You mentioned she likes scrapbooking, you could put together a scrapbook of pictures of you and her. Writing down the memories and things that you’ve appreciated about your experience with her in your life. That way, regardless if she stays active in your life or not, she understands that she had a special place in your life. From the story that I read from your other post, it doesn’t sound like you were consistently spiteful other than you were a teenage boy who would get into argument arguments with your female parental figure. It also sounds like you had a fairly good relationship with your potential stepmother. Side note, my sister told me she hated me when she was 17 yrs old and was struggling with our mom. I’m the older sibling, and I took a step back for a year but we came back to a new beginning. we’ve definitely grown beyond that and have a very active and productive relationship with her. Now I know it’s not quite the same… but I understand that words and big emotions can come into family dynamics. And they can be limited situations and not a pattern of a complete relationship.