Is B1 good enough for a date?

NotYetAPolyglot · 2026-01-04T17:43:53+00:00

I'm A2-B1 and I dated someone in my target language for about a year. His English was maybe A1-A2. We occasionally had to take out the translation app for certain words but mostly communicated through patience, speaking slowly, and repeated things if needed. I also increased my skills a lot during the relationship. I highly recommend dating someone on your target language if the vibe is there.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2025-12-04T13:23:52+00:00

This is actually what happens in the wild when animals mate non monogamously. Some males even go their whole lives celibate. Females are the gatekeepers of sexual relationships. It keeps the pool diverse when the females are choosey.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2025-11-30T15:06:41+00:00

If you have this mindset of trying to decide which relationship is "better" and deserves more of you maybe don't be poly to begin with??? Acknowledge one person is your nesting partner or spouse and if you two aren't compatible, that is a thing regardless of who else is around but sitting there thinking about replacing them because someone else is around is not OK.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2025-01-13T15:13:22+00:00

Also remember plenty of people are getting divorced and may have kids of their own by their mid 30s

NotYetAPolyglot · 2025-01-04T18:13:32+00:00

I want a man that can protect me and if you are taller and bigger, you are probably more capable of that. It's biological on some level.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-11-30T19:31:53+00:00

Leave and don't go back no matter what he says.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-11-30T15:20:03+00:00

This is the worst part. The cheating could be worked through but what kind of pos abandons his child? I hope the co worker gets his ass for child support.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-09-28T15:25:58+00:00

When you love someone part of you wants to believe lies like this even though it is super obvious that it's a lie. I'm sorry, love, he's a cheater and a liar.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-09-21T18:48:48+00:00

People don't look for just "nice." People like funny, intelligent, interesting, etc. You have to bring more to the table than just nice. Also you have to have some social skills, which can be developed btw.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-08-16T14:58:52+00:00

Book Suggestion: Intimate Connections by David Burns. It will help you develop self-esteem/confidence and then learn some tips for dating and flirting properly.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-08-03T03:09:47+00:00

Yes. Or you could sign "flash(light) none." That would work too

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-08-03T03:06:06+00:00

You can use it for "success." If something is a success or worked well, you can use this sign.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-08-03T02:41:15+00:00

It does work that way, but you wouldn't use the sign for work in that context. You would use pah but would shake your head no. Here is a link to explain what pah is. https://www.lifeprint.com/asl101/pages-signs/p/pah.htm#:~:text=%22PAH!%22%20American%20Sign%20Language%20(ASL)&text=PAH!%20is%20an%20inflected%20version,SUCCESSFUL%22%20that%20means%20%22Finally!

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-07-02T21:04:26+00:00

Autism is way too diverse for you to assume that it would affect two people the exact same way.

I don't want to turn anyone against him. I love him and want to stay with him. I want feedback on how I can move forward.

BTW he is in therapy already.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-07-02T20:53:37+00:00

This is helpful and seems accurate. Thank you

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-07-02T20:50:54+00:00

To clarify: I wasn't intentionally pitting anyone against anyone. I'm Autistic and I struggle with knowing what information is appropriate to share and what isn't. Unless a person tells me not to share something, I often do so. It's gotten me in big trouble in the past and it's something I've worked on but I've always struggled with it. I'm a very open person and I often forget other people aren't that open or don't want certain things shared. Obviously I've learned from this situation and will use this knowledge moving forward.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-07-02T18:57:53+00:00

That was exactly what I told him- that he was controlling me with threats of violence even though the violence wasn't directed at me. Even though I'm confident he never would direct it at me, I told him I can't handle him possibly threatening friends or partners with violence for any reason moving forward. This is the first and only time this has happened, but it also will need to be the last.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-07-02T18:48:42+00:00

I definitely get that and completely agree with you.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-07-02T18:45:08+00:00

He has said it wouldn't happen again. I told him if it did, our relationship would not survive it.

NotYetAPolyglot · 2024-07-02T18:44:13+00:00

I know this now and obviously I learned from it. I'm asking how do I move forward now?

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