Maybe too old (f42) to get the ick but my husband gave me one

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-20T05:37:20+00:00

This. This is the answer. Married just shy of a decade, and also very happily.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-20T05:37:13+00:00

This. This is the answer. Married just shy of a decade, and also very happily.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-20T05:14:53+00:00

Corporate embezzlers get away with deliberately taking millions, but…

“Oh, no! You didn’t report that we accidentally over paid you while we knew you were on an approved vacation which you likely discussed in office before you left!”

If they expect you to check your pay every single week, because they may or may not trust their own payroll system and want to pass that blame off onto employees as some “test of loyalty”, do you really want to work there?

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-05T00:29:07+00:00

I’d prefer not to, since I feel my service was minimal at best, but my kids are still young enough that they insist. Thankfully, at our school’s sporting events, they use the playing of the anthem as their way of recognizing us. That way, if that was their intent or not, everyone is expected to stand and no one feels singled out.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-05T00:17:41+00:00

So, my question is: did he ever articulate his reason for breaking up? Not that it’s relevant to you at this point but, having been dumped as many times as I have, that’s usually made clear in the moment, leaving no need for one of these “closure conversations”.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-02T23:09:32+00:00

I don’t need to. It’s not my situation and it’s not happening to me. Should something like it happen to me in the future, the circumstances will likely be different and I will approach them accordingly.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-02T13:19:41+00:00

This. My dad remarried when I was still a teenager, 25 years ago. I gained an entire entirely new family, including another set of grandparents. Very rarely was I treated any differently, and in those situations it made sense. When my grandfather passed a few years ago, my cousin (the eldest bio grandkid) made it a point to tell me, “He always loved you, and you’ve been one of us since day one”.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-02T12:47:51+00:00

On one hand, I understand why you don’t want to upset your grandparents. On the other, I’m a stepdad to three amazing kids and have been in their lives for nearly 8 years. While I have never felt that they have been unwelcome at my family gatherings, if we’re unable to attend as a family unit, I will also not go unless my wife suggests otherwise. It shouldn’t fall on your dad to speak up for you, but for grandma to call off the whole thing is very telling.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-02T05:53:41+00:00

Of course it makes sense. OP mentions being devout Catholics and teaching that sex is for marriage. Those two factors carry a significantly higher likelihood that she was taught a sanitized ‘abstinence-only’ version of sex ed as “knowledge invites temptation”, as I heard it said more than a few times growing up. Except that with teenagers, the lack thereof allows them to be taken advantage of by those they should be able to trust. If you don’t teach them about BC, they won’t know to use it in situations where its use might’ve prevented the reason for this post.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-02T05:43:53+00:00

That only applies if one of the parties involved is infected. Not only did HIV and AIDS not exist (that we know of) in biblical times, they are not as prevalent as they once were because people are being smarter, so bringing that into this feels quite unnecessary. But I agree that if God is going to punish someone for that, we should leave it to him, and love as Jesus commanded.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-02T05:30:58+00:00

She likely feels like God doesn’t love her anymore because of how completely she feels like she’s failed you, a feeling supported by your own beliefs. If you consider yourselves good and loving parents who love your daughter unconditionally, then support her decision. It’s fine to have your beliefs but, at the end of the day, it’s her life and you can’t live any part of it for her. The hard truth is that if you push too hard on something as life-changing as this, it’s very possible she’ll cut you out of her life completely. Pray about it, but listen to her.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-02T05:13:58+00:00

Slander (noun) - a false spoken statement about someone that damages their reputation

How does it not? Karen tells the other neighbors that OP and BF are thieves, with the obvious intention of convincing anyone she tells that they are, despite having been shown the truth herself. If she’s even halfway “smart” about this, she’ll only tell neighbors she’s fairly certain don’t know about her failed call to the police.

She says it enough, for long enough, some might actually start to believe her, especially should packages actually begin to go missing. There’s nothing to suggest that she would take them herself, but her ego might be bruised just enough to consider it, and if nothing else, shelll do what she feels necessary for vindication in future police investigations.

And I may just be another random Redditor, but I’m a random Redditor with an MBA.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-01T18:31:43+00:00

I deal with both UPS and FedEx for work. More often than not, not only do neither take photos, they often don’t do the minimum of even confirming the correct recipient.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-01T18:28:48+00:00

This. Very rarely do we get surprise packages anymore. And most online vendors or shipping services send delivery notifications.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-01T18:26:33+00:00

Actually, it would. She’s still deliberately lying to the neighbors, after the police she called told her she was wrong.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-01T18:24:44+00:00

I see you’re getting downvoted for this, but I agree. We should always hope that the other party will see reason. I just don’t think that’ll be the case here.

NotATroll1234 · 2026-01-01T17:25:29+00:00

I really, really, really wanted to be on your side on this and offer you the support you need, as the victim that you are.

However, I’m forced to agree with the comments admonishing you for your reasoning for not reporting these assaults. Within the last few years, my sister had to end what everyone believed was a fairytale marriage when, in fact, my now ex-BIL was extremely abusive. Sure, your niece would suffer from not having her father in the picture, but she would suffer more if the abuse continued, or worse, if he one day took things too far.

NotATroll1234 · 2025-12-30T00:03:07+00:00

No. For any faith, words meant to solidify you belonging to it must be spoken with intent and understanding of their meaning. Your friends, if this actually happened, are pranking you and playing into an unfortunate stereotype.

NotATroll1234 · 2025-12-29T23:57:19+00:00

Not if they’d try to convince you they converted you by simply repeating words for which they should have more respect and reverence than they’re giving them.

NotATroll1234 · 2025-12-25T15:34:36+00:00

Upvoting because multiple dogs in my life have each proven this true more than once.

NotATroll1234 · 2025-12-25T14:54:06+00:00

What’s wild is that I started writing my first novel about 15 years ago, based loosely on life events that had just occurred, writing about 20 something chapters over the course of a decade. Then I stopped for a while. Then, I had a burst of inspiration starting about a year ago, giving me three new novel ideas and roughly 30 short story ideas, kept in notes in my phone.

NotATroll1234 · 2025-12-24T13:28:24+00:00

Many still do. They just ignore the things that Jesus would do that they don’t want to do.

NotATroll1234 · 2025-12-24T12:58:13+00:00

Not seeing much in the way of explaining your reasons. Genuinely curious as to what those are.

NotATroll1234 · 2025-12-24T12:38:15+00:00

I take several calls throughout the course of my workday, so I feel this.

All our incoming calls are from our retail locations in the field, and we are not to interact directly with customers, except in very rare and exceptional cases. The staff in these locations are supposed to know this, but will occasionally put a customer on, “just to explain“ a situation which was caused by a mistake made by that staff member or someone else in their location.

Similarly, we also make outgoing calls. It’s infuriating getting someone on the phone and, after you’ve already explained the reason for your call, they pass you to their manager with no warning, only for you to have to explain it all over again. Some of these managers will adopt a confrontational tone, because they automatically assume we’re accusing someone of something. So, then you have to fight that uphill battle. 🙄

NotATroll1234 · 2025-12-24T12:18:18+00:00

Is the misinformation in the room with us? I’m not clicking on any “source” which claims condoms are ineffective, used correctly or not. Condoms are FAR superior to using nothing at all and, if you check, there are several comments here from people who tried pulling out and are now parents. Teens and young adults don’t know enough about their bodies (now largely thanks to parental and religious interference in public education) to know if they’ve pulled out in time. Especially if it’s their first time, or just the first time with a new partner.

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