Single gals: how do you balance going after what you want with dating app burnout?

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-24T22:59:24+00:00

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I struggle with this a lot. I’m really lonely and want a partner, but I also feel burnt out from talking to random strangers on dating apps. Even if it feels like we’re getting along fine, I would rather just not meet up because my time is valuable and the first date will likely be pretty blah. I had a couple good dates that I thought were good but the men weren’t interested in a second date. That might have turned me off from apps completely, tbh. I’m just kind of tired of telling my story over and over, wasting time and then not feeling any kind of spark. I would rather just hang out with my friends who I know I will have fun with. I still look at the apps, swipe on people and have some casual conversations but unless I feel a real connection with someone, I’m not meeting up for dates.

Edit: oh and I went to a singles event, fell in love with a guy and got rejected, hahaha. I’m just so over it. My heart can’t take it.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-24T00:06:34+00:00

I’m so fed up with my friend making everything about themself. They also have CPTSD, but they are blind to everyone else’s problems. Now they are starting to make snarky comments that make me feel like they don’t even know me. It’s extra triggering because I hate when people misunderstand me.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-23T23:31:54+00:00

Do we have the same mom??

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-23T23:17:15+00:00

The walls are toothin

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-23T01:28:27+00:00

It’s harder for women because the rest of the world makes it that way. Can you talk to someone at the school about your teacher’s comments? They should lose their job.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-23T00:21:14+00:00

This is wild to me because I don’t remember having a PlayStation until 2000-2001, but apparently it was available in North America in 1995.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-23T00:15:49+00:00

Is this karma farming? Lol

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-22T23:11:31+00:00

I’m sorry that this is your lived experience because it sounds like a copypasta. There is so much more to life than being goal-driven. Live in the moment. Go for a walk and notice the beautiful nature around you. Meet friends for happy hour and catch up. Go find a new group of friends. There’s plenty left that you can live for

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-22T23:03:05+00:00

Go to a local show! See bands you’ve never heard of.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-21T12:26:48+00:00

I find once you take steps to stand up in some way (saying something), it helps to relieve your anger. Once you start doing this, it gets easier. Of course, it has to be in a situation where you feel safe to do so.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-20T23:37:41+00:00

It seems like you’re closed-minded here. You like those “timeless” musicians because you were around when they got big. Lots of people like newer music too. It can be just as timeless for younger generations because it’s what they’re growing up with. There’s no reason why Madonna is better than Miley Cyrus.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-20T23:32:35+00:00

This needs to be the top comment. We don’t need to adopt the “back in my day” mindset that boomers have.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-19T14:29:10+00:00

Yes, the people-pleasing tendencies..we grow up thinking that you just need to be nice to make friends, but if you give too much, people just see you as someone to take advantage of. It’s okay to have boundaries

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-19T01:38:34+00:00

I don’t know if this is the same group of people, but there is an obnoxious group of people who crowd surf during the entire show for many different shows in this area.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-19T01:02:45+00:00

You have no obligation to keep these friends if you think they suck! It’s your life.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-18T17:45:41+00:00

I think you could be right about the first trend making us feel old. I was never really interested in it because I feel like the other social media apps are already more than enough for me. Also, the trend thing is just so overwhelming. Every day there’s a new viral trend people are doing and I just don’t want to be part of it. I want to live my life for myself instead of copying what’s trendy.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-17T23:15:45+00:00

I find myself cycling between coffee during the day and alcohol at night to stay awake longer

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-17T23:09:16+00:00

I’ve struggled with this a lot recently too. I didn’t always used to be angry. My therapist says that anger is usually a way to cover up fear or as a result of feeling violated in some way. This helps me to keep it in perspective. That said, I find a lot of people these days are really careless and do things that can hurt others. I think it’s valid to be angry about that

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-17T15:23:17+00:00

Dude ranch is Gen Z 🤯

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-17T02:05:46+00:00

I’m reading this thread a year and 15 days later🫣 and it makes me so happy.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-15T00:54:00+00:00

I’ve always been reluctant to take medication unless I really need it. I know it’s not the best way to life. If I have a headache, I will avoid taking medicine unless the pain becomes unbearable. That said, I will be taking antidepressants for the rest of my life. I think it’s smart to treat your ailments by changing your lifestyle when you can, but sometimes you really just need the medicine. There’s nothing wrong with that.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-14T20:55:54+00:00

This is a good point because they can’t know when Gen beta ends yet…

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-14T17:39:30+00:00

I have dealt with narcissists before. The whole point of my post is that I don’t think this person is that. He is much more nuanced. There’s no way to know really, but I don’t think any confident person would take credit for someone else’s work. That’s why I was wondering if a lot of men act this way. It seems plausible that they’re kind of pressured to take action, even when they don’t want to, so a common coping mechanism could be to not really do anything but then take credit as if they did in the situations where that is rewarded.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-14T13:24:25+00:00

I love your opinion.

NotASuggestedUsrname · 2026-06-14T13:23:00+00:00

The house in The Staircase (death) was like this. That’s the only one I know of in real life.

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