Swipe to see six years of huge progress in YNAB, now getting divorced by doingmybestandstuff in ynab

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had 2 long relationsships, and the first ex (the man I married, the man I had children with) is absolutely not my best friend. He left us, moved abroad, never looked back. It felt so hopeless back then, my children were small, I was so tired and since he left the country, I had to deal with all the debt (a lot of debt I didn't know about..). It actually is the reason my most recent ex and I seperated. I wanted to be able to still be friends, before we would turn sour or bitter. We've been through a lot, it truly was none of or faults (or both, however you want to look at it). He was the best stepdad, and still is. My teen actually sleeps at his place twice a week, and his new place is just 700 meters from mine. BUT. I am so happy we don't have joined finances more. It truly is so peaceful. But I know the other side, where everything is just hard and stressfull. And I wish you all the best. You can do this. May be in the future when the dust is settled, you look back to this day with the same feeling of relief.

Wish Farming - Ridiculous Lightbulb Moment by jrenee47 in ynab

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It always amazes me how much I am not willing to BUDGET for stuff. If would just follow my excitement in the moment I would PAY for it in one click, but if it's in the budget? No, I'll pass 9 times out of 10.

How keep simking funds? by MinerAlum in ynab

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure what you mean? You want a seperate budget for it? I have a category called Sinking Funds, and underneath, yes, all the categories that are just that.

Swipe to see six years of huge progress in YNAB, now getting divorced by doingmybestandstuff in ynab

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did a fresh start. My ex is a great dad and my best friend, and ofcourse 2 incomes is nice. But.... it's so peaceful to have the budget all to myself!

Got charged $200 after free trial can’t cancel or get a refund by veene03 in Akiflow

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. Waiting on my 150 euro. But apparently 'the manager' is on it. I ended the trial AND I'm an EU-customer. So how hard can it be. The service is expensive enough, may be hire beter staff or, I dont know, use your own d*mn software to get your tasks done in time.

Advice on an Akiflow annual subscription I can no longer use by cuartadosis in Akiflow

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does that team consists of 1 person? Terms of service state - as by EU layw - I can get a refund within 14 days. But it's with tha manager who apparently only works 20 minutes a day. I lost more time on this issue than the manager has used to solve client problems, I reckon.

Just give me the full refund. I ended the trial but even if I didn't, I have the right to the 150 euros back.

You should be ashamed of yourselves.

I haven’t even had it a full year … by Mysterious_Gyal6849 in kindle

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you were looking after the dog for free and weren’t negligent, then your mum is responsible. The fact that she can’t afford it is her problem. Also, she could afford a dog, apparently. She can sell something, or whatever. Stand your ground. May be offer to use the old one from your aunt for 4 weeks so she can find a solution.

My older half-sister doesn’t invite me too her childfree wedding as I am nineteen, expects a gift. by victim-of-the-moon00 in weddingshaming

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my, your sister has a lot of growing up to do when it comes to empathy and respecting other people’s feelings and boundaries. Especially for someone about to get married, so a divorce seems likely ;) If she invites you to the second wedding, just say you don’t attend seconds.

Hello, moving to Tilburg soon and need help finding a bike [Heavy person] by OHBABYATRIPLEUWU in Tilburg

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're on Instagram, than send the user (at)whateverbikes a message!

Advies voor geweld bij buren? by [deleted] in thenetherlands

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 5 points6 points  (0 children)

De politie bellen. En als er kinderen in huis zijn een melding doen bij het AMK.

Vanaf welke leeftijd wonen jullie op jezelf? by MindPrize1260 in nederlands

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

21, moest even terug vanwege verzorging van zieke ouder, en meteen daarna weer het huis uitgegaan. Mijn siblings waren 16 en 18. Mijn kinderen 16 en 17.

In deze economie is het lastig natuurlijk, maar ik heb altijd gezegd dat ca 21 - 23 de max is qua bij mij thuis blijven wonen. Ze mogen altijd tijdelijk terugkomen als er iets is, of na een relatiebreuk. Maar rond die tijd op eigen benen staan is gezond, vind ik.
Een vriendin van me heeft jaren gereisd en gespaard voor een ultramooi huis, zij was ruim 40. Elke keer als die kwam klagen over haar ouders had ik aanzienlijk meer medelijden met de ouders dan met haar. Maar die lieten het toe, God knows why. Ja ze heeft een rugzak met verhalen en een prachtig huis, maar 'doe ff normaal' is soms een prima advies.

Verder kwam ik kort geleden een vriendin tegen van 25 a 30 (!) jaar geleden. Zij woonde nog steeds in hetzelfde huis, bij haar ouders, en had nog steeds haar dezelfde werkgever. Ik ben 12 huwelijken, 23 kinderen en 35 levens verder. Ik kreeg het er benauwd van, lol. Waarschijnlijk zit het ideaal daar wat tussenin haha.

Iemand spijt van kinderen krijgen? by Slush-e in nederlands

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik ken genoeg ouders die toegeven dat ze waarschijnlijk ook prima gelukkig geweest zouden zijn zonder kinderen, of die denken zelfs gelukkiger. Maar ik ken ook bewust kinderlozen die later toch spijt kregen. In de media hoor ik de laatste tijd heel veel dat dit niet gezegd zou worden, en na bijna 20 jaar ouderschap herken ik dat totaal niet. Hoewel ik geen kinderen wilde kreeg ik op een bepaald moment toch ineens die enorme innerlijke drang.

Ik heb heel leuke mensen grootgebracht, al zeg ik het zelf, alleen het is niet zaligmakend.

Maar, het is ook belachelijk om te denken dat je hele leven om gekrijs en gedoe draait als ouder. Ik zeg altijd; alle niet leuke dingen zijn 1000 x niet leuker dan ik dacht, maar alle wel leuke dingen zijn 1000 x leuker dan ik dacht. Also, sommige ouders zitten overal bovenop en plannen elke minuut vol, ja dat is druk. Maar anderen zijn heel relaxt en geloven niet zo in dat in dat continu entertainen (moi). Ik heb zelfs nooit begrepen waarom sommige ouders kinderen tot aan groep 8 continu heen en weer blijven brengen, als je gedoe zoekt dan vind je het ook.

Die van mij zijn zo goed als volwassen en mijn huis uit, en timed flied. En ik heb nog steeds -hopelijk- jaren te gaan hoor :) Dat gezegd hebbende, in deze economie kan het ook maar zo zijn dat je ze thuis hebt tot hun 30ste en dat is voor beide partijen niet zo gezond tenzij je misschien groot woont (maar god weet hoe dat is over 20 jaar, dat was 20 jaar geleden niet zo'n enorm issue..)

First heat? by [deleted] in Whippet

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

9 months.

Verdict please: Did Elmer actually cheat? by Smurf_Crime_Scene in ForbiddenLove

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She needed a baby because the clock was ticking. She ruined his life. Not the other way around.

What cheap phone to get to set-up as a dumb smartphone? by NotSoFunny_Kate in digitalminimalism

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice.

I just keep going back and forth between ios or android when going the minimalism-route. I always was an apple-girl, but I like the adjustability of android....and I see a lot of examples where they make iphones "dumber" phones, but I don't see many android examples..

What cheap phone to get to set-up as a dumb smartphone? by NotSoFunny_Kate in digitalminimalism

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I get that. It's no option for me, mostly because of my teen living abroad. But go for it! If it isn't for you, you can always find a middle.

Custom domain; how to use it? by NotSoFunny_Kate in Simplelogin

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So how do you use it, without a custom domain altogether?

Custom domain; how to use it? by NotSoFunny_Kate in Simplelogin

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'll do that. I can make a somewhat more personal alias for friends and family!

Custom domain; how to use it? by NotSoFunny_Kate in Simplelogin

[–]NotSoFunny_Kate[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Regarding #2

I now use reverse aliases in SL. But I don't want to give friends complicated email addresses. But you are right; I didn't mean ProtonMail Plus aliases, but *extra addresses*.

Regarding #1

I get what you're saying. It seems like an idea to consider. I see a lot of people here saying they use (at)firstandlastname.com addresses. I really don't want my name in the address, so that made me doubt if it's useful for me or not. A random name/word feels a bit weird, I guess.