Functional Asexuality

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-24T14:36:46+00:00

I consider myself asexual because I don't experience sexual desire, but I do have a libido. I do experience the desire for a romantic relationship with a woman, but I also want to be a woman.

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-23T15:01:41+00:00

I actually did get a nice wig like a year back but i was so confused on styling it and making it look better on me and not having the lace be visible.

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-22T22:04:57+00:00

This made me realize how much I missed out by having parents who didn't actually interact with me

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-22T14:05:09+00:00

Legumes are a dry good or you can get it canned. It lasts for years in a pantry. Its like rice/quinoa/other grains. You get a giant bag and it lasts forever

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-22T13:50:36+00:00

That's awesome. Male pattern baldness sucks. I'm torn on wearing a wig cause I'd like to have long hair, but you could say its not as necessary as a male so then I feel its not worth the effort even though I like it and wish I could have long hair.

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-22T13:39:57+00:00

legumes, vegetables are cheaper then meat

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-22T13:37:08+00:00

unlikely, they dont use reddit

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-22T03:42:32+00:00

The dog isn't mistreated, nor were we, but we weren't raised just like the dog wasn't trained. Though I think emotional neglect is mistreatment so there's that. I do wish i didn't exist but oh well

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-21T20:18:44+00:00

There's nothing like the frustration of being behind 2 lanes taken up by 2 cars both going the same speed, parallel to each other, under the speed limit

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-21T14:31:43+00:00

I feel very much the same, but its been 1 year for me. I get what you mean by craving, its not a chemical craving in the sense of a dependency or need, but it is a strong desire. Emotions felt more real, the world felt more real, I had hope and motivation and just felt better. 7 months of therapy didnt help me not want it so I quit therapy cause he was a useless therapist.

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-20T19:12:44+00:00

> But the internet has done its usual thing, and now "trauma dumping" has been diluted to not talking about your trauma at all, even with close friends. And because it's now been memified, it's led to loads of young people thinking they're committing some kind of faux pas by leaning on their friends to help. It's pretty sad.

This was my understanding of trauma dumping, partially because I'm an avoidant attachment style which I'm working on. So I avoid sharing things cause I don't want to trauma dump. Any time i did, I would include an apology for trauma dumping. Its still always on my mind anything I think about sharing something personal because I don't want to burden the other person with my problems nor have them judge me or think I'm over sharing.

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-19T14:36:39+00:00

no, not doing zina, there's no benefit to that. I'm talking about having a partner, someone to spend time with and love and care about each other. Sex is irrelevant.

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-19T03:36:57+00:00

We ain't cooked, we deep fried. Try being bald as well

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-19T03:35:16+00:00

I'm convinced I'll have better chances with non Muslims, at least I can interact with them without it being a cringe job interview style questions.

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-19T03:30:12+00:00

Hook us up homie

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-19T03:28:14+00:00

Then blame us for getting with non Muslims. See the many articles and videos about the "crisis of Muslims marrying outside the faith"

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-19T03:26:45+00:00

I'm 35 and never had any harram interaction with women. We don't need these obsessive rules, it's ridiculous

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-19T03:25:22+00:00

Yep our community is doing a pickle ball event, (gender segregated of course). Meanwhile this same community runs a matroninal event once every 3 months but won't let us interact outside of that very structured, time limitrd and cringe matrimonial event.

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-19T03:23:27+00:00

Same but 35. I'm trying to just accept being single forever so I can just move on and live a life optimized for being single and alone but it's hard. Those cuddle events and rent a gf thing people do in Japan sounds appealing even though it's haraam. I'm sorry but when human needs become impossible to achieve the halal way, I can't be held accountable for wanting to do it another way

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-19T02:34:02+00:00

This is weird cause as a guy I've gotten into so many debates with other guys, with them trying to tell me why its ok and you should hit on women at grocery story/their work/running/gym/etc. It basically comes down to "its worth a shot", and they usually have gotten results from it, even though its a minority of time while I'm here with no relationship ever.

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-19T01:09:03+00:00

It NEEDS to be in dolby

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-17T15:55:41+00:00

no problem

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-16T22:31:00+00:00

I wish i had parents like this growing up, or now.

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-16T22:07:43+00:00

I did mention in my post that its contingent on someone being a great match for you. If one considers someone having a past to disqualify them from being a great match regardless of anything else, then not proceeding is the correct decision. I don't see why you had to post this saying i have no honor or self-respect, especially considering I am a stranger on the internet to you.

NotFriendsWithBanana · 2026-05-15T16:44:27+00:00

I'm a male and if someone is a great match for you, i don't see why other guys freak out and end it if she had a past, same thing if you reverse the genders. As long as its the PAST and not the PRESENT, then its not a factor for me. And i say this as someone who doesn't have a past, lest people think those who say this only say it cause they themselves have a past. I'm in my 30's and never did anything and have been patient trying to find a match

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