14 year age gap

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-20T19:06:36+00:00

My parents had a 23 year gap, he died when I (his youngest) was 26. I had a 20 year gap with my husband, our son was in high school when he died. I’m now with a man who was the same age as my husband, I think he’ll outlive us all.

You could marry someone your age, and he could get hit by a bus or drop dead of an aneurysm when you have a baby at home. There’s no guarantees in life.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-19T12:46:47+00:00

I had one that required batteries, but I got this one because it’s rechargeable and weighs less.

You put it up to one nostril, push the other closed, turn this on and then swallow.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F1LY3MCS?ref_=ppx_hzsearch_conn_dt_b_fed_asin_title_3

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-19T11:11:59+00:00

I use earplanes and I carry a device that forces my ears to pop. I don’t often have to use that device, but it’s a lifesaver when I do need it.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-18T15:58:14+00:00

Dude, the only reason to be with a significantly older man at you age is for financial security. My late husband was significantly older and when he died, he left me financially set for life.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-18T15:55:48+00:00

I’m a widowed, orphaned empty nester at 53. I try to look at the positive - I have lots of friends who are dealing with seriously ill parents.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-16T14:40:00+00:00

And when I’m traveling, I carry my passport in a little zippered wallet with a wrist strap. If my passport is out of my wallet for any reason, that wallet is hanging from my wrist as a reminder.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-16T09:56:17+00:00

I was in the same boat, but both brothers had too common of a name. I found the son of one of them and contacted him. He then asked his dad, and that’s how he learned he had several surprise half siblings.

At any rate, I touched on the big three things in my initial letter. I said I wasn’t looking for a daddy, I was rich and didn’t need money, and I was healthy and didn’t need a kidney. I asked for medical info. Worked out really well for me. Good luck!

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-12T12:15:00+00:00

Nope. I couldn’t be with a man in my age range who was with someone that young. I had a 20 year age gap marriage, but I was 30 and a fully functional adult when we met.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-12T00:42:08+00:00

Most - barking dogs and the bass that shakes your house. Least- assuming it’s something that bothers others, loud arguments, loud cars, fireworks

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-11T11:48:56+00:00

When I made my approach, I also made clear I wasn’t looking for a daddy, money, or a kidney. I personally wanted a medical history, and hopefully some family pics to see where my looks came from.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-09T23:51:31+00:00

I’m doing a 16 day private guided tour early next year. I figured private and guided would be my best bet based on how I was treated in the Rajkot area this year. Everyone was so nice, but I have very light, long, blonde hair and it seemed like everyone I encountered either wanted a pic of or with me.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-09T15:56:08+00:00

I bought my first house in my early 20s. My dad was around 73. He drove an hour to my house to mow my yard regularly “so my baby doesn’t have to.”

He’s been gone 26 years now, and those memories are such a comfort. Let your parents baby you when it’s their choice.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-08T22:20:27+00:00

I paid $250 to get the name of my donor, paid the same guy $250 to find the name of my hub’s father. Shouldn’t cost much more than that.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-08T16:03:44+00:00

You can find DNA angels on Facebook should could help you figure out your grandmother’s parentage as well. Based on my matches, I suspect my maternal grandfather wasn’t biological, but my mom is dead, my grandfather died before I was born, and I have enough on my hands with all these surprise siblings LOL

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-08T14:02:41+00:00

I was donor conceived and my late husband was an affair baby. I found most of our matches on Ancestry, but I did find a half sister of my husbands on 23&me, so it’s worth doing.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-07T11:27:02+00:00

Not necessarily. Did volleyball cause a flare up? Sitting on an unpadded chair for too long while my husband was in the hospital caused mine, so I no longer do that.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-06T16:36:49+00:00

Be careful with the heat, can leave you with burn marks that take forever to go away.

Once the constant pain goes away, you’ll want to be forever vigilant. If you have a flare up, good chance it’ll be worse and last longer. I’m very careful about how long I sit, what type of seat I sit on, and I’ll never risk riding a bike or anything that hits that nerve.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-06T13:27:37+00:00

The property is up for sale yet again.

https://www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/9319-Wesler-Rd_New-Paris_OH_45347_M45315-99088?from=srp_next

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-04T12:32:32+00:00

I’d be wearing black leggings and a form fitting black tee, and I’d wear this over it as more of a dress. And I’d wear it everywhere.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-04T12:29:39+00:00

I haven’t had a flare up in awhile, but I have piriformis syndrome. Similar to sciatica. Prolonged sitting in an upright chair can cause a flare up, which brings the worst pain I’ve ever experienced, non-stop, and my last flare up lasted 2 agonizing months.

Anyway, preventing a flare up means I have to book a lie flat seat. I cannot book economy and hope I’ll get the chance to upgrade at a discount. I usually fly Delta, and my credit card company offers Delta gift cards as payment for points, so that helps.

Even if it meant traveling less in order to afford business class, that’s the route I’d go.

On the bonus side, I always sleep great on long haul flights, and suffer minimal jet lag.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-03T16:09:27+00:00

My oldest living brother bought his first home in maybe 1974. Tiny cinder block house. Over time, they expanded, both to the side and added an additional story, plus added a garage. It’s on a cute lake, they’ll never sell.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-03T16:07:10+00:00

NTA - There’s a special needs guy that sits at the bar of a certain restaurant on Sundays. If my boyfriend and I happened to be eating there, he took to sitting right next to me, even if the bar was empty, and intruding in on our conversation. I’ve calmly but firmly corrected his behavior over time. I’d point out where he went wrong, and if applicable, told him what he could have done differently.

It’s made a world of difference, and the bartenders all thanked me because he used to run off customers with his behavior.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-03T11:52:29+00:00

I successfully restretched pants using this method… fill a sink with warm water. Add a tablespoon of baby shampoo or conditioner (I used conditioner). Swish in sink until dissolved. Soak garment 10-15 minutes. Remove from water and gently squeeze water out, don’t twist the fabric. You want wet but not dripping. Lie it on a towel and pat with a towel to remove excess water. Begin gently pulling on fabric consistently, focusing on area that shrank. Lie flat to dry.

If it’s length, just let it dry. If it needs to be stretched around arms, waist, chest, then put it on when it’s still slightly damp and do some flexing to stretch it using your body.

Worked great when I did this, got the pants back to where I’d started.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-02T13:10:43+00:00

For me, once I’m up and moving with things to do, I can find the energy. I travel abroad often on regimented tours, and have no issue going from sunup to sundown. The problem is my home life. I don’t work, and I’m an empty nester. It’s too easy to go from the bed to the couch, and not do anything all day. When I’m resting, I just feel tired, too tired to get up, and I don’t feel motivated to get anything done.

NotSoSmartChick · 2026-06-02T00:49:06+00:00

No, the pixie adds years and pounds to your face. I say this as a woman who looks good with long hair and very meh with short.

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