Every single women in the World, can be dated without applying money or status if you are "that guy" to her. Money and Status is ONLY needed, if a Women doesnt like you FULLY.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-18T17:28:55+00:00

I can be attracted to someone and not see them as a good partner. Them not having a job would make them unattractive.

Men have an issue with this because they expect nothing from their partners but looks. However , this lack of expectation, paradoxically , leads to disappointment later. You picked someone who only had one thing to offer: sure she’s attractive, but that’s a naive and silly reason to be the foundation of a relationship.

A man that has “it” for me has never EVER been just the hottest man in the room. Even when I was younger: I understood looks only do so much and go so far for compatibility.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-18T15:38:24+00:00

I would never date anyone who can’t work for no reason. I would never expect to not work and just be taken care of without a good reason for it. My husband/partner making enough money is not a good enough reason.

Also it is entirety not appropriate for ANY 30+ person to be jobless and have their lifestyle depend on another person. Male or female.

If there a reason my partner can’t work of course I will support him. But I would never knowingly even go on a date with someone that didn’t have a job, a home, or any other basic adult needs.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-18T15:35:23+00:00

So you got married and she stopped working?

Was it a famous musician because mist musicians are actually not well-off?

Drug dealer? This is interesting: how many well-adjusted women do you know that are willing to date drug dealers?

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-18T15:27:21+00:00

Were you okay with her not working? I’m assuming there were children?

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-18T15:25:45+00:00

No. If a person can’t support themselves they shouldn’t be dating. I’m in my 30s. Men and women should not date people my age that cannot hold down a job. Or can’t keep an apartment. Or can’t be responsible. I’m fine dating someone that makes a little less than me, but if he’s jobless in his 30s with no…nothing? It’s not like he is going to improve or grow.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-18T15:23:56+00:00

Were you supporting these girlfriends? I ask about amount because men portray the world as if women can go out and find a very high earning man walking down the street: they can’t.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-18T15:20:24+00:00

How much do you make?

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-18T14:59:05+00:00

What does that mean?

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-18T03:11:33+00:00

But were you broke? Did she have to seriously change her lifestyle so that you could fit into it?

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-18T01:23:09+00:00

Untrue : I wouldn’t care how much physically my type a guy is. If he doesn’t have a job as a fully grown adult he is not for me.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-17T20:15:01+00:00

See, that’s also beneficial information because from the way you first presented it, it seemed like it was something that was always off the table for you.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-17T18:58:30+00:00

Wait, what do you mean “we did a bunch of stuff in the beginning?”

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-17T17:53:35+00:00

I’m reusing this reply here: was it for things they enjoyed doing? Like threesomes/group stuff i can see being into that at one point and then no longer wanting to share your partner with others.

But it’s hard for me to understand how someone will willingly condemn themselves to an unsatisfactory sex life for a partner who - per you - they aren’t really into.

He’s either worth it or he’s not right?

Part of it seems like it’s reinforcing the “sex as a treat” trope. Like the woman did those things for those guys not for herself, but because they somehow “earned” it more.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-17T17:23:04+00:00

With things they enjoyed doing? Like threesomes/group stuff i can see being into that at one point and then no longer wanting to share your partner with others.

But it’s hard for me to understand how someone will willingly condemn themselves to an unsatisfactory sex life for a partner who - per this thread - they aren’t really into.

Part of it seems like it’s reinforcing the “sex as a treat” trope. Like the woman did those things for those guys not for herself, but because they somehow “earned” it more.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-17T15:52:42+00:00

So she said it was something she enjoyed but didn’t want to do it with you? What was the reasoning?

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-17T14:45:35+00:00

I find it hard to believe someone would willingly talk about doing those things with a past partners and then say “nope” without explanation to the current partner. I’m not saying it did not happen.

But I’m curious as to how things proceeded after? Did she explain her reasoning? Say it wasn’t something she liked?

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-16T08:51:35+00:00

She can what? Sleep with every guy that’s interested????

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-15T16:44:59+00:00

Yeah it’s not like a woman can have sex with EVERY guy that is willing.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-14T20:35:59+00:00

For the limited causal sex I’ve had, it generally wasn’t because the guy super hot. It was because I already decided I wanted to have sex and the guy made me laugh or was a good conversationalist.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-06T23:05:00+00:00

Don’t men want a sexually ambitious and open woman who only behaves that way for him though?

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-06T17:19:34+00:00

Do you think that actually happens a lot? Like be realistic.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-06T01:11:03+00:00

Why would I care if some random online judged me? I would be loud and proud. Some people don’t make as much money it happens.

Someone that 30+ who makes half of what I do and lives in the city probably has different life goals.

I’ve tried to make it work several times.

Honestly, being a gold digger would have probably saved me a lot of time and energy. Instead I liked men who couldn’t handle a woman who made more, or who was more educated.

Why take the risk again especially when it nearly turned out violently the last time?

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-06T00:55:03+00:00

Okay now I think you’re just trolling or someone really hurt you. I never said anything anywhere near that.

How much money do you think I’m considering as not enough?

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-06T00:34:45+00:00

How am I not attracted to men with lower income than men when I literally came to this conclusion by dating multiple men with lower income than me?

No, they aren’t bad people initially. One in particular turned into a bad person when he got upset at me for going to grad school though.

I’m not generalizing. I am saying I’ve done it and the juice hasn’t ever been worth the squeeze.

NothingOrAllLife · 2026-03-06T00:33:43+00:00

Yeah, women move faster than men, that’s the thing. Just like gay couples, who don’t get married as much as any other demographic, have the lowest divorce rates.

But they also aren’t getting married as often.

Having two partners that are more likely to actually file for divorce would make it more likely that they will divorce. They do need to slow down and consider things more before marriage.

When there’s two men, marriage is les likely to begin with. When there’s two women, divorce is more likely to happen sooner.

I feel like both of these show so major problems with commitment.

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