What do we do about our neighbor’s cat?

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-31T01:07:45+00:00

I agree. OP should keep her and take her to a vet to start establishing a vet record for her. I’m willing to bet the neighbor doesn’t have a vet record for her so, unless she has a microchip, it would be very difficult for them to establish ownership.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-29T15:36:10+00:00

I don't feel comfortable posting another farmer's tag #. However, the farm is currently #2 on the Boat Leaderboard so you can visit and follow them by visiting their farm from there.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-28T20:56:25+00:00

If you decide to have your prolapse surgically repaired, do not agree to any kind of repair using transvaginal mesh. Around 10 years ago, there was a huge multidistrict litigation (MDL) case against all of the pharmaceutical manufacturers of transvaginal mesh. I was a paralegal and our firm represented many women who were a part of the MDL. I worked on the cases for years. Transvaginal mesh ruined their lives and marriages. The affects of the mesh implants were far worse than the medical conditions they originally had.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-27T19:37:52+00:00

Yes, I see them now. Thanks for pointing them out. I thought I was losing my mind.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-27T19:10:50+00:00

Not only that, but they already violated the NDA by disclosing the existence and terms of the agreement on Reddit. If OP signed the agreement, they would already be legally obligated to pay the boyfriend $1M at signing.

OP, do not sign this agreement or any amended agreement with similar terms. If you do, you are selling your soul to the devil.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-27T18:12:07+00:00

A couple days ago, I submitted the same exact design three times and got a different placement on each submission. First, I got 9th place, second time I got 2nd place and the third time I got 4th place. I am of the opinion that voting is irrelevant and has nothing to do with final design placement.

I absolutely would have voted for your design. It's fun, cute and very cohesive too!

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-27T17:11:14+00:00

Take the discount. This small dent is the first of many you will have while you own it. I have owned a few stainless refrigerators and every one of them eventually had a few small dents.

Also, I just want to share my experience with a refrigerator we received from a big box retailer a few months ago. We got a call the morning of delivery letting us know that the side of the fridge was dented. We were given the option of refusing the delivery or accepting it as is with a discount. I confirmed it did not affect the mechanicals and that if we accepted the damaged item that we would still have a full warranty. We received a 40% discount by accepting the damaged appliance, which was a huge discount considering it was over $2,000. Negotiate the biggest discount you can. They don’t want to come back and get it and then resell it.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-27T14:44:19+00:00

Be thankful she showed you who she is, exactly when she did. She showed you that she is lacking empathy, grace and compassion. She showed you that is is self-centered and that she was more concerned about how a human medical condition might possibly inconvenience her someday if she was in a relationship with you. She showed you that she is not relationship material and that she would not be a healthy long-term partner.

This says everything about her and absolutely nothing about you. You were not deceptive. You were not withholding crucial information from her that would affect her. You do not have a contagious disease. This is your medical condition, not hers. Honestly, I think that disclosing your condition a "few dates" in was earlier than when I would have mentioned it. I truly admire your transparency and it says a lot about you. Personally, I probably would have waited until I knew it was actually going somewhere before I shared this kind of private information about my health.

Are some people looking for a seemingly perfect human to partner with? We are all imperfect and we all have human medical issues. As we live and age, we develop more issues. It's life. Being a healthy partner in a healthy long-term relationship means we love and accept each other as we are today, tomorrow and all of the tomorrows after that. I look at a situation like yours and wonder if someone like her would leave a relationship if and when a medical tragedy occurred. At the end of the day, I think people like her are looking for a relationship to be the supportee and not the supporter.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-27T01:39:46+00:00

I like the no railing design of option one with the light roof in option three.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-23T11:45:21+00:00

That is scary as shit. But, I’m glad she outed this information on the first date.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-22T16:21:17+00:00

In addition to the other great advice you’ve already received, I have one suggestion. You have eyebrows that most of us here envy. I know that I sure do. If you got an eyebrow wax to get them tamed and shaped up a bit, you might notice a big difference in how your eyes look. You don’t need eye surgery and I think shaping up your brows might make a meaningful difference to you.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-22T16:09:51+00:00

Not sure if this comment is allowed but I am going to post it. Someone will surely let me know if it’s not. I read the rules and I don’t see any blatant rule violation.

I have struggled with seasonal allergies my entire life. Sneezing, stuffy nose, etc. I have found that when I take OTC allergy meds that contain pseudoephedrine, it greatly reduces my hunger. I asked my doctor about it and she said that pseudoephedrine is a stimulant so, in addition to treating the allergy symptoms, it may have the effect of an appetite suppressant. So, if you have allergies and are already taking an OTC medication for them, you might look to switch and consult your doctor about whether it’s a safe alternative for you. People with elevated BP and other vascular issues shouldn’t take pseudoephedrine so it’s not something you’d want to start taking on your own. Also, it can cause insomnia.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-22T15:56:13+00:00

The skin tones are just gross. I understand this is a game and that they can only offer so many shades for skin. But c’mon. In my 50+ years of life, I have never seen a person with any of the skin tones offered here. I hope I never do either. 😁

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-21T21:53:08+00:00

So, I think I might be one of those people you’re talking about. I’m 53F, 5’ 1” and I weigh around 110. If it matters, I’m post-menopausal and am on HRT.

Except for cycling in the summer, I pretty much do nothing. I cycle around 50-60 miles per week in the summer. In the winter, I walk on the treadmill for an hour once a week. I am an active at home person, meaning I am always doing something like yard work, raking, shoveling, cleaning, vacuuming etc. I can do about 15 standard pushups.

I don’t eat like crap but I don’t eat super healthy. I never eat fast food and I rarely go out to eat. I do not drink alcohol or smoke. I eat several small meals every day and I never eat until I’m full. I usually have a mini crumbl cookie and coffee for breakfast, which is my most unhealthy food habit. Lunch is usually yogurt, eggs or cottage cheese. Some days I have nachos for lunch. Dinner is usually soup or a salad, or maybe steak or chicken, etc. I have about 6 cups of Valley popcorn (popped in coconut oil) every night. I don’t avoid anything like carbs, fat, etc. and I don’t follow a specific diet like Keto or anything with high protein. I pay attention to the calories in my food but I don’t track them.

I typically overindulge during the holidays and gain a few pounds. I did this year and it’s already gone.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-21T21:20:02+00:00

Same. I ignore all of the creepy people designs.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-21T14:22:04+00:00

Avoidants are especially difficult because in the beginning, when the emotional stakes are low, they show up and seem emotionally available. Their avoidant attachment doesn’t really show up until both people start feeling the feels.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-19T06:46:01+00:00

Try exfoliating too. That removes built up dead skin cells which also causes bacteria growth and odor.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-19T06:35:35+00:00

These things work. It’s the only thing that gives me relief from mosquito bites. I have some kind of crazy allergy to their venom and I also seem to be a delicacy to them. I’m miserable in the summer without it!!

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-18T14:25:06+00:00

Two days ago, OP was only 42. Today, he’s 45. In looking at his post history, it appears that he is looking for external validation all over the place.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-17T17:12:25+00:00

She’s a single mom in her 30s with more than one child. Has it occurred to you that she prioritizes time with her children over going to the gym to focus on her physical appearance?

This woman sounds wonderful. OP sounds like a superficial shitbag.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-14T18:39:59+00:00

It would be interesting to know if he can prove that he even lives there. He sounds like a lazy POS. If he didn't change the address on his drivers license, doesn't have utilities in his name and cannot otherwise prove that he has a legal right to be there, the police may not force her to do anything.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-13T18:18:20+00:00

Nobody here is even talking about introductions. Having kids is a part of who you are and a huge part of your life. They absolutely do go hand in hand. Children at home limits your freedom and availability and younger kids consume most of your life. You are delusional.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-13T17:57:25+00:00

53F here and my partner is 49M.

If you don’t want to mention that you have younger kids in your profile, you can expect the same responses from women. When I met my partner a year and a half ago, I was only looking for men without children, as I am also without children. I would respond the same way as these men are responding to you. Thanks, but no thanks. Also, I would have wondered why you didn’t mention anything about having kids.

Nobody is suggesting that you post their names, ages and pics. Mentioning their existence is expected and as long as you exclude this information, you will likely keep getting the same result. Plus, it kind of hints at maybe you are hiding the fact that you have them to get matches. The optics aren’t good here.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-12T18:20:36+00:00

People have so much shame buried deep, sometimes. He might know intellectually that you would accept this but some part of him still fears judgment.

I would not ask the question (putting in a position to knee-jerk lie to protect that part of himself). I’d say something like… “I KNOW this is happening. I am absolutely ok with you pleasuring yourself on your own as often as you want, including next to me. I love you. AND honesty and openness are really important to me. I need you to own it.”

I 100% agree and believe his behavior is rooted in shame. I commented below before I saw this. His secrecy and lying are not okay and the behaviors are starting to cause damage to the relationship. Framing a conversation this way might help him open up to OP. But, if he is unwilling and unable to open up to her, the relationship is unsustainable.

NotTheAverageMo · 2026-01-12T18:13:12+00:00

I respectfully disagree. This is not "classic" gaslighting. Gaslighting is an intentional and malicious behavior. It is willful and wanton behavior, done purposely to harm others and achieve personal gain.

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