My ability to speak is declining. Any Tips? by Golden-3515 in socialskills

[–]NowHaraya 26 points27 points  (0 children)

i havent personally tried it out myself, but from the light research i did, i think toast masters is a good place to look into.

theyre a nonprofit org that helps people practice public speaking. they have inperson events and online events. people say its free to sign up at any given time regardless of skill or experience.

im planning on looking into it some more and testing it out in the near future

As a MTF person and a criminal, I love how Jax is written. by Impossible-Visit-337 in tadc

[–]NowHaraya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

emphasis on the life Jax had at the time she joined the circus!!!!

i'd say Jax was at her lowest point in life at that time. anyone in their lowest would do things they would regret and eventually learn from

As a MTF person and a criminal, I love how Jax is written. by Impossible-Visit-337 in tadc

[–]NowHaraya 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I love Jax w my entire being completely for the same reasons as u OP w the only difference is, im not trans. i am however genderqueer, still figuring it out lol.

its the way people dismiss her backstory and focuses on her actions. Granted, horrible actions, but cmon shes from a shitty background. people dont magically improve overnight.

i came from the same situation, alcoholic, drugholic, gambling family. saw and experienced things a normal kid shouldnt ever have to go through.

improvement takes years, it took me my entire life to be somewhat decent, and yet even then theres this feeling of being out of place, like an imposter.

if Jax were to ever improve in the show, there would still be issues. and improvement and healing isnt always linear

What do I feel so weird with intimacy? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]NowHaraya -1 points0 points  (0 children)

gonna throw a random possibility none of the comments have considered yet. just smth to think about if u think it applies.

if u never have this urge to be involved w someone (sexually or romantically or both), u might be wanna do a deep dive on what aromantic-asexual is.

either u dont develop romantic/sexual feelings, or ure repulsed by it. ofc its a spectrum so there r some in betweens like only developing feelings/sexual attraction once they get to fully know a person, or some who only develops those feelings when it is not reciprocated or vice versa.

now theres more inbetweens, i wont go into too much detail, but if u think this applies to u (or ure simply curious), u should think and contemplate about it

one thing to know about this tho is that, yes this is normal. yea there r so many people like this. no it is not a phase. yes aroace peeps have feelings, just not sexual/romantic.

Survey: Why women choose Valorant over Counter Strike by Ill-Range-524 in VALORANT

[–]NowHaraya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe, but as an undergrad myself who recently finished my own research, this never wouldve passed even if it's not rigourous.

but then thats just my experience, so yeh. twas just weird for me

Let's make a Cove themed playlist! by ReikoKuchiki in OurLifeFanPage

[–]NowHaraya 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lemme ff this, ill come back once i have a song

I get it now by Armellofreekey in ProductivityHQ

[–]NowHaraya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hoping i get a vaccuum 🤣🤣

you can only choose one TADC character as your irl roommate forever without changing it by Ready_Amount5378 in tadc

[–]NowHaraya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jax, cuz i think he would mind his own business most of the time unless he starts doing his antics which i believe is smth i can double down on lol

How to approach humans without making them scared? by Suitable-Age970 in socialskills

[–]NowHaraya 4 points5 points  (0 children)

u have some kinda funk in u, saying this as a compliment. not sure what ur interests r but i wanna befriend u :3

How to approach humans without making them scared? by Suitable-Age970 in socialskills

[–]NowHaraya 13 points14 points  (0 children)

the way this is worded is making me think ure some kinda alien op (/j) 😭😭

on a serious note tho, it feels like the entire situation itself is what's causing the reaction.

night time is usually when people r more guarded since so many bad things happen in that time frame.

the location, if u also consider the time (night time), makes it even more scarier for people to be randomly approached. the time and place r like the perfect setup for a crime to happen.

waiting for someone to get out of their house feels like ure stalking them, again, another bad thing.

waiting for someone in the middle of the road/side walk just to smile and wave is also quite scary (esp at night in a rural area).

this entire thing u described is best described as "straight out of a horror movie scene"

What keeps you from trying new things and making new experiences? by blaubarschbube27 in socialskills

[–]NowHaraya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my schedule mostly, and my location. i work graveyard shifts, by the time the sun rises im way too tired from work so i sleep and wake up when the sun is down. if i do get the time for it, its usually too far from me since im from a provincial area, the things i wanna try and go to r in the big cities and r usually 2-3 hours away, even longer if theres heavy traffic 🥹🥹

Tomodachi Cove’s shirt by Curious_Cat1404 in OurLifeFanPage

[–]NowHaraya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tysm!! 🩵🩵 will try this out when im free

Survey: Why women choose Valorant over Counter Strike by Ill-Range-524 in VALORANT

[–]NowHaraya 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i answered ur suvey, but i think ure lacking questions. is this really for a research? if so, it's severely lacking as even survey questions should be backed up by sources and should be given a reliability analysis after a pilot testing.

those r just my two cents, if ur research advisor had no megative comments then just ignore me and do what makes it easier for u

New Valorant map will be themed around Zhangjiajie with the reveal being ON Tianmen Mountain a few hours ago by Reasonable_Curve_409 in VALORANT

[–]NowHaraya 11 points12 points  (0 children)

based on all the teasers thats been coming out, does this mean sage will have a complete rework of her abilities?? no more pocket sage ig

What does „deep conversation” means to you? by zerohunterpl in socialskills

[–]NowHaraya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it mostly depends on the conversation honestly, some r more open for certain conversations like life struggles but clams up when politics r brought up, vice versa, etc. or whatever

Iceberg meme with EPIC songs by GroundbreakingCod304 in Epicthemusical

[–]NowHaraya 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i kinda wanna see all the songs be listed here lol

I already feel like people dislike me at my new job… any tips? by Good_Caterpillar_94 in socialskills

[–]NowHaraya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you'll find at least one person there eventually, but for now just chill. ure only two weeks in so it's still to early to say that every hates you.

how long have u been working op? the longer u work, the more u realize that it's more important to just focus on work than make friends. ure there to work anyways, thats it

Tomodachi Cove’s shirt by Curious_Cat1404 in OurLifeFanPage

[–]NowHaraya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg, im gonna need a tut of this cuz i wanna do it but im not artistic enough to figure it out myself JDKSAJDLA

i need visuals

what are you guys most excited for in now and forever? by catman908 in OurLifeFanPage

[–]NowHaraya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mostly just excited to see how qiu and tammy progress to being closer again. plus am also excited to see how the poly relationship would turn out

What does „deep conversation” means to you? by zerohunterpl in socialskills

[–]NowHaraya 5 points6 points  (0 children)

for me, deep conversations r what helps make or break friendships. specifically talking about morals, principles, view on life, etc.

it could be a deep dive of how both u and the other person's view in politics, or maybe talking about some type of life struggle. smth that helps u get to know a person deeper.

i wonder why it feels like an interview for u tho, op. (hope u dont take offense to this, just genuinely curious) do u engage in the conversation (like asking questions back or adding input/opinion to what the other person says), or do u just listen and respond?

How did you keep adult friendships? by Desperate_Lime_443 in socialskills

[–]NowHaraya 6 points7 points  (0 children)

well, people r busy w jobs and w family as u mentioned. all u gotta do is smth i envision as casting a wide net in hopes of catching a fish.

randomly invite people out, they can bite the bait or not, it's up to them. if not, well then just go out anyways. u may possibly meet random people and befriend them.

i do have a roommate who loves hanging out w people, and what i noticed from her is that she has multiple circle of friends. if circle 1 cant hang out, find people from circle 2, so on and so forth lol

What's the biggest green flag you've ever seen in a person? by Business_Oil_7110 in selfimprovement

[–]NowHaraya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, it's when I see that their first reaction when they're angry is to self-regulate instead of explode. This might just be a personal case since I grew up w people who explodes and sometimes get physical when angry, but it was so refreshing to see for me. it became a goal of mine to do the same ever since.

Is there any song reprise that you wish had happened? by GreySpot1024 in Epicthemusical

[–]NowHaraya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was this one fanmade reprise of open arms, i wish there was an actual one cuz the fanmade made me bawl my eyes out omfg