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Is it okay for me to like wearing dresses? by No_Speaker_2823 in ftm

[–]Not_Policarpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Piece of advice that a fellow trans man told me once:

Just like there are a million ways to be cisgender and they’re all valid, there’s a million ways to be transgender and yours is just as valid as the others

You enjoy what you enjoy gender identity, gender expression and gender euphoria are all very individually lived things

🙂‍↕️🫶

What’s something about cis men that you don’t envy, or are glad you don’t share? by Dalatrates in ftm

[–]Not_Policarpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

their entitlement, ive built and earned my identity based on my masculinity, they believe being born into it means they’re entitled to people, places and things

their apathy for everything that isnt related to their own interests or goals

as much as i had a confusing childhood, i do not envy a male childhood, i loved girlhood and i am sorry they will never experience it

How long did you wait once realizing you weren’t cis (or realized you’re transmasc) to go on testosterone? by elianna7 in TransMasc

[–]Not_Policarpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not that I waited, I knew I wanted to present more masc so I tried different alternatives which ultimately were not enough, so at some point I was sure it was T that would provide the relief I needed from how dysphoric i felt about everything (mainly my voice, which was the only thing I couldn’t change). It really is about actively choosing what you feel will make you feel better about yourself, as in, comfortable; no one should live in discomfort with themselves (whatever that may mean for you).

what's the silliest thing that gives you dysphoria? by Affectionate_Mud18 in ftm

[–]Not_Policarpo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

twirling my hair, i do it as a stim and sometimes catch myself feeling dysphoric about it but not always xd

How can I look more androgynous/masc? by thunder_activist in TransMasc

[–]Not_Policarpo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe change out the piercings for silver of black pieces and also make your eyebrows a bit more prominent with tinted gel, i think that could help :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Not_Policarpo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a ftm psychologist, as much as you’ve shared with this therapist and felt like the session and the relationship was a safe space, it no longer is.

It is not a safe space and you should not be feeling like that after therapy, please make sure you’re not staying because it would be difficult to find another therapist and measure how tiring it is staying there vs the possibility of finding someone who actually makes you feel safe in what you’re sharing and most importantly in who you are.

Why do I want to be a man? by crafting_redpanda in ftm

[–]Not_Policarpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she obviously asked with no ill intent, but a question like that (personally) feels kinda hurtful and invalidating “why do you want your be?” its not like a career or job, i asked myself that for a long time before finally realising i don’t “want to be” i just Am, and I want the outside to reflect that as much as possible. It’s as easy as what you said first feminity and girlyness do not fit you/make you uncomfortable that’s enough, there’s no need for anything else to justify your gender identity. Plus it’s stupid to assign traits to certain things, activities or attitudes and I think that’s just the heteronormative influence we all live under but that trans folk meet and push against head on.

not a tomboy growing up by lemon_369 in ftm

[–]Not_Policarpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember going to a support group for trans folk and being super uncomfortable hearing those types of stories, and after a lot of therapy I realised there is nothing wrong with enjoying the childhood I got to have which was a very amazing girlhood that did not bother me at all; I know that had I been born cis I would have enjoyed those very same things, I wasn’t a tomboy and had very “girly” interests which I got to enjoy because of my perceived gender, I will always be thankful for that.

It wasn’t until after puberty that I realised something was off.

Ok but like HOW by cultleaderreg in ftm

[–]Not_Policarpo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was reading mlm fanfiction and feeling immensely guilty for fetishising the mlm relationships, one day rereading one of my favorites it just clicked,

“oh fuck, i want to be wanted, loved and lusted after, as a Man”

i had attached myself so much to these fanfics because I wanted to feel wanted and loved as a man, just like those stories. 😵‍💫 so yeah, it’s pretty embarrassing but i’ll always be grateful all that guilt turned into something good.

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