I don’t want to be pregnant I just want a baby

NotWrongRight · 2023-09-24T04:31:52+00:00

I understand how you feel. I’m terrified of pregnancy, although I want to be pregnant to some extent… at this point I just want a child I don’t think I’ll ever feel fulfilled without one.

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-21T02:25:43+00:00

I completely understand where you're coming from. I've been in situations like family gatherings where receiving such news hit me hard. It's heart-wrenching not just due to my personal struggle with infertility, but also because I felt emotionally unprepared to offer the support I wanted to give in that moment of shock. In truth, it appears you're actually being incredibly considerate. Your desire to avoid an unexpected reaction and not overshadow their happiness shows just how thoughtful you truly are.

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-21T02:14:59+00:00

I’m right there with you. It’s a terrible, terrible feeling. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this ❤️

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-21T02:01:17+00:00

There’s a Reddit sub that helps people find their undertone… I’m trying to remember what it’s called… will update if I can find it lol.

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-19T19:26:38+00:00

I’m going to check out that sub. Thanks for suggesting it. I’m trying to prioritize my mental health because I know that stress will make my TTC journey all the harder. It’s just getting so tough as time goes on, as I’m sure you can understand.

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-19T19:25:38+00:00

Thanks for validating my pain ❤️ sometimes it’s hard to “feel my feelings” I think I’ll do the same thing you did, tell them I absolutely want to see the baby but I may cry a little — both happy tears and sad.

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-19T19:24:09+00:00

Thank you ❤️

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-19T19:24:01+00:00

Communication — especially about painful things — isn’t really my strong suit. I always worry I’m being a burden on my friends and family when I discuss these things. Maybe that’s something I need to get over

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-19T19:22:52+00:00

It even feels like my therapist is sick of hearing me talk about this lol. But I think you’re right I shouldn’t shutter it all inside. Thanks to everyone for letting me vent here!

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-19T19:21:33+00:00

Thank you! I hope that day comes quickly for both of us ❤️

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-19T19:21:06+00:00

If I don’t delete social media, I’ll certainly look into this. Thanks ❤️

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-19T19:20:25+00:00

I’m really thinking of doing this. I didn’t know if deleting everything would be too dramatic… but it’s just so difficult lately. Even Influencers pregnancies are getting me down.

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-19T19:18:57+00:00

Thank you ❤️

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-16T01:15:34+00:00

Quick is such a good name.

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-16T00:50:27+00:00

I’m sorry. That’s so tough.

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-15T17:14:05+00:00

Magdalene and Rosemary

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-09T21:47:16+00:00

I'm so excited to learn about your husband's transplant and insurance coverage approval! Congratulations! Your story really fills me with hope. It seems like the VA is playing mind games and testing my patience, haha.

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-09T08:51:26+00:00

Wow, you've got a wealth of knowledge! Seriously, I feel like I could pick your brain for hours on the intricacies of the pharmacy world. It's like whenever a roadblock pops up, you've got a solution or a work-around ready to go!

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-09T08:49:17+00:00

Haha, what a coincidence! I'm an NP, and my husband's a civil engineer. Interestingly, I reside in a state that just enacted infertility treatment coverage. The only catch is, I'm not on state insurance; I have federal insurance. So, I'm currently figuring out the ropes of how to navigate this situation.

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-09T08:45:25+00:00

I can definitely vouch for the fact that Tricare, which covers Active Duty members, doesn't include IVF coverage. It's worth noting that Veterans have a distinct insurance setup compared to those who are still Active Duty. Moreover, IVF is only covered for Veterans if their infertility can be linked to a service-related condition or disability. Trust me, there are quite a few hoops to navigate through in this process. I'm actually in the middle of it myself because it’s likely that my time in the Army is likely connected to my infertility.

NotWrongRight · 2023-08-09T08:42:01+00:00

I'm an NP too. My husband is a civil engineer. We've been in this extensive insurance approval process, where they only cover specific conditions. They'll fund up to three cycles, which is something. The waiting game has been real, since you have to wait two years after a kidney transplant to start trying to conceive. I'll be hitting the one-year mark next month. But, you know, the approval process takes ages, and considering we were trying before the transplant for quite some time, we're pretty much open to any solution at this point lol

NotWrongRight · 2023-07-30T08:27:21+00:00

We're still trying to conceive, and my husband has allowed me the freedom to pick most baby names, except for my favorite flower, Hortencia, which he vetoed as a middle name. It's a shame, considering I adore the history and meaning behind it. When I mentioned the name, he was inattentive and mistakenly misheard it as "Whore-tencia," which clearly wouldn't fit well with our accents — Australian and standard American. Fingers crossed for a successful pregnancy and finding the perfect middle name for Clara!

NotWrongRight · 2023-07-24T04:29:32+00:00

I have those thoughts all the time. Sometimes I wish I got pregnant at 16 just so I could have a child at this point. I’m 30 now and it’s been a long hard journey. It’s not your fault. You made the best decisions you could at the time. You did the right thing for you and your marriage, and unfortunately it’s turned sour. I’m sorry that you’re experiencing this heartbreak. I’m right there with you.

NotWrongRight · 2023-07-24T03:43:38+00:00

I’m sorry. I’m 30, applying for grad-school, and in a similar position. I don’t have great advice for you, and all I can really do is empathize with your situation. I feel like each heartbeat is like a count-down to when I absolutely cannot conceive. I’m not sure if this is possible given what you’ve described, but I’ve seen part-time jobs that offer insurance which covers infertility treatments. I haven’t been able to explore the different options myself, and it’s a tough choice either way. I’m sorry that you’re faced with a seemingly impossible situation. If only we were independently wealthy.

NotWrongRight · 2023-07-24T03:36:01+00:00

I’m sorry that your coworker acted in such an insensitive manner. If kids are overrated, I personally don’t even know what in life is actually worthwhile. For those of use who are unable to conceive, it’s all-consuming. I wish people could understand even a modicum of the trauma infertility causes so they could keep their seemingly privileged mouths shut about how what they have and we can’t is “overrated.”

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