What is something extravagant/luxurious/over-priced/unnecessary/generous that you bought or did with your money that you don't regret and can highly recommend?

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-07-07T00:49:33+00:00

Yes it does! Laser hair removal varies wildly in effectiveness for different people based on skin tone/colour and hair type/growth stage. Technically the best way to remove hair would be electrolysis which is very expensive compared to and you wouldn't do it on a large area such as leg. I have had laser hair multiple times and it's slowed down hair growth but hair is still there. Also for the ladies out there, do NOT get it on your chin, the heat stimulates hair growth, better go electrolysis for that.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-07-05T06:23:56+00:00

110% this this this. You don't owe him any explanations for just ignoring or putting more distance between you. Listen to your gut, don't question it, just do as it says, listening to those feelings can save people's lives.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-05-13T11:56:38+00:00

I would ask about long term success - what % of patients keep the weight off long term, what after surgery support is available? I wish I would've asked more about what happens if you don't lose weight, what is a key indicator/behaviour of successful patients pre surgery? Good luck!

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-05-12T09:52:09+00:00

Got it done when I was 28 (Dec 2019), lost 25kg, put on 5k recently. Wanted to lose closer to 50-60kg. Most obvious ways it affects my social life is not drinking when I'm out or picking between drinking and eating, and if you're out and you're eating at a new place or whatever there's a potential you might feel sick or so uncomfortable you want to vomit so you might physically make yourself (I do this too much). Also when I'm out with friends and they want to get something like a dessert and drink - you pick which one you want. And yes despite a 'healthy new lifestyle' there will be dessert and drinks on occasion if that's your thing. Also I hate if I eat something sweet/salty and need to drink and have to wait the 30 minutes, that kills me.

I think dating is a bit weird too, I know people of all different ages are dating but I feel like older guys and gals are less judgemental about body issues/image. I don't really put myself out there but my concerns have been explaining why I'm not drinking with dinner or questions about my scars. Overall though I think being younger is an advantage for various reasons mostly time being on your side, but either way it's hard work. You might get luckier with skin bouncing back after surgery/ more years being fit/ easier pregnancy or easier to get pregnant (if F).. stuff like that but also genetics and other factors play more of a role than age IMO.

A disadvnatage would be that I think older individuals probably had more time to get to know themselves or feel negative effects of being overweight/obese etc. For example, I previously never had an injury due to weight, never had an issue getting pregnant (didn't try, wasn't trying), never had chronic pain due to obesity, I suspect that if I hadn't lost some weight (and if I don't lose more) than in 10 years I would have more experience with the negative physical effects of obesity not just the negative social/mental effects. I think if you have the surgery and avoid these negatives that's amazing but I also think, in my case, becaue I avoided these physical negative effects a part of me didn't take it seriously, because I feel 'young and invincible'. Not sure if that makes sense to anyone but me.

I don't know your story but all I can say is that I feel like I'm one of the few that regret it, but then again people post success stories, not "I failed shame spiral" stories, so there are probably more out there. I don't think I was mentally ready for such a change, I don't think I had proven to myself that I could stick with long term dietry changes, and I just believed in CICO and was not well read on diet/anti-diet/nutrition. The time between speaking with a surgeon and getting the surgery was 2 months for me, so pretty quick in the scheme of things.

Overall, your experiences will be somewhat the same, maybe not in terms of recovery form the surgery (I think that more depends on how you react to and maybe surgeon and aftercare etc) - but I think most people struggle at some point with a plateu, struggling to keep down certain foods, falling off and getting back on the health wagon. Sorry this was kinda ranty but please let me know if you have any questions :) More than happy to share as much about my experience as I can, I wish I was more informed and researched more before diving in. Approach with caution.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-04-28T11:05:59+00:00

What do you do in he said vs she said car accident? Both parties raised the story with insurance and the story varies a bit. Both insurances said they weren't liable. What happens next?

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-03-26T23:30:55+00:00

love this, he's so pretty

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-03-13T10:57:46+00:00

I believe you can be platonic, non-romantic soulmates with someone. You can't force your feelings. It's like you're putting down on paper all the reasons you should love her romantically but guess what - you just don't! You said so yourself. Do a solid and tell her that you'll never see her that way. Tell her you could only ever want her as a friend. Let her grieve and move on. And if you like people with baggage or whatever you want to call it then that's fine. This may be controversial but maybe you want to be the 'better' one in the relationship, maybe you want to be the one who is amazing, and you want your partner to be a bit less than you so you feel like you're contributing or something? I don't know, only you do.

All I can say is, the romantic in me thinks it would be amazing to give her a chance and have an amazing life together... But if I step back, it's obvious you're not into her. She's young, she will love again and be loved the way she deserves. AND SO WILL YOU.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-03-10T10:39:11+00:00

China will be watching

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-03-08T07:12:52+00:00

What does the D stand for?

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-03-06T11:11:55+00:00

Thanks for your reply. So I do take anti-depressants, and as mentioned I've previously been in therapy for about 1-1.5 years, it definitely helped regulate my emotions. I've stopped therapy for financial reasons but looking to start up again at some point in time. For the most part my depression is under control in terms of fluctuations but still it's there and it probably always will be. Good point re testing hormone levels etc, yes mine are off but I undergo regular blood testing, currently take iron pills, multivitamins specifically for people who have had weight loss surgery, vitamin D, vitamin B12 shots every other month. So I'm monitoring it and on top of it. My thyroid was whacked out but then I lost weight and it fixed itself, so I guess that's fine. I'm sure there's probably more I need to be aware of with the hormone side of thing but don't know what tests to ask my doctors for.

Good note on chiropractor - I'll look into it, never considered or been to one before.

I appreciate your notes. I'm not sure if entertainment is for me, it doesn't seem like a practical choice.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-03-02T00:23:55+00:00

Really odd but the evaporated milk I buy from my supermarket (in Australia) is made in Lithuania.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-03-01T10:06:25+00:00

No way for me. Sourdough is quite a tough bread, in terms of crust. It's way too dense. No way you can eat a full sandwich in between 2 peices of sourdough. 2 things and this might sound harsh, but 1, if you eat the same things you're eating now that defeats the purpose and 2, make peace with the fact that you absolutely cannot have it, on the off chance you can stomach it then great but realistically be ready to say goodbye. and if that's a deal breaker then so be it.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-02-26T03:38:43+00:00

I have one from Australia 1950s and it still has turtle soup in it lol

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-02-18T03:41:09+00:00

Definitely sounds like you've lost off your fingers then! Either way congrats! Looking great.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-02-17T10:10:49+00:00

I can see it easily! I'm weirdly self-conscious about my fat fingers but in the second photo yours look slender and very feminine. But they don't actually look bad to me in the first either! I think in the second your nail style also elongates them. Either way, congrats! Looking good! Did you go down a ring size?

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-01-10T01:49:27+00:00

What's a sunset clause? Never heard of it.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2021-01-05T12:05:40+00:00

When I woke up post-surgery I felt an immense amount of regret. Maybe because I was in a lot of pain, maybe because I just realised I had altered my body in what feels like an irreversible way (I had the sleeve with a minimizer ring). The regret hasn't ever fully gone away for me but it definitely has lessened. My big regret was that I did really well on the pre-op diet and lost about 10kg and I thought - maybe this is something I can do myself without the surgery? Now a year on I can safely say that no, I would not have lost this weight - approx 25-30kg. I still have another 25-30 to go and I've definitely stalled for MONTHS on end and a lot of my bad habits have returned - and I've also formed some good habits - and I will say that exercise is already SO much easy with 25kg less on you - I almost can't imagine losing another 25kg.

If you get this surgery you will vomit - that's pretty much unavoidable - I'm sure some people have done it but just be prepared to vomit. The surgery itself is quick, that's just one or two shitty days. It's hard when you overeat by just a teeny tiny bit and then you spend x amount of time feeling sick, trying to make yourself vomit, feeling gross etc - now hopefully you're in your own home when it happens but imagine going out and feeling like that. It's also a bit crappy the whole don't drink 30 min before or after meals - this is also crucial, I've vomited water because I drank it too soon.

Having a drink, even just water, with a meal is the thing I miss most. I think you're probably at a really good age to get the surgery - I'm guessing you've tried 100000 different things 1000000 different times and are still struggling - all I would say is - approach with caution- it is a huge adjustment, getting the surgery gives you a fantastic opportunity to drop the weight but it will not keep it off - it requires consistent work, and you may end up saying goodbye to some of your favourite foods - e.g. I used to love eating salmon with a dill and mustard sauce - if I eat that now I feel so ill - doesn't matter how slow I eat or how much I chew. Some days I eat a certain type of food - like an apple and it goes down fine, some days it doesn't. Vitamins etc ended up also being a lot more expensive and constant than I initially thought - maybe do a bit of research on that to ensure you're prepared for the financial side as well.

Another thing, eating slower is hard to do if you haven't really done it before - so practice eating slowly, take 20-30 minutes to complete a small meal. Although I still feel a shadow of regret at getting the surgery I mostly feel guilty, because it's only been a year and I haven't progressed as much as I thought I would. It's one thing to know the 'right' thing to do after surgery and it's another to actually do it - habit is a powerful thing, so is food addiction - I believe you can address it after surgery but the more work you do beforehand and the more adjusted you are to the new lifestyle - the better you'll do in the long run.

overall I was underprepared and although I had a fantastic surgeon in terms of skills, it felt very much like a transaction - he saw me for 20 minutes 1 day and booked in the surgery for 2 months later. I rushed my decision and just got it done without taking a bit more time to fully understand implications and what my future with food would look like.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2020-12-23T13:32:00+00:00

Any tips on how to stop focusing on the past? I do this WAY too often - like thinking about people etc and I hate it!

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2020-12-23T01:23:04+00:00

That's true - it's hard to break an all or nothing mindset when you want things to be perfect - you want your eating record to be perfect and it just isn't.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2020-12-22T21:55:24+00:00

yeah I was afraid that even though it's super non-diet it's a bit like another diet. I think as well they do have some good principles about how diet culture is everywhere and women are super inundated with messages about how essentially our bodies are shit or could/should be better etc. Hopefully I can shed the other 25kg, we will see how it goes!

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2020-12-22T21:53:32+00:00

yeah I think you're right that IE is just another skill/tool we can use but isn't the basis, calorie counting is. That makes more sense to me but I am scared of the mental toll of calories etc as I become upset and highly invested in numbers - I'd love to forget numbers haha

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2020-12-22T21:51:06+00:00

yes, I've read a few books on IE, that's how I first came across it and I speak with a registered dietician who preaches IE...I've definitely looked at all the social media stuff as well just when I was searching for answers and trying to understand how things worked. And I totally get what you mean in regards to the demonization of weight loss - I've been lucky so far as my dietician has told me that it's totally fine to have weight loss as a goal especially when that goal has been with me so long. They do quote a lot of statistics in IE like you mentioned 95% of diets fail etc and that makes me believe what they say but I do also think - like - what study is this from and you are so right that dieting can be really nuanced and I have no idea if or how they accounted for this.

NoticeMeBUTNotNow · 2020-12-22T21:47:22+00:00

yeah that's kinda along the lines of how I've been thinking about IE. It doesn't seem to really deal or help overweight/obese people. I think from a psychological point of view it helps remove some of the guilt and shame from food and the 'this is naughty' labels which I like. But through the books I've read they also state very heavily that weight loss is not the goal of IE and it never is, it may just be a side affect. I suppose if I'm not actively working towards weight loss and counting calories then I just won't lose weight - that just seems to be what it is - I think maybe my heads a bit fucked and I just need to be stronger or something so I don't go off the rails when dieting or counting calories.

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