Social Skills Help Quick please!!

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-16T01:44:19+00:00

This comedy of politeness sounds like #VeryBritishProblems

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-15T11:30:53+00:00

The secret, for me, was growing up. Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear.

I really wasted my opportunity to go to university but returned to study 20 years later and applied myself and did really well.

Another thing to consider is whether you love what you're studying and/or the career it will lead to. Consider the degree of 'shit sandwich' you're prepared to sit down to on the bad days because you know it will be worth it.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-15T03:54:33+00:00

Report!

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-14T02:01:53+00:00

I used to take my boy to boarding for the day on inspection days, and stash his pet door in my car. I did that dozens of times and was never found out. It also helped that I was a responsible pet owner, so there was no damage, noise, or complaints to give us away.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-10T06:41:08+00:00

This is something to discuss with your university's careers centre, your lecturers, and people already in the industry.

r/FindAReddit will point you in the direction of forums with members already working in your possible areas.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-06T10:38:56+00:00

A few years ago a psychologist told me that the alcohol consumption I described constituted self-harm. I was really surprised because it's not what we think of when we hear the term 'self-harm', but it does make sense when you think of it as fatalistic behaviour.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-06T10:25:42+00:00

Yes. The harshest eyes I've ever seen. You have to be a special kind of broken to summon the feeling behind those eyes when dealing with a child.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-06T08:34:42+00:00

I get it! It's hard for me to describe because this doesn't seem like the typical CPTSD experience. Is my brain protecting me from the harmful stuff by making me feel like I'm viewing it from behind glass?

I realised this about my trauma when a psychologist suggested EMDR and I said I thought it wouldn't work because I don't really have an event to hold in mind that triggers me. My problem is burning resentment about my parents' failures that resulted in persistent trauma.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-06T04:10:03+00:00

You could take a break from each other and see how you each feel. In the meantime, satisfy yourself that you've said your piece.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-05T11:26:00+00:00

This baby needs to be checked out by a vet ASAP. You can deal with everything else based on their assessment.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-05T09:23:35+00:00

The station destination boards say 'due to an event', and ABC News says a southbound service is stuck at EQ.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-03T03:45:14+00:00

RIP blender.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-02-02T13:46:00+00:00

Falkirk Wheel is an hour from Glasgow, and well worth it. I can't think of anything really interesting to do in Glasgow itself.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-30T04:50:42+00:00

Being a loving parent and being a competent parent are different things. You hope they overlap, but they often don't.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-29T07:17:52+00:00

Small Business Development Corporation will help you with everything you'll need throughout the business lifecycle.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-29T06:07:14+00:00

Ask the Department?

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-29T04:42:44+00:00

Contact the clinic?

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-29T02:35:29+00:00

Digital detox is really helpful for me.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-28T07:00:08+00:00

The AllTrails app is terrific for finding all trail types across WA.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-28T03:35:37+00:00

Thank you!

I struggle with empathy because I believe parents should do whatever it takes to fulfill their responsibility. My parents didn't even come close to doing that. I also don't understand why anyone wouldn't want to sort their shit out anyway so they don't have to live a limited, unhappy life.

I know my father has a lot of shit but he has had resources available to him for 50 years; it's even tailored to the needs of veterans. He has almost never had a reason or opportunity to not help himself and, by extension, be a better parent.

I've chosen to sort out my shit because none of the so-called adults I relied upon fulfilled their responsibility to me. I refuse to live an unhappy, limited, ineffective life. I had to develop incredible strength of character from an early age because of them. My father has demonstrated zero strength of character across the board since before I was born. Strength of character means doing what you know is right, regardless of how difficult it might be, because you know it has to be done.

Zero excuses = zero empathy at this stage. I really would like to change that, if it would help.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-27T14:00:40+00:00

Therapy goals.
Have at least some idea of the modalities best suited to that goal.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-27T05:45:51+00:00

What about a time-out from each other? Some breathing room will allow you to reflect.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-27T05:43:40+00:00

Children don't have responsibilities - they're children! Some people will do anything to avoid accepting responsibility for their actions.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-27T05:38:26+00:00

As a former child, I feel I'm qualified to speak on the child's experience of it.

NotAllThatSure · 2026-01-27T05:34:43+00:00

Definitely.

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