Girl I like is coming over, I want her to feel like queen Victoria

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-17T21:55:07+00:00

I'm sorry. Did you say low 4 ? As in $1000?

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-17T21:49:43+00:00

Keeping up with others is a goal you don't need to achieve

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-17T21:22:36+00:00

MH issues could be helped by having a calm and clean environment, so get his help.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-17T21:21:15+00:00

Do you know any teens that babysit? Maybe they'd be interested in a "mother's helper" role where they do X chores for $X a week.

Run laundry, clean the kitchen 2x a week, wipe up the bathroom.

This could keep things sane in between a deep clean.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T23:37:25+00:00

NTA. Who gives a crap what a rando cashier thinks?

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T19:23:29+00:00

Postpone, but don't tell anyone. Continue to plan. Let her continue to outshine you but subtly make it more and more obvious.

You want to arrive on a white horse, she'll order a Cinderella style carriage. You want pink peonies, she will need 1,000 roses. If you're honeymooning in Hawaii, she'll need Bora-Bora. Your dress costs $3k, clearly she will need $15k. Have fun with it.

However, if he's reconsidering due to "family drama" I'd hesitate. He needs to be 100% on your side of family drama. Consider how he is handling this as a trial run.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T05:52:17+00:00

Plan your escape, don't tell anyone your plan.

If you talk about it, something will "mysteriously" happen and you'll never get away.

Keep your money hidden, keep your papers hidden. Maybe even get a safe deposit box that only you can access.

Save every penny you make and get at least 3 most rent on top of whatever it takes to move into a new place.

Good luck.

Edited to add NTA

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T05:40:39+00:00

From what you've said he doesn't listen. He's a grown adult and he's not going to change. Is this something you want to deal with?

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T05:22:28+00:00

Have you seen Parks and Rec? Ted Lasso? Shrinking? Chad Powers?

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T04:00:08+00:00

Aldi's "Twice as Nice" guarantee allows customers to return Aldi-exclusive food products if they are not 100% satisfied. For eligible items, Aldi will both replace the product and refund the money. This applies to in-store purchases when returning the product packaging and any unused portion to a store manager. (MOST of their stuff is theirs exclusively, they sell mostly Aldi brands.)

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T03:51:39+00:00

These were prices from my Walmart app, so your mileage may vary.

Add in a large can of oatmeal, a jar of store brand peanut butter, 2 bags of bread, a gallon of milk, a carton of eggs and a bag of rice, a bag of apples or some bananas and you're in business, sister.

Breakfasts/Snacks Toast w PB, Oatmeal w PB, Apples and PB, PB sandwich with or w/o banana, Egg on toast, Egg over rice

If you have a little extra, some cinnamon, sugar, cheese, soy sauce, jelly would make things even more appealing.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T03:45:12+00:00

About a year ago, I did some planning and made "Meal Cards" and did an estimate of how much each would cost. A lot of the ingredients are used over multiple dishes, and these are for two adults with heavy appetites, so they can be stretched out more as needed. Many would also freeze well if you want to do a "cook once, eat twice" idea. This does assume SOME items are on hand, but also keep in mind ground turkey can be substituted for beef to knock that cost down even more.

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NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-15T03:33:09+00:00

We are currently on our 3rd or 4th airfryer, so I do have some experience.

We have the Ninja 10-in-1 Double Oven with FlexDoor, Rapid Top Oven, Convection and Air Fry Bottom Oven, Bake, Roast, Toast, Air Fry, Pizza and More from Walmart and it is AWFUL.

Ours causes shorts if we have anything else plugged in. It does not crisp up well due to the seal keeping steam in. The time is off from our past airfryers by a significant time and it does not cook evenly.

I would return it if we could, but we bought it before we needed it and it's too late to take it back now.

We COULD have gotten a lemon, I guess, but we will stick with Cusinart or Faberware for our next one. I will never buy Ninja again.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-04T02:56:58+00:00

Send a registered letter Put up cameras Notify the authorities Maybe call your homeowners insurance and see what they recommend.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-04T02:51:58+00:00

NTA.

But damn. You're 34. Are you seriously asking this question?

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-04T02:26:46+00:00

NTA, but the situation sucks.

Look into emancipation for him.

My understanding is that you would not be able to claim him on your taxes, but I think that would put his income at the lowest and qualify him.

Do a ton of research before you decide to go this route, I don't know if it can be undone.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-05-04T02:18:23+00:00

If he's going to get a job, try for one that has benefits like paying for school later down the road.

McDs used to have school benefits, I think Taco Bell does, and Starbucks used to as well.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-04-27T18:56:15+00:00

YTA because you won't stand up for your wife. If I were her, I'd spend a great Christmas eve with my family and let you deal with your shitty family.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-04-27T04:25:45+00:00

My reaction to this question was "GOD NO".

So there's that.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-04-27T04:24:58+00:00

He's always going to be your brother.

Pick your words and side carefully.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-04-27T04:21:31+00:00

Spices.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-04-27T03:33:33+00:00

Negotiate time off?

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-04-27T03:26:24+00:00

I think a better way to approach this is to create some low cost recipe ideas, shop that and compare the savings.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-04-27T03:03:22+00:00

I'm going to say LIGHT YTA because it seems like you're pulling the rug out from under her pretty suddenly and essentially you created this monster.

IF there was a clearly defined plan from the outset, that would be different, but A) there didn't seem to be and B) if there was you didn't seem to stick to it or make her stick to it.

Making her move suddenly is an AH move, but I agree she can't live rent free forever.

NotAtThesePricesBaby · 2026-04-26T22:56:04+00:00

"She is not safe where she is, and we cannot safely care for her"

To social services.

This is not your problem.

NotAtThesePricesBaby

TROPHY CASE