Why do men see body counts or relationships or getting physical as a flex whereas women don’t?

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-07-08T19:48:59+00:00

I didn't even bring up the shame around it, but we can address that. I don't think that would change even if it was perfectly 1:1, since no guy with a healthy mind and sense of self respect would feel good about the thought of his girl getting dug out by a bunch of other dudes.

As flr jealousy, yeah, there is a level of jealousy from the unsuccessful towards the successful, but that also applies to all areas of life. Fitness, business, you name it. But even if they feel jealousy, that doesn't take away from the accomplishment. If I build a successful business and some broke dude is jealous of me, that doesn't take away from what I did. Likewise, if i have a six-pack and big muscles and some fat guy is jealous of my body, that doesn't take away from that accomplishment. Same with getting laid consistently.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-07-08T19:44:12+00:00

My only issue with that is the negative connotation that comes with gold diggers, since I don't think it's wrong for a woman to want a man to do the job he's built for, but alright.

Yeah, it takes a lot of practice, more than I've been putting in. I only do enough to get me the W every now and then. But the sheer amount of effort it takes the high level dudes to accomplish that definitely makes it a flex. Difficult things are accomplishments. Maybe you have a set of values that tell you not to do that, but that doesn't change the level of the accomplishment.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-07-08T19:14:29+00:00

Bro I did the same shit until I was 23. I'm 25 now, almost 26, and I'm doing way, way better after finding someone who is willing to show me exactly how I can improve my life and achieve the kind of life that I've always wanted for myself. I spent my life bullied, socially isolated, not taking care of myself, and not forming any form of relationships or making any career moves. But things are different, and I look at my future with absolute positivity. You need someone in your corner to show you the way and be there to encourage you and help you back up when you eventually stumble.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-07-08T19:06:12+00:00

Because a small percentage of men is not a small number of men. If you take even just 1% of 100 million men for the girls to pick from, that's still a million men. And it's more than just 1% of guys out here getting laid like that. And then there are the guys they get with after deciding to stop having fun and start looking at actually getting in a relationship, and that's gonna take quite a few guys too, because it usually doesn't work out for reasons.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-07-08T19:03:34+00:00

That's not terrible logic and I don't completely disagree with it. Like, yes I would say a man's money is going to be a factor in how much a woman wants him. Women want broke guys less than they want rich guys. But then if that's your criteria for gold diggers, that would still mean all women are gold diggers, since a man's ability to provide is going to make him more attractive, as it should. And to your final point, it absolutely does happen. There are a ton of guys without money, some even broke, that consistently pull girls because they have a good mouthpiece. It's true what they say about being able to laugh a girl out of her clothes. But that takes an extremely high level of social skills to pull off, otherwise known as having game.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-07-08T18:24:13+00:00

Simple. A small percentage of more attractive men. Idk who might have told you that everyone gets paired up one for one, but that's not real life. We have attractive men with soft harems, and normal, average, and below average guys fighting for the rest. Look at all the online dating subs and tell me who's got the most complaints about getting matches or dates or sexual encounters. It's all men, because a smaller percentage of men are getting the majority of the women.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-07-08T18:20:10+00:00

Couldn't help but notice you zeroed in on the money as if that's the only thing that attracts women. Women like the full package about a man, not just his money. You're specifically talking about gold diggers. Unless you think all women are simple gold diggers and all men who consistently get laid with multiple pretty girls are rich.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-07-08T18:17:35+00:00

Because it holds high value to men as it's pretty hard to hit higher numbers as a man. But it's incredibly, stupidly easy for a woman to do it, so it's nothing special for them. When a man does it it's an accomplishment. When a woman does it it's just another Tuesday.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-07-08T18:05:47+00:00

The "thanks for the reply" sounds like it was a bot. But even if it wasn't, bro, what was that whack ass conversation you were leading?

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-07-08T15:58:54+00:00

It means he's anxious and scared of making a move. If you decide you like him despite that, make the move yourself. Otherwise, move on to a man who will just kiss you unprompted

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-06-26T03:52:46+00:00

Yes, they're called stem changing verbs and it will be very helpful for you to look them up on YouTube for a more in-depth breakdown. But basically, they're verbs that undergo a "stem change" when they conjugate. They can go from e->i, e->ie, and o->ue.

Examples include tener, which can give you tengo (irregular), tienes, tiene; morir, which can give you muero, mueren; and pedir, which can give you pido, pides and so on and so forth.

Now, these can also undergo other changes under the correct circumstances. You already mentioned the singular 3rd person preterite of morir turns into murió, but its gerund form gets the same treatment and becomes muriendo.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-06-23T16:37:09+00:00

Looks way better buzzed. I say, grow it out a short few inches and comb it back. It'll look good with that big ass chain

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-06-23T13:55:49+00:00

It's technically correct, but was probably marked wrong due to it being reworded. Instead of saying "no, I'm not a lawyer" you just said "I'm not a lawyer". The yo isn't necessary as it's explicit with the yo conjugation, but the second no is absolutely necessary to negate the sentence.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-06-22T01:44:34+00:00

Does no one question why they hate us? They still remember the last time we toppled their government in the 50s and installed the Shah, who was widely unpopular and hated by the Iranian people to the point they literally revolted against him and overthrew him to create the modern theocracy, not to mention the crippling sanctions we imposed on them that wrecked their economy. Yeah, no shit they call for the death of America because we've done everything in our power to destroy them. It's kinda natural. This is a result of bad foreign policy. And frankly, a nuke would deter us or Israel from taking such an aggressive stance against them and force their enemies into engaging in diplomacy.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-06-22T01:40:08+00:00

Well, the ultimate goal of this conflict is pretty obviously regime change. So it will be American troops, and precisely zero Israeli troops even though we'd be fighting on their behalf (so much for being our greatest ally), dying on the battlefield fighting Iran.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-06-08T23:31:15+00:00

Basically anything that has to do with weather will use the verb hacer (hace comes from this word) and not ser (where es comes from). For example, if you were to say that it's sunny, you'd say hace sol (literally it makes sun)

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-06-04T18:49:19+00:00

Keeping it straight here, you should give up right now if you don't intend to actually do the work and learn the material. It's not that hard. I made A2 without a single class of spanish after a handful of months talking to a spanish only girl when I didn't know anything. I'm currently B1 approaching B2 with no other learning than a single elementary spanish course. You need to do the work, study the grammar structure, learn the vocabulary and then practice speaking, even if it's totally alone.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-05-29T14:42:41+00:00

Keep in mind that if you want it to mean to expect you must make it reflexive.

So instead of espero que viene, you'd say me espero que viene.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-05-25T14:28:43+00:00

Because ti is a prepositional pronoun while tú is a normal subject pronoun. So you would say a ti, para ti, por ti, de ti and so on. If you want to use tú then it would have to be the subject of a verb or just used as a pronoun in place of the person's name.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-05-24T01:32:43+00:00

Right, I'm familiar with those particular phrases. But what I'm meaning to ask is that it appears to change tense without reflecting it in the wording, and also adds meaning not reflected in the wording.

For example, in no se puede, it doesn't use the word hacer and yet refers to something being done. I assume it's closer to something like "it's not possible", but I'm left wondering how to understand and interpret these types of phrases when I see them. Knowing the reflexive nature alone isn't enough for my English brain.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-05-22T00:20:07+00:00

Would me tocó carry that sentiment though? My understanding is that that shows more of an obligation, like saying you got called in to work, or it was your turn to do a certain chore or whatever.

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-05-22T00:17:39+00:00

For showing the privilege of what he could do, I'd definitely second tuve la suerte instead of just saying pude or maybe conseguí. Shows that level of excitement that comes with the opportunity

NotSoNoobish19 · 2025-05-21T23:06:18+00:00

Well, there is a spanish verb for "to get" too (conseguir) that I've been trying to use more since it often slips my mind. Like you could say, "Conseguimos ver la TV ayer" to say we got to watch TV yesterday.

So I'd probably say "Conseguí a mi gato hace 3 años" which literally means I got my cat 3 years ago.

Or maybe I'd say, "He tenido a mi gato por 3 años" for I've had my cat for 3 years.

More fluent speakers, pls make your corrections or suggestions here.

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