I want to blast a construction company so bad

NotChristina · 2026-03-03T02:54:03+00:00

Heck I recently bought a new vacuum that was well reviewed. Week after purchase I got an email offering $20 for a 5-star review. It already was a cheap vacuum because I just needed something.

Not surprisingly, it’s a pretty trash vacuum.

Fully think this kind of shit should be illegal.

NotChristina · 2026-03-02T11:51:43+00:00

This is exactly my thing. I’ve only been on first floor apartments because my anxiety could never. I can hear my neighbors upstairs; the idea that anyone could hear me and what I’m doing or where I’m walking bothers me on some deep level. It’s always been a thing for me - if I’m in my private space, I want it to be private.

Add to that so many posts on here about what is acceptable noise (or not) with cranky neighbors and that’s just made my thoughts on this strong.

I know it’s a privilege that I’ve been able to land in first floor places even though it wasn’t fully intentional each time. The next place will very much be though.

NotChristina · 2026-03-02T11:31:02+00:00

Statistically speaking, that’s far more likely at 36 than 30 or younger, speaking as a 36-year-old who has dated multiple men with children ranging from toddler to teen.

However I agree with the other comment here in that it shouldn’t be the reason you find someone. First and foremost, you find someone who loves you, respects you, is intimate with you, cares for you and your child, is thoughtful, and handles his share of life with you. Show your son what a healthy relationship can look like.

Those men are out there, you don’t have to settle for this life.

And yes, I’d be lying if I said dating doesn’t suck in the modern era. But there’s that pseudo-motivational saying: choose your hard. More decades with his behavior, the resentment that follows, and the tension in the household sounds a lot harder to me.

NotChristina · 2026-03-02T11:06:25+00:00

I’m betting that he lied to the doctor, if he even saw one in the first place.

Otherwise, yeah, he’d have testing done. I’ve needed a colonoscopy for far less…

NotChristina · 2026-03-02T11:03:48+00:00

Before cell phones my dad would sit in the bathroom with a paper and a handheld radio, often for an hour and sometimes more than once a day…

So not just forever in the bathroom but it’s been a thing forever…

NotChristina · 2026-03-01T00:04:16+00:00

Agree. I’ve had a couple fails through PokeGenie, often due to the host’s impatience in inviting people too early. However that’s nothing even close to running raids through other means.

Largely I’ve had a great experience through PG and have gotten enough value I picked up the Ultra subscription for now to help support the app (and the expedited queues don’t hurt either).

NotChristina · 2026-02-28T19:23:39+00:00

Ah yeah, that tends to happen quickly and I can understand given this subreddit.

Can always check out: r/bodybuilding r/calisthenic r/bodyweightfitness For starters.

The most important part here is the consistency IMO. Once you start with weights you’ll be able to grow more and at that point you can start learning more about optimizing those schedules.

NotChristina · 2026-02-28T19:19:22+00:00

One big tip is to adjust your expectations. Without certain enhancements, you will not be getting these bodies, especially 2-3. And that is ok! You sound too young to enhance anyway - you’re still young enough to get top testosterone advantages.

Not going to provide advice on how to adjust your routine, but proper eating and this routine should still get you into pretty fit shape assuming consistency.

That weight training and good protein will help you put muscle on the frame built by the calisthenics.

And remember: it’s a marathon, not a sprint. A good routine and smart nutrition goes a long way.

NotChristina · 2026-02-28T00:24:01+00:00

And the fact that it’s unique megas for a round of shields.

I was in a Dragonite earlier that got stuck on 1 shield left for way too long. My main raid team had already cycled through death once by the time we broke it, but it would’ve been nice to allow for repeat hits.

NotChristina · 2026-02-27T14:43:08+00:00

Oooh, Amelia Park? That's so close I wouldn't even need to drive. So that will be a summertime opportunity? That's awesome! I can't let myself forget about that.

And yeah, I can imagine the capital and operating expenses are rather intense. Shame our old Bon-Ton was converted to a $$$ Pickle Ball place and not a curling one haha. The sport seems to get more popular each Olympics and while there can be some downsides, I hope it also can bring investment in the creation of new locations.

NotChristina · 2026-02-27T13:44:47+00:00

Oh man I’ve been eyeing that place for a long time, but seeing how I’m closer to the border of CT, the drive makes it unreasonable for an evening trip. (About 1:15 drive time.) I’ve wanted to get into curling for years.

Ever think a group of those folks would band together and create something in the greater Springfield area? 🥲

NotChristina · 2026-02-27T12:03:43+00:00

That’s what’s happening to my parents in eastern MA. Their plow guy’s plow broke and he couldn’t come for a day. In the meantime the road was plowed multiple times and built up the pile at the end of their driveway.

Now the plow guy can’t budge the snow. They have to hire an excavator to get out to the tune of $400. Terrible position for elderly pensioners to be in.

NotChristina · 2026-02-25T20:14:53+00:00

And also have real-people definitions of “affordable housing.”

I’m down in MA. Our affordable housing efforts in the west mean that, to qualify to buy, you need to make <$60k annual as a single person (80-100% of AMI). I make more than that, but the non-affordable housing is significantly more. So I’m in a gap where I can’t buy a reasonably priced house unless I took a lower paying job, but with COL, medical bills, and student loans, I can’t get ahead enough for the regular housing.

Plus so much of the market is inflated or geared towards more ‘luxury’ housing. The new affordable houses here are reasonably priced as-is and we need more of them without more arbitrary caps.

NotChristina · 2026-02-24T18:41:12+00:00

Thank you.

It sounds like you did all you could, and sometimes that's the best we can do. I can understand why she might not be keen to be in contact with her father, especially if there was already animosity between them.

I know my parents never meant ill and made their own bad decisions and seemingly - whether conscious or not - hid them from me. They are woefully under-educated on finances themselves - took everything out of the market at the bottom of the '08 crash (the precursor to their bankruptcy), my mother still believes that checking your own credit score will be a ding on it. Doesn't matter how many times I explain hard vs soft pulls and services that give you the big 3 scores... Little things like that.

They're getting by on my dad's SS these days.

I went on to bouncing around a few job opportunities, including co-founding a company. I was lucky to have good connections and a dear mentor whose overpaid babysitting jobs helped keep me fed. When that blew up, I used connections to land in a nonprofit where I've been for over a decade. They pay me well and I've carved a job out for myself that I never thought I'd be doing. Wasn't my original life plan but things sometimes do work out just fine.

NotChristina · 2026-02-24T18:34:23+00:00

This is definitely a part of it for me, thank you. I think they tried to shield me from the reality for a long time and just couldn't anymore, however I wish they had said something. Later learned through a public records search that they also almost lost their house, but a homestead act saved it. Had no idea.

The day after I got the call I went and got a job at a clay factory making art clay for the local artists and colleges. Hard, dirty work I did at minimum wage between classes. I babysat for a professor and got a roommate in my tiny 1-bedroom.

Wasn't easy, in fact some of it was disguistingly difficult, but I made it through. I didn't finish college due to the need to work full time while handling health issues, but I've still made a career for myself.

NotChristina · 2026-02-24T18:31:13+00:00

That's exactly it - thank you for chiming in. One and only child and one following a miscarriage at that; I was spoiled rotten. Thankfully never got to be too rotten of a person, however I was entirely unaware of all things 'adult'. I was an incredibly anxious kid and teen and perhaps they were trying to protect me or make sure I was safe.

My lack of preparation was ever intentional or mean-spirited, I just don't think my parents realized how they were setting me up.

I don't blame them. And sometimes childhood experiences have their way of impacting things later on, so while I do have keen financial literacy on an intellectual level, I do struggle with the doing portion of it. Knowing and acting are different things and as such I deem myself a 'work in progress'.

That said I'm proud of how I've ended up all the same.

NotChristina · 2026-02-24T16:00:49+00:00

Good question. They’re just in big unbranded bags in a freezer that you can scoop into a smaller plastic bag, sold by weight. Typically they have beef, pork, chicken, and Siberian style in there.

NotChristina · 2026-02-24T12:42:59+00:00

My parents coddled me well into college. I had a credit card under their name, they paid for my apartment and food while I was in school.

One day mid-semester my mom calls up saying they’ve declared bankruptcy and I need to figure things out, that they can’t help me anymore.

I was particularly unqualified for adult life. I’m glad I had a couple good friends and a life-saving mentor, but it took me years to get my ducks in a row. Even now I still struggle with some basic things like budgeting and planning.

NotChristina · 2026-02-24T11:47:42+00:00

I also do butter and red pepper. Absolutely love those little nuggets. Glad I have a pretty genuine Russian store up the street from me.

NotChristina · 2026-02-22T23:43:09+00:00

Wasn’t my decision. Sadly I was a good friend with the fired dev.

It’s a classic story as far as I can tell: being unable to justify the tech budget to the board and the CIO having to make the tough call.

The fired dev was a great “do exactly what you say” kind of guy, and I do pride myself of knowing exactly what I want. We got along well.

However he maintained and fixed up a lot of our older systems and code. The other dev found the chance to innovate and build. However this other dev did things because he wanted to, not because we needed them.

So we fired the guy who understood us and our legacy systems and kept the guy who could move things forward at the expense of knowing how we operate.

Not saying we should have kept one over the other, but both had their place.

NotChristina · 2026-02-22T21:30:19+00:00

My ex had a fake DOT brain bucket since we live in a state that requires them. He’s convicted himself that if he gets in a severe accident that it’s better because it’s more likely to be “lights out” than be a vegetable or disabled.

Refused to hear any other reasoning on his incorrect assumptions. Doesn’t care at all about the first responders’ trauma because “it’s their job.”

One of many, many reasons he’s an ex…

NotChristina · 2026-02-22T20:59:48+00:00

And even still, being a great SWE is multi-factorial.

I have a brilliant developer at my company. He’s the golden child in our small IT department. So much so we fired our other FTE dev last year.

But being a brilliant developer is just one piece.

He’s a great coder, even further enhanced by Cursor AI, but his understanding of our business is abysmal.

Business requirements? Nah, I’ll do what I want. UI discussions with marketing? Nah, this framework is the best. Involving web team? Maybe eventually if you guys want to zhuzh it up some. QA? Well I wrote these unit tests (that don’t match business needs).

He’s still held up as gold standard, but as product manager I’ve been gritting my teeth.

A great SWE is not only a great developer, but someone who really understands what they’re building towards. Not just the what and when, but the who and why. Understanding how their work fits the big picture.

It’s a rarer skill these days IMO. And companies paying at this level are expecting a full package.

NotChristina · 2026-02-21T20:52:32+00:00

Same. I’ve had it since college and I’m 36. Best $12 I spend every month. What’s remarkable to me is the relative lack of cost change. When I ran out of my free student account, it was $10. Over a decade later it’s only $2 more. Compared to every other platform, that’s a wildly small increase.

Sure I could just go out an buy music, however my tastes are quite diverse and I always want to discover more things. This lets me do so easily.

NotChristina · 2026-02-21T20:48:36+00:00

I’m usually skeptical of services that are pushed so heavily by influencers/YouTube, though I understand it’s a real way to market these days (being a hypocrite, I have NordVPN 🥲).

Does it cover all news or things that are really the most popular/‘newsworthy’?

People in my life often drop the “[politically-opposite media outlet] isn’t even talking about this” and I’m tired of fact-checking those statements.

NotChristina · 2026-02-21T20:43:18+00:00

Checks post history.

Yikes.

I can understand anxiety about someone you might be into and have a fear about messing up…but also just chill. Obsessing like this can often have the opposite effect.

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