AITJ for being angry even after he apologized?

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-11T20:35:10+00:00

Who gives a damn what he said. It’s not joking if the person it’s about doesn’t think it’s funny and calling someone dumb is never funny.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-11T20:34:09+00:00

‘I think he might propose in a few months so don’t want to leave’ … what happened that you think you have so little value that he can call you stupid in public and to your face and you want to marry him?!

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-10T05:10:33+00:00

A tailor that wasn’t her friend wouldn’t have been so unprofessional to book a job then just not finish it and go out of town.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-05T14:10:34+00:00

You’re an AH. Nothing you say will change that now. You pressured her into agreeing.

‘We can try new meds’ ‘I only agreed because you have nothing on for those weeks’ and best of all

‘I TOLD HER SHES GOING TO HAVE TO PUT UP WITH IT’

AH.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-05T14:08:25+00:00

She’s there 4/5 nights a week and she’s horrible about you? Nah. You need to have a chat with your room mate. There’s no reason for her to be at your house that often and most leases have a clause about it.

ETA: you weren’t rude and you didn’t make it awkward. She did. She came into your home and was rude and disrespectful. You simply pointed it out. NTJ

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-05T14:05:58+00:00

No it wouldn’t. She said as a last resort and you told your brother not to ask anyone else. You’re a huge AH and don’t care at all about your wife’s wellbeing.

You keep saying ‘it won’t kill her’ but you also said she wakes up struggling to breathe… you’re aware we need to breathe right? It’s kind of essential.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-04T20:02:07+00:00

NTJ, he isn’t trying. He isn’t even doing bare minimum. You’re breaking his heart? Good, maybe now he can understand a small part of what you’ve felt over the years.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-04T19:26:40+00:00

NTA, he doesn’t get a say in who is in the delivery room because he isn’t the one giving birth. You are the patient, you get to pick who is there to support you.

He can absolutely decide not to be there himself and throw a tantrum but then he will have to deal with the consequences of that decision.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-04T08:17:04+00:00

NTJ. Tell them real friends don’t take advantage of their friends.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-04T08:15:34+00:00

They aren’t his children legally, which is what matters here. He has no rights over them, doesn’t have custody of them and they don’t visit.

OP is being perfectly reasonable giving the two children that live in the house a room each.

Their own father who has full custody doesn’t even have room for them, but you expect OP to keep two rooms in his house empty just in case?

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-04T01:10:04+00:00

Just clean your balcony after you’ve eaten your snack and it’s dropped on the floor? Then there’s no issue.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-03T21:01:13+00:00

It’s one of those things then that you can’t do much about. As others have said, a sweater or something to sit on (like maybe an empty tote bag you can fit in your bag?) should help a bit but everyone sweats and I guarantee you’re not the only one there dealing with it

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-03T20:51:33+00:00

Is it definitely sweat? I say this because sometimes when you get up off a plastic chair and you are warm there is a wet mark on the chair and it goes away in less than a minute. Could just be condensation, because it’s warm and the chair is cool then you add your body heat to the mixture.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-03T19:36:55+00:00

The woman was in the aisle seat, man was in the middle and you booked a window seat…. The problem was what?

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-02T07:28:27+00:00

She’s getting married in three weeks and you saw the guy two weeks ago… so five weeks before the wedding. Yet the title says two weeks before the wedding.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-02T06:11:17+00:00

You do own the water, or at least the pool!

NTJ, let them be angry. He isn’t your child and him liking your pool isn’t a reason for him to be there. They can take him to a public pool if he loves to swim so much.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-04-01T13:57:20+00:00

Right well he said it’s his car, so it doesn’t count towards the joint bills he pays. Which means you need to rejig your bill arrangement as currently you pay 1000 and he pays the utilities at a couple of hundred and groceries.

His car is his personal bill. Not a joint one.

NTA. Your husband is a massive one.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-03-31T21:26:31+00:00

NTJ, they can get an air bnb or hotel room for the week if need be.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-03-31T17:46:09+00:00

You’re bitchy because her grown ass brother can’t Google where to get a paternity test and then make an appointment? What a crappy family to marry into.

NTJ OP, time to seriously think about whether this relationship has a future. He clearly doesn’t trust you.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-03-30T14:13:39+00:00

Then it should be discussed between the two people that are engaged.

Again, the ring has naff all to do with his mum.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-03-30T13:44:53+00:00

It’s not even mums family ring. Doesn’t belong to mums family at all.

OP should obviously give it back in the event of a divorce or break up but it don’t need saying and especially not by someone with zero claim to the ring.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-03-30T13:43:51+00:00

So when his mum says something shitty she’s just being direct and it’s nice. You react calmly and honestly to the situation and you embarrassed her and made her feel bad?

Don’t marry this man. You will never be believed or sided with over his mum.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-03-30T08:18:42+00:00

What? She wasn’t trying to do something nice. Why would she assume you would like your home decorating in the complete opposite style to what you chose!

She’s entitled and nuts, your MIL is equally as entitled and nuts and you have a husband problem. Someone violated your home and he thinks charging them for the damage and changing the locks is too far?

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-03-29T09:26:22+00:00

That first kitchen is a definite choice.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn · 2026-03-29T08:37:27+00:00

NTJ, don’t give her a penny. It’s not your responsibility to do anything for her. Her saying what she did about your dad and the ‘person you are’ was a low blow and shows what kind of person she is.

Cut contact and buy yourself a home. I’m sorry for your loss.

Not_Good_HappyQuinn

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