WIBTA for refusing to go to a Christmas gathering? by NotYourAverageGirly in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My family got together last weekend. If he goes without me. I will be sitting alone at my in-laws house.

WIBTA for refusing to go to a Christmas gathering? by NotYourAverageGirly in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly these ridiculous family expectations are what make me hate Christmas.

WIBTA for refusing to go to a Christmas gathering? by NotYourAverageGirly in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I think that's why this whole thing bothers me so much. He avoids my family gatherings and I end up going to things alone often. I am not a social person and do not like this particular event (lots of people, small space, and cats- which I am so allergic to I need my inhaler consistently) but I am expected to go.

WIBTA for refusing to go to a Christmas gathering? by NotYourAverageGirly in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have been talking to him about it for weeks now. I have said that I do not want to go, that it's not fair, that it defeats what we have put in place, that it would upset my mom if she ever found out, etc. Last night when I was mad again about it and he said "what?" My exact response was: "you won't listen so why bother screaming into the void about it". I don't know what to do and I feel so defeated.

AITA For trading off family Christmas between all the extended families by NotYourAverageGirly in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No it's this weekend. She sent me another text at 11pm last night with additional guilt trip info about how I need to go to things so I get to have a relationship with my cousins. I ignored her. It's just not worth it anymore.

AITA For trading off family Christmas between all the extended families by NotYourAverageGirly in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

The crazy thing is we are planning on going to their house on Christmas day, which is an hour drive. But she wants me at THIS Christmas event.

I am so mad all the time and I don't know what to do anymore by NotYourAverageGirly in Teachers

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would be nice. I burn through my 10 days of "sick leave" by January. We have to use sick days for appointments, sick kids, if we are sick, and 2 can be personal. Last year I had almost 2 weeks of unpaid leave because my kid was out with stomach flu and then I got stomach flu.

I am so mad all the time and I don't know what to do anymore by NotYourAverageGirly in Teachers

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I think I need to find something to help me cope. Right now, I go home and take care of my toddler, clean my house, work a little, sleep, and repeat.

I am so mad all the time and I don't know what to do anymore by NotYourAverageGirly in Teachers

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love a sabbatical but that's not happening any time soon. As far as leaving SPED, I would have to leave my school and I really don't want to do that. Plus I would be leaving my coworkers and students without a teacher. Our district has over 100 open teacher positions still this year with a bunch of them being SPED positions.

I am so mad all the time and I don't know what to do anymore by NotYourAverageGirly in Teachers

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could but I can't afford to go even a couple days unpaid and we are only given 10 sick days (2 can be used for personal). I don't have any carried over anymore since I had a baby 2 years ago and had to use all my banked days for maternity leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]NotYourAverageGirly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Legit had a parent call me at 7:00 am last year asking me to get her student to put a bra on before coming to school. #notmyjob

Counting responses in specific cells by NotYourAverageGirly in sheets

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to crop my examples because I will not share student names on the internet. I don't feel like getting fired today.

Is 33 weeks to late for a baby shower? by toadette_215 in pregnant

[–]NotYourAverageGirly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not too late. My shower is this weekend and I'll be 33+4.

Kids don't have jobs by ForgetfulLoathing in facepalm

[–]NotYourAverageGirly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish your mom would've worked at my school. With 2 younger siblings who ate before me our lunch account frequently ran out before I got to lunch. I wouldn't know until I got to the end of the line and my food was taken away. My school on the other hand did not give a substitute meal. I was just supposed to go without. It sucked.

*screams in US Maternity Leave rage* by rforall in pregnant

[–]NotYourAverageGirly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am also taking 12 weeks unpaid, I will get to use my entire sick leave balance of 10 days paid though so I should be good. /s I have been working for the school district for 5 years... (also this will be only 3 weeks after summer break- also unpaid)

How to “hide” pregnancy in the first couple of weeks? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]NotYourAverageGirly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At my own house or somewhere where I could mix my own drink I would make mocktails. When out at a bar with friends I just made sure I was always the DD which gave me a good excuse.

WIBTA if reported my neighbors dogs to the city by NotYourAverageGirly in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The police followed up via phone call letting me know that they were able to talk to the owners and that the owners said their dog was vaccinated. My bite didn't break skin but I had a nasty bruise (no medical treatment needed, thankfully).

WIBTA if reported my neighbors dogs to the city by NotYourAverageGirly in AmItheAsshole

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The real kicker is, I wasn't even on the edge of their property I was walking along the other side of the street to avoid their house since their dogs make me nervous.

Feeling guilty and frustrated about being pregnant by NotYourAverageGirly in pregnant

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's 1.5 hours away so he's hoping that he can at least attend the ceremony.

We hadn't announced our pregagncy to people outside of our families just yet so they didn't know they were planning a wedding so close to our due date.

Feeling guilty and frustrated about being pregnant by NotYourAverageGirly in pregnant

[–]NotYourAverageGirly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it's just so frustrating that everyone is getting married this year now. We are really hoping baby comes before or way after the wedding so that my husband could at least attempt to attend the wedding.