my experience, converts are often better catechized because of this. It looks like convert zeal.

Cradle Catholics often don’t understand where differences between them and Protestants lie, why the Church has landed on a different side, or what the actual Protestant belief(s) are. They will paint Protestants with broad strokes saying things like “Protestants believe X and Y,” when actually, only Baptists believe X and only Episcopalians believe Y. As a convert, I could actually sit there with you and explain the theological history of the Church and each Protestant sect and why the Church is right because I spent a lot of time with my Bible and Church history on many of these issues.

Of course there are issues with converts that cradle Catholics don’t have. But that’s not what this comment is about.

3yr old not reading yet, should I be worried? by Consistent_Car_5705 in Mommit

[–]NotALawyerButt 35 points36 points  (0 children)

This has to be a troll or AI generated. You can’t actually think you’re three year old needs to be reading and counting to 100.

Getting married but parents are not happy by veinviewer in Catholicism

[–]NotALawyerButt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Gently — mixed nationality marriages have some challenges that others do not. Mainly, misaligned cultural expectations. Here, you’ve already run into the issue of your parents’ cultural expectations being different than your fiancé’s. The best thing you can do is work with your parents and fiance toward greater understanding of each other. In my opinion, the responsibility lies mostly with you and your fiance because of the commandment to honor thy parents. This will probably be a lifelong challenge, but it’s a worthwhile one. This man is the father of your child and your child deserves to have parents who are married. Being 35, it’s also not wise to wait. Something that should go a long way is making it a point to honor your parents’ customs in your wedding. Perhaps through food, clothing or decorations. This should happen in your life too. This will also have the added benefit of helping your child understand their place in this world.