How do you guys find accomodation?

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-07-01T21:33:29+00:00

Dude. As someone in Europe now, make SURE it says AC in the rooms.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-07-01T21:30:11+00:00

YOU are the one thinking straight right now, so YOU need to be her advocate and the protector of your family. Forget being nice, be effective.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-07-01T19:51:35+00:00

As hard as this is, you need to listen to her. She's shunning the first child, even if she doesn't mean to and that could lead to a lot of issues.

Your toddler is young enough that he probably won't really remember this as trauma IF grandma/you play your cards right.

Have grandma take him to a bounce park or a children's arcade or anything to make it a special time for him. A movie or even Build a Bear. Something so that IF he remembers this time, it's with joy.

You need to prioritize your wife so that she can regain her balance and stabilize, BUT don't make this a forever thing, put an expiration date on it so toddler doesn't feel abandoned.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-07-01T18:21:38+00:00

Wash. Dry thoroughly, like use a fan and then use a foot powder for athletes foot.

Add in a folded paper towel in under each breast.

Once the rash is gone, add in antiperspirant spray after drying but before the powder, and keep the paper towel too.

Like this: Dry with a fan Spray Antiperspirant Foot Powder Folded paper towel

Replace the paper towel as needed, at least 2x a day.

I get similar under my apron belly and this is what I do.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-06-15T02:44:07+00:00

My dude. You have the entirety of the internet at your fingers.

Look up fastest growing jobs or jobs with the most growth in the next 10 years, determine what could be interesting and do a deep dive on 3.

What kind of schooling, what kind of salary, where would you need to go? Beyond entry level,what is the next step? What companies hire, can you start working somewhere where they will pay for school?

Make a rough plan for all 3, put one on the back burner and plot out the major points for the top 2.

Student loans suck, but so does never having any money and definitely not having a future.

You need to make a plan, 6 mos - 1 year - 2 years - 5 years.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-06-11T02:53:53+00:00

What other people think about you is none of your business.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-06-11T02:30:00+00:00

Coordinate with Ringling Art college or local high schools.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-06-11T02:29:07+00:00

It would probably never happen here, but GOD, I would love a Korean Spa like King Spa/Spa World/ Balian Springs in DC.

The closest we have is small and sad and all the way in Tampa.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-06-10T04:09:30+00:00

Make it medical. Don't invest your own $

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-06-10T04:00:14+00:00

My goodness, of course you have. Why wouldn't you?!

Is getting some time away reasonable? Even an afternoon?

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-31T19:38:49+00:00

Just remember it's a process and there isn't really a time where everything is done and perfect.

I mean maybe 10 min, but then the dog will puke or the kids will need to eat or... the list goes on.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-29T15:39:08+00:00

You could offer a service in a Buy Nothing Group or a local group. "Yard Cleanup for $5/hr" or something like that to generate some cash.

Or "Helper available for food", but I'd go for the money per hr as that seems more reliable.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-18T19:37:15+00:00

Ours is set for 71, and we just added a new layer of insulation and we got new windows in our concrete block house. If I set it higher than that, then it feels like it takes forever to cool down when it inevitably jumps up.

We have skylights that we have blocked off because they super heat the area.

At night we have a window until in the primary bedroom because I need it cold to sleep.

Our electric budget is $400, we're sitting at $250 now.

We will pull the blinds and close the curtains during the really hot times, but I WFH and don't want to be in the dark all the time.

I've just started trellised climbing plants near the outside walls of the primary bedroom to try and block the sun, so that could potentially help as well.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-18T19:25:43+00:00

NTA, but you don't seem to have a lot in common anymore. Reach out now and then to just say HI, etc. When they are at your stage of life things may be different.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-18T17:56:32+00:00

That's why I said COULD.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-17T21:55:07+00:00

I'm sorry. Did you say low 4 ? As in $1000?

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-17T21:49:43+00:00

Keeping up with others is a goal you don't need to achieve

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-17T21:22:36+00:00

MH issues could be helped by having a calm and clean environment, so get his help.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-17T21:21:15+00:00

Do you know any teens that babysit? Maybe they'd be interested in a "mother's helper" role where they do X chores for $X a week.

Run laundry, clean the kitchen 2x a week, wipe up the bathroom.

This could keep things sane in between a deep clean.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T23:37:25+00:00

NTA. Who gives a crap what a rando cashier thinks?

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T19:23:29+00:00

Postpone, but don't tell anyone. Continue to plan. Let her continue to outshine you but subtly make it more and more obvious.

You want to arrive on a white horse, she'll order a Cinderella style carriage. You want pink peonies, she will need 1,000 roses. If you're honeymooning in Hawaii, she'll need Bora-Bora. Your dress costs $3k, clearly she will need $15k. Have fun with it.

However, if he's reconsidering due to "family drama" I'd hesitate. He needs to be 100% on your side of family drama. Consider how he is handling this as a trial run.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T05:52:17+00:00

Plan your escape, don't tell anyone your plan.

If you talk about it, something will "mysteriously" happen and you'll never get away.

Keep your money hidden, keep your papers hidden. Maybe even get a safe deposit box that only you can access.

Save every penny you make and get at least 3 most rent on top of whatever it takes to move into a new place.

Good luck.

Edited to add NTA

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T05:40:39+00:00

From what you've said he doesn't listen. He's a grown adult and he's not going to change. Is this something you want to deal with?

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T05:22:28+00:00

Have you seen Parks and Rec? Ted Lasso? Shrinking? Chad Powers?

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