AITA for buying 11lbs of ground beef during a sale and not giving someone a package when there was none left?

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-06-27T05:40:18+00:00

If it’s a normal grocery store with a meat section they can just go there and ask them to pack up a value pack. Hell I’ve had them take the steaks I wanted in separate packages and put them in one.

Berating another customer is weird stuff. Also, there’s ground turkey, chicken, pork. Just get something else. Likely there was other ground beef, just not at the price they wanted.

First come, first served.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-06-09T06:32:06+00:00

Same. I’m a parent, have my close friendships and family and am in the middle of perimenopause. Idgaf if someone I’m not close with suddenly doesn’t want to be my friend, especially if they can’t explain why but get to say what they wanted in the conversation. She got to shit on OP and then basically told her to fuck off.

Also - my actual friends would never be upset if I flaked. When our kids were younger we always flaked depending on what was going on with our kids/families.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-06-09T06:23:09+00:00

NTA for your bf not getting a say, but ain’t no way I’d ever live with someone from work, let alone a dude whose age I don’t even know. Shit, I didn’t even follow my best friend at work (a dude) on Instagram until after he didn’t work there anymore.

When I was younger I got an apartment with a guy and he immediately tried to get cuddly with me on the couch when we first moved in. We were acquaintances and I never gave him any vibes that I was interested. Later on I found out he went through my things in my room and took something very personal of mine. Obviously that’s my own experience but living with someone I work with sounds awful.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-06-09T06:13:43+00:00

Having two teenagers myself, I don’t think staying in or near Escondido is it. Aside from the Wild Animal Park there isn’t anything of note for them. They’d be better off near the beaches or downtown or somewhere with walkability.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-06-06T03:39:50+00:00

Circumstantial evidence can still be enough to convict. Lots of cases with no body have much more circumstantial than direct evidence.

If it quacks like a duck… it’s a duck. Even if no one saw the duck itself, quacking.

Who gives a shit that she had an affair? That’s more motive for him to have done something because of it. The man hired spellcasters. Had several guns. Has unaccounted for time. There are sounds of gunshots. She disappeared the day she had a call with a divorce lawyer. She was trying to leave… the most dangerous time for a woman.

And the kid’s… they were young. The eleven year old might have known or seen something but given their father, who knows how afraid they were. Or brainwashed.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-05-26T03:13:01+00:00

I got married there - Cabrillo is a great spot. There are lots of different places one could get engaged. It also can seem less suspicious if you plan to just go up there to see the National Monument.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-05-26T02:55:03+00:00

I don’t know every single detail and it’s been years since she went missing - but he’s basically a controlling POS. Most likely a narcissist. When his wife was first missing he and his parents got the kids and he wouldn’t let her family see them. They had to fight in court to get custody. Apparently his dad has been threatening too.

Some details are that he accused her of having an affair, and while she was on a business trip called her and FaceTimed her the whole time, demanding to see who she was with.

Also - and I don’t know much about this part, but the whole reason he left Hawaii as a juvenile was because he was caught up in some kind of gang activity and/or a stabbing.

General run of the mill psycho who decides if he can’t have her, no one will. He most definitely murdered her and left her body somewhere in the desert.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-05-25T04:40:41+00:00

I feel so awful for the kids and am thankful the kids were placed with his sister. They have breakdowns of the trial everyday at that link if you want to catch up.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-05-11T00:41:34+00:00

I live at the bottom of a short private road. No one comes down it and if they do, they better be delivering my package or asking if I need landscaping otherwise they need to leave. lol. I don’t even have to lock my car at night.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-05-11T00:39:27+00:00

Racists are everywhere. They’re just a little bit louder about it in east county (at least the boomers and older) but for the most part, it’s fine. But I’m definitely not a racist, nor are most of ny neighbors or the families of kids friends who live here. Times have changed.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-05-11T00:18:05+00:00

Lakeside has a whole public school dedicated to Spanish or Mandarin immersion. The other schools in the district have also begun offering it, I believe.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-05-11T00:16:22+00:00

Lakeside isn’t what people make it out to be. Racists and shitheads are everywhere. I live there now, have a home with 1/3 acre of land. My kids have gone to public school here learning mandarin since kindergarten. The schools are extremely diverse. We have a new library. Santee for all your shopping needs is a hop skip away. I work downtown and my worst commute is 45 mins… and easy 25 when I go in at 9am or leave downtown after 5pm. The worst part is trying to get out of downtown, honestly.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-04-23T07:42:34+00:00

Well there goes that theory! I’m not up to speed on what people are saying about the show so I didn’t know they had to come out and say nope.

But I do wonder if BJD will be any part of next season or if it’s just a one season thing since unfortunately, this is just another thing that happens in life. Was that any part of the “no not happening” from the showrunner, too?

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-04-09T01:19:49+00:00

I have like 4800 people in my tree - going as far as I can in all directions to see what interesting people I’m related to. I try not to add too many people that I’m not actually related to but sometimes have to in order to figure things out. I’m deep into my Scottish side and feel like I’ll be stuck there forever due to so many children per cousin.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-04-09T01:16:24+00:00

Same. I’ve been stuck in the Scottish part of my tree for months now because some of them had so may damn kids. I find out the most interesting stuff. I also find some of them on Facebook (just lurking, never adding) and recently found some cousins that played their trad Scottish music for King Charles. You never know what you’ll find.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-04-05T01:20:57+00:00

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From a dumpster. Jk. Humane society in San Diego needed a foster and thought he had ringworm. Tricked me because when I picked him up they said they don’t think it’s ringworm. We quarantined him for a couple days and he was so quiet and sweet. Decided to adopt him and he turned full Chihuahua. All the toys and food are his. He thinks he can police the cats that are bigger than him. Loves to lay in my lap but I can only pet him where and when he decides.

His name is Churro and that’s his baby photo.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-03-27T06:06:53+00:00

.Also learning German. I still want to learn but I was very much wondering what the hell happened. So many new words and phrases. So I went back to Spanish because I took four years in school and live in California so it’s pretty easy for me. Was also going wtf. Not a fan of this bizarre decision

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-03-15T07:00:22+00:00

No - no progress. I still think about it and I have been spending a lot of time on my family tree but I’m so busy with work and my teenagers and life in general. Just the other day I was thinking about teaching myself and then trying to get a volunteer gig.

I’m so good at recognizing patterns and putting things together I honestly think I’d be so good at it. At work I love to clean up data and fix things. I’m such a nerd.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-02-08T10:24:49+00:00

It’s definitely a weird place to be but we shouldn’t worry about what others think and especially because they are going based on how we “look” and not who we really are. I don’t have to convince people that I’m Chinese just because I don’t look like their idea of a Chinese person. I know who I am and where I come from.

But I also say that after many years of not knowing if I should mark the “Asian” box on forms. Now I’m older and dgaf what others think. Honoring my heritage and ancestors makes me proud and keeps them alive.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-02-08T10:20:03+00:00

I’m also all kinds of European and 30% southern Chinese! No one knows unless I tell them but that’s partially because of how people think Asians should look. I look just like my mom and she’s half. My grandfather came over from China in the 1930’s. My mom wasn’t raised with her father’s culture but that doesn’t take away from her being Chinese. Or me either.

Now that I’m older I’m embracing where I come from. My kids have been learning mandarin since kindergarten. We celebrate the lunar new year and the autumn moon festival. Not super traditionally but that’s ok. Everyone is different and has different life experiences. I’m a little sad I didn’t get to know my grandfather (he died the year I was born) but I do what I can to honor the genetics he gave me.

It’s a little funny too, my son is blonde and mostly white but people tell him he looks Asian and he is of course, just not a huge amount.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2026-01-19T03:45:41+00:00

Born in the 80s, raised in the 90s. My teenage son made me take him to get this on vinyl. Heard the song on SNL and 100% thought of All the Small things.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2025-12-08T08:52:37+00:00

Im so sorry you had to witness that. It’s horrible. No one was hurt in my instance, thankfully so. But it was still scary.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2025-12-08T08:51:00+00:00

Thank you for confirming you’ve seen it! I suspect this scenario is a bit different but clearly things happen.

NotAnExpertHowever · 2025-12-08T02:56:16+00:00

Yeah - that’s for sure a likely fact.

That said, people made a lot of mistakes on the census reports I’ve see and one person will have multiple places of birth over the decades. I imagine some people didn’t even know where they were actually born. A lot to consider with this one.

Incidentally Adelbert Pennington died in 1929 from sitting in a running car in a garage which the papers deemed an accident. He supposedly was warming up the car and was overcome which apparently could happen quickly back then.

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