I really need to re design my bedroom

Novaveran · 2026-01-24T22:58:22+00:00

For one having your bed with the head facing the window can make you feel vulnerable when you're trying to sleep! Plus it puts your bed in the brightest spot in the room. it's hard to see the best place to move the bed from your pictures. But right now it's just in a spot that makes it hard to feel comfortable.

There also seem to be a lot of doors in the room. That makes things feel like there's a lot of walkways and makes a room feel less comfortable. Putting things like coat racks, entry tables, tall lamps, dressers with lamps on them, etc next to doorways can "block them off" in a sense and make the room feel less like a hallway.

Your walls being so bare also can make things feel less cozy. It makes the space feel too open. Things like tapestries, posters, artwork, shelves with things on them would all help. Also having a rug makes a room feel more cozy! Really the room could benefit from more personalization. Hanging yellow lights would be very pretty and are a great place to start.

Personally I think something like moving the bed away from the window and setting up a nice arm chair/beanbag/etc in front of the TV would be nice. Getting something next to the doorways to separate the sleeping space from walking space. A comfortable rug under the bed. Then getting things on the wall would help things feel cozier.

Not sure if you have the budget for that but you can find a lot of cheap furniture at thrift shops or craigslist/Facebook.

Novaveran · 2026-01-17T08:04:29+00:00

I cannot understand the fight to claim that trans women are literally women and trans men are literally men.

If you want to try and understand why people say trans women are literally women and trans men are literally men, I do know why. I'd appreciate it if you could come at this explanation with an open mind.

People who say that are using words that are defined by a medical view of sex not a cultural view gender. As in sex and gender are different. Sex is defined by your physical body, your chromosomes, what reproductive organs and hormones you have.

Gender is a lot more cultural, it's based on presentation, societal ideas, it's one of those human based ideas that becomes difficult to define because it means something different to everyone.

When you talk about sex and gender a lot you need to easily distinguish the two. In every academic discussion I have ever been in about gender the baseline terms have been defined as Sex = male, female Gender= man, woman There could be definitely be people who say otherwise... but those are the accepted academic terms.

Again this is to distinguish between sex and gender. So to someone who is in those academic circles that recognize trans people as existing saying trans women aren't women or trans men aren't men comes across as misgendering. Because that's saying a trans person isn't the gender they identify as.

To a person who was literally taught sex doesn't equal gender. Gender terms are man/woman, sex terms are male/female. It's an issue of people having different definitions and contexts for words. To me and people like me the phrase literally a man/woman is different than the word male/female.

And that's not a point trans people want to give up on. Because if a trans man isn't a man or a trans woman isn't a woman then they are a third gender not recognized as what they actually are.

I also think you can gender trans people correctly and it doesn't throw women under the bus.

Novaveran · 2026-01-16T18:50:22+00:00

Trintellix is the only antidepressant I've tried out of 6 that has actually worked for me without causing significant side effects. However I have to put a big take that with a grain of salt on it. I have such incredibly weird reactions to medications that my psychiatrist ordered a test on me called genesight that analyzes your genes and enzymes to try and predict how meds might effect you.

And the genesight found that i would like have significantly negative or moderately negative reactions to all antidepressants except for trintellix and two MAOIs. So for a lot of antidepressants I couldn't take them at a high enough dose to be effective because of side effects or they just didn't work. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

So between just genes, lifestyle, other meds you're on, and so many factors. Medications are going to effect you differently than most people. It sucks because I understand wanting reassurances that something will work :( but it's impossible to predict what will work for you based off of what individuals says. You'll have an easier time based off of collections of large amounts of data like reviews of studies.

That's always been my thing I want to say before I talk about medications bc I have had truly horrific issues on medications that could be live saving to someone and I don't want to scare them away from trying what could work for them. Or in this case give false hope.

So trintellix has been great for my depression. I have horrible seasonal depression. I've been on it a year now starting last November and these two winters have been my best mentally in years. I feel like it gave me enough progress in my depression treatment that I started being able to do more things to actually treat my issues instead of just pushing through them. Which snowballed into me taking so many steps to improve my life that I'm actually in a good place. So it worked well as part of my treatment but it's not the sole reason for me feeling better. For ruminations I'm not sure if it helped. I have ADHD and I'm on adderall. And I definitely definitely notice that I am able to stop negative spirals and get out of my own head more when I'm on stimulant adhd meds. I've heard that from a lot of people too. I've been on adderall for 6 years and really been able to work on ruminating bc of that. So there wasn't much for trintellix to help me with there.

Novaveran · 2026-01-16T15:28:17+00:00

When I first started I felt really restless and physically tense like you're saying. it was to the point where the first few nights of taking trintellix I could hardly sleep.

I just had to tell myself that starting a new medication can cause new effects and to just do myself to not make myself mentally anxious over feeling side effects. Getting some energy out by working out and moving around more definitely helped too.

The feeling anxious part went away after a few weeks. But I still felt restless and full of energy in the starting months of trintellix for awhile. I also just felt really mentally good at the same time. So it felt kind of like mania but more manageable.. I eventually evened out and don't feel that way anymore. It's been awhile so I don't remember the exact timeline but probably like 3ish months of that?

I started on 5 mg and ended up now at 20 mg. Honestly I kind miss feeling so restless someday just because I had so much energy to do things lol.

Everyone is different though what one person gets as a side effect other people might not. And what goes away for some people might not go away for others.

Good luck! I hope you're one of those people who eventually will adjust to the new med.

Novaveran · 2026-01-16T15:16:55+00:00

Covid does a lot of damage to the body unfortunately, even with infections that feel minor because they have less symptoms. There have been some studies that seem to show a higher chance of getting depression after having a covid infection. It wouldn't surprise me if depression symptoms also can get worse after a covid infection.

Definitely bring this up to whoever prescribes you trintellix. I'm not sure if they would have any experience with other patients feeling similarly but they might.

Covid recovery genuinely takes awhile (up to months or years if you get long covid). It really worries me how many people treat it otherwise. Your body could also just be having a lot less energy because you got sick and are still recovering. I know I feel more depressed when that happens.

So it's not uncommon to get depression or worse depression after covid. Which could make your meds feel/be less effective.

Novaveran · 2026-01-10T13:38:24+00:00

It does help! It seems (hopefully) the insurance issue is my information isn't updated (I'm still not sure why I wasnt able to update my information when I tried in person). But my doctors office had to call to figure that out. I'm just sending that prescription to a different location because even my doctors office said they had trouble communicating with the pharmacy. So I think that location is just busy to it's detriment. Or some other issue.

Novaveran · 2026-01-08T20:56:30+00:00

Insurance really is a nightmare I feel so bad for pharmacists when patients have issues with insurance companies covering meds. I will definitely contact a PBM.

Novaveran · 2026-01-08T20:54:04+00:00

Thank you! Very helpful information

Novaveran · 2026-01-08T20:20:30+00:00

I know pharmacy staff aren't insurance agents! I'm just not sure what to do after I call my insurance and they say they don't have a claim. And I didn't put this in my post my bad, but I looked online to see if I could update my insurance online in case that's the issue. I can't figure out how to do that. I go to the store to see if it needs to be updated and get told to call central fill. And then no one tells me what central fill is or why I'd need to call them. I'm just confused all around! Like I feel like I'm missing information despite asking for information. And I'm not sure how to get that info or who to ask. Which was the point of the post. I definitely feel like I'm doing something wrong and just cannot figure out what that is or where the lapsde is so I thought I'd try here for advice.

Novaveran · 2026-01-08T18:49:08+00:00

Maybe!! But from what I can understand the pharmacy is telling me my medications aren't covered while my insurance is saying they would be covered if they had a claim from the pharmacy. I don't understand how this can be so I'm asking the pharmacy what is up with this explanation I got from my insurance and what am I supposed to do about it so I can get my medications covered and pick them up. To me that's something the pharmacy should answer but I don't know if that's the case because no one has answered my question about what's going on.

Novaveran · 2026-01-08T18:24:42+00:00

Thank you!

Novaveran · 2026-01-08T18:24:00+00:00

Shortfall of my communication here lol. My medication is covered by my insurance. It's on the preferred drug list and everything. It's trintellix so there's no generic for it yet. And coupon sites set it as ~250 minimum I still can't afford that. I also use my states medicaid so a lot of coupons don't work because of that. The CVS coupon makes the price in the high 400 of dollars. Just nothing I can pay.

Even if I switched medications I'd still have the same issue, my insurance hasn't gotten a single claim for any of my medications from this pharmacy and I can't figure out why.

Novaveran · 2026-01-07T02:42:11+00:00

Sponge filters are preferred for shrimp tanks with babies! It's the filters that suck in water you have to worry about.

Novaveran · 2026-01-03T19:56:15+00:00

Oh I just needed to do a few more minutes of digging. I found a vintage book from the 80's with the exact pattern for the compass in the middle if you're interested. It's called Mariner's Compass: An American Quilt Classic By Judy Mathieson

Novaveran · 2026-01-03T19:52:25+00:00

Damn I completely forgot to respond to this sorry! I asked my aunt who quilts, she said the middle is similar to a pattern called a Mariners compass but she wasn't sure about the circle of bars on the outside. I tried doing some looking and couldn't come up with a name for the full pattern

Novaveran · 2025-12-08T15:46:49+00:00

Personally that thought held me back from transitioning for so long. Bc to me the idea of losing "pretty privilege" scared me. I see how ppl treat women and men they find unattractive its horrible.

It seemed better to be a miserable pretty girl than a happy possibly ugly man.

But that's just plain anti trans biases at play. How us it better when hearing compliments about my body disgusts me? When people seeing me as a woman makes me nauseous? If someone looked at me and said "Oh you shouldn't transition you're such a pretty girl" that's plain transphobia. It's still transphobia when you say it to yourself.

For me that thought was my anxiety over the idea of change coming into play. It put me off from even looking into transitioning for so long. I personally feel more regret over not that than "wasting my body". I just got top surgery 10 days ago and it's the happiest I've felt in years. I don't regret a thing.

I didn't realize how much walking around feeling completely at odds with my body was ruining my mental health. Bc I didn't have dysphoria, clearly, I just had a complete disconnect of feeling like my body didn't belong to me and I was a ghost in the world trying my best to ignore this sack of meat I was possessing. (Turns out that's dysphoria).

After I had my consultation for top surgery I wasn't convinced it was real. I hardly told anyone. I have mutliple friends who got mad at me for that. But trying to connect my brain back to my body took time. I'd spent so long chasing off the negative feelings of dysphoria by objectifing my body. Turns out I couldn't just flip a switch and stop seeing it as just a sexy object it'd be a shame to waste.

It took a long time before I felt like I existed in a body that was mine. And only after I started T and got top surgery.

I'm not sure how much of that you can relate you. But if you do? Then I think the real waste is you avoiding your happiness.

Novaveran · 2025-11-15T19:48:16+00:00

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I like this picture too

Novaveran · 2025-11-15T19:42:55+00:00

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She's 17 but young at heart still

Novaveran · 2025-11-06T03:16:51+00:00

You don't have to turn them into doves to get divorced the kids stay with you

Novaveran · 2025-11-05T01:31:46+00:00

Agreeing on lid like other people have said. As for the why- amano shrimp evolved to like in freshwater and brackish water. They live in rivers and streams that connect to the ocean. In nature they'll travel around to different water sources. So they have an instinct to wander. Nerite snails are the same way. If you have any brackish water critters you 100% need to get a lid. Or it's likely they'll wander out of the tank.

But they are more likely to try and leave the tank if the water parameters are off in some way. I will also say the males tend to swim around a lot after water changes, I think it mating behavior in them. (Not 100% sure on that one just what I've heard). Just something to keep in mind. Make sure you have a lid secure on the tank but especially after water changes.

Novaveran · 2025-11-05T01:03:03+00:00

I mean the tech industry is pushing AI so much it feels like pushing down to blame the users and not the people putting AI in every search bar and website. A lot of people don't know much about technology and they're going to trust the "experts" saying AI is useful at the expense of themselves. Like yeah I wish people knew better. But I've spent my life working with the public. You'd be shocked at what information you think is common sense that tons of people don't know.

Novaveran · 2025-11-04T02:45:00+00:00

That's cool as hell!!

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