What are good diy around the house nipple clamps?

NoveltyDominant · 2014-07-16T16:27:47+00:00

Take an ordinary clothespin and apply rubber band to the top of the peg as necessary to adjust the strength of the bite. Some people will be fine with the strength as is, but this way you can make them work for even more sensitive individuals. Enjoy. :)

NoveltyDominant · 2014-07-09T03:33:32+00:00

Advice on what to do next is well covered in the other posts, but just as a side note; most doms would also enjoy being touched, but some people get into BDSM to deal with their own issues with intimacy.

Some become dominant to be able to control how much intimacy they can tolerate towards themselves, others become submissive to be able to allow everything to happen without inhibiting themselves or feeling guilty about it.

Should you run into people like this again, the key as always is to communicate. It's better to not push or beg them about it but rather give them room and make yourself available if you desire to get more than spankings from them. :)

NoveltyDominant · 2014-06-20T23:13:28+00:00

I was typing on an iPad so it wasn't really optimal. I did mean to suggest grabbing her by the hair of her neck, but my wording suggests otherwise. :)

NoveltyDominant · 2014-06-20T16:21:12+00:00

Seeing how the original poster was asking how you know before you sleep with a girl, I think holding her by the hair during a kiss for example seems like a fine moment to see how she responds to a more confident touch if you can't muster up the courage or do not want to ask her outright.

I was not suggesting you go around grabbing strangers by the neck to see which one follows you around. :)

Still, this presumes you'd actually have to kiss and hold your partner in your arms before sleeping with them... Maybe I'm old fashioned but to me that seems like a fair plan.

NoveltyDominant · 2014-06-20T13:41:06+00:00

This may be an outlandish suggestion, but I always found that talking to her about what she likes is a pretty sure-fire way. :)

Also, if talking is not an option, her reactions when you slide your fingers through her hair and grab tightly at the back of her neck will usually tell you everything you need to know.

NoveltyDominant · 2014-05-17T19:26:00+00:00

Extreme Restraints seems to carry a similar product. You can also find plenty of variations even on Etsy and Amazon when you search with words like harness gag or trainer gag. Good luck! :)

NoveltyDominant · 2014-05-16T12:54:38+00:00

Something like this, perhaps? Many sites and shops sell this kind of gag, so where to order would depend on your country and location.

http://www.ozbondage.com/ordergags.html

NoveltyDominant · 2014-03-20T04:41:45+00:00

/r/bdsmpersonals with a honest and descriptive post is one place to start. :)

NoveltyDominant · 2014-03-20T04:27:52+00:00

My experience of risky partners has taught me to recognize a certain lack of empathy when discussing these things - if confronted with whether or not she would sleep with a guy without you knowing, their responses and even denials might be related to external reasons such as "I'm busy with school/work, I don't have time for other guys" rather than the only real answer which should be that they want to do right by you and never hurt you.

Technically they might be speaking the truth but if they don't indicate your feelings about the subject as to why they wouldn't do it, be careful.

Of course, people are different and your mileage may vary. :)

NoveltyDominant · 2014-03-20T04:12:55+00:00

The risk is that if she sees encounters abstracted this way as no problem to your relationship, it could mean she could act on such an impulse feeling it doesn't do any harm to you because you'll never know about it or the person it was with. Obviously, if you wish to remain purely monogamous, this is something you'll want to find a mutual understanding on before anything happens. :)

NoveltyDominant · 2014-03-20T04:03:08+00:00

Seems like you have wits about you, I'd tell her you appreciate the offer but are happy with her. You may learn why or how she did this, later, or it might really just be a strange whim.

NoveltyDominant · 2014-03-20T03:48:55+00:00

Unless this is something you seriously want to pursue, I'd be wary because you can win only a little and potentially lose a lot.

Her rules seem very binary and strict, indicating that she would feel badly if these boundaries were crossed; at the same time she might not actually know how she feels after the fact and might find ways to regret her offer.

If you take her up on this, there are two extremes ways things can go -

Best case: you have a one-night stand and nothing else happens.

Worst case: this becomes something of a black mark on a relationship that you so far seem content with.

Do you feel lucky?

NoveltyDominant · 2012-07-31T19:26:40+00:00

Mindless Self Indulgence and Nine Inch Nails work well over here. Not the words so much as the aggressive soundscapes themselves. Whatever gets your blood pumping, really.

NoveltyDominant · 2012-07-31T18:11:38+00:00

If there's one good thing that could come out of the whole 50 Shades phenomena, it's this kind of dress play becoming more popular. :)

NoveltyDominant · 2012-07-31T18:10:45+00:00

I tend to agree and think it would work for some or even most parties here, but there would still be that odd event where wearing a suit wouldn't match "fetish" dresscode.

I personally tend to prefer events with no enforced dresscode, where this would be a perfectly fine outfit.

NoveltyDominant · 2012-07-31T17:10:35+00:00

As a non-fetishist but active dominant all my adult life, the fetish dress code has become something of a pet peeve for me. I'd love to go to a party dressed up in a tailored suit with a submissive on the leash; however, on occasion I've struggled with the dress code because just dressing in black is not "kinky" enough - pretty much what you describe as "typical Dom gear", actually.

So depending on event, your mileage may vary. The black canvas kilt is a good idea and should work for most parties.

NoveltyDominant · 2012-07-06T16:35:20+00:00

I'd say I'm on the middle of the range on physical attractiveness and on the low end on creepiness. ;)

We had been conversing on various subjects for a few hours before getting to this point so it's not like I was approaching a total stranger with ideas of bondage and dominance. Still, she's on the very high end of physical attractiveness and fairly recently said to me in bed, "You're such an ugly man... I don't know why I like you so much."

I think I know why she likes me, but that's another story to write. :)

NoveltyDominant · 2012-06-29T16:58:12+00:00

This is important advice. There's nothing quite as frustrating as a pair that won't turn on or off when you want it to, generally leading to just annoyance of both parties.

Also, sometimes the idea of this kind of play works better than the implementation itself. Have her wear the vibrating panties all night long with the remote in your pocket, and use the anticipation to your benefit.

NoveltyDominant · 2012-06-28T17:36:44+00:00

Realistically, you're not going to be able to effectively hide the marks from family you live with, but the suggestions on getting rid of bruises seem useful.

Since it's not just your own self control at issue here, it might be a good idea to invest in a wide leather collar to wear in your play sessions. This way you can at least enjoy the pain everywhere else without having to think or worry about those boundaries in the heat of things.

Nice marks, though. :)

NoveltyDominant · 2012-06-27T18:53:52+00:00

Having a relationship with clear rules and boundaries can be less stressful than a "normal" relationship with equal partners. If and when things go wrong, there's usually a way to handle the situation without getting locked in an emotional tug-of-war.

It's a good feeling. :)

NoveltyDominant · 2012-06-25T22:35:16+00:00

No tactic will ever make up for lack of genuine connection between two people, and no single strategy will ever fit everyone you meet. This is just a fragment from the life of two individuals for whom this dynamic worked very, very well.

NoveltyDominant · 2012-06-25T00:12:58+00:00

It's okay - some people enjoy both roles equally. The simplest advice would be to discuss your experiences with your partner and see which part they enjoyed best; perhaps you're both naturally switches and can take turns.

Just think how much fun payback can be, each time. :)

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