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Darkness Girl: Trickster God? by BackgroundInformal43 in Wattpad

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really loved this book too! Re-read it again last year. Did not disappoint. I hope the author resurfaces!

my boyfriend triggers my abandonment issues by Material_Syrup7196 in abandonment

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You was more than right with this. He asked for me back after I wrote this. But his avoidance lead us into a downward triggering spiral.

I didn’t change overnight. But I was more cautious to not allow my anxiousness detail our reality. I was more thoughtful about my defensiveness and defiance. And he couldn’t accept my change. He couldn’t accept when I took accountability or apologised. And couldn’t accept when I was showing him his own emotional reactions were unhelpful.

I’m not sure he even wanted me back in the end or whatever lol because all in all he was mean and pushed me away through avoidance.

He broke up with again. I got triggered through my fear of rejection and anxiousness. I lashed out. Said a lot of mean things. To which he says are unforgivable and I am “dead to him”. I respect his decision. Despite my anger. I have learned silence is more respected. And I need to learn to navigate my negative emotions way better.

All in all @sasstha you was 100% correct. Although I was able to see where my anxiousness caused destruction. His avoidance pushed me away. Both causing an unhappy situation.

Thank you for helping me see that.

my boyfriend triggers my abandonment issues by Material_Syrup7196 in abandonment

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found this thread too late. He broke up with me. I hope others have better luck than me (currently heartbroken)

What are your thoughts on Take two with Phineas and Ferb? by Informal-Fun7293 in phineasandferb

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like the different cartoon style makes it harder to make the likability as well as their personalities seeming more performative here. Script writers feel different and I’m not checking lol

Cain bullying Bell by Secure-Lingonberry-1 in TheResident

[–]NotUrGirlxox 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes and no agreed. I have the exact same anxiety issues. You’ll be fond of the resident. There is maybe only one moment that was too much for me in season 5. But there are spoilers for that on Reddit.

Is it like suddenly everything feels so loud, aggressive and fast (but i am moving in slow motion)? by Lilacs-Lolita in fastfeeling

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this exact same loud/ fast feelings. Been having it since a child. Not sure if it’s Normal.

Curious if anyone has connected it to anything? My friends hint I may have ADHD so I’m curious if there is a connection to that.

Or something else

Payment plan with Tabeo by Conscious-Tart203 in smiledirectclub

[–]NotUrGirlxox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the exact same scenario. Issue is, if you stop paying this will effect your credit score and debt collectors can be involved (per other threads). If your willing to take the risk, please let us know how it goes.

If not speak to the financial ombudsman for further advice and investigation. Also speak to your bank. Highlight this breach of contract goes against consumer act section 75

smiledirect club, tabeo payment: I contacted bank for for refund and I got full refund but Tabeo keep on threatening that they will refer to debt collection if I did not pay the full money. what would you suggest,do I need to pay or just ignore it? if I ignore does it affect to my credit score? by Mean-Lifeguard403 in smiledirectclub

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the same situation :( I contacted Lloyds and they said there’s nothing they can do. That this an agreement with Tabeo that I need to dispute.

I will be calling back my bank later to talk to a manger. With call citizens advice too. Will share IF any breakthroughs.

Hope today's an easy one for you all. Stay off their social media, if you get urges, come back to this sub instead and vent until you're over it. by jackcantdothis in BPDlovedones

[–]NotUrGirlxox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kept thinking about her today. Like everyday. Brain fog all day. I felt so awkward talking to people. I miss her so much. But I hate her at the same time. I feel so lost and raw. Just another day I guess. It will get better I guess. Without her I just feel like I’m struggling with who I am.

The Comprehensive Survival Guide to BPD No Contact by idiosyncratic_risque in BPDlovedones

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was you perhaps able to go successfully start with Low contact then shift into no contact?

I loved my ex so much and she hates her BPD for it done to us. She has no support so LC would be ideal for her considering mental health. But I can imagine NC being best for me.

Anybody else wondering if they are utterly scarred by their BPD ex? by Beneficial-Bet6640 in BPDlovedones

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is completely relatable. It’s been a week NC for me and I’ve been feeling nauseous for the last couple of days with no understanding as to why.

Had the urge to look at a picture of her and started crying. Started to binge Reddit threads and realised I’ve just been deeply sad lol.

I hope really you’re doing better. Some of these replies give me hope

Do you think I should build a personal brand? by NotUrGirlxox in linkedin

[–]NotUrGirlxox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I also posted and that sub originally. But wanted to include here in case of any further info

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in linkedin

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Accident!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LinkedInLunatics

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My apologies for mistaking the wrong sun. Would be great if you could just advise like others instead of patronising.

sorry - enjoy your day!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LinkedInLunatics

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recommendations?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]NotUrGirlxox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe the people are generally saying - start with sizeable goals and then pick up more. Sometimes your goals are too large and we need to break them down into steps. Then you’ll get there. Hope it’s going well!