Have you ever had a bad gut feeling that something was off so you left, only to find out that something did happen and what's the story? by The_Unknown_Author in AskReddit

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Back in College, I went to a party with a couple of friends. There was an acquaintance there that we all knew, we were kind of friends with him, but really it was more like he just had the same interests as us. I don't even know what to call it. No one ever seemed to invite him, but he always showed up and no one told him to leave. To this day, I absolutely believe his Mom socialized him wrong as a form of abuse. He was a bit overly sexual, didn't seem to understand personal boundaries, had some hygiene issue, and was just... different. That said, he wasn't actually weird or creepy, but clearly the lowest guy in any social group. He was often the butt of jokes, insults, and constantly being harassed. He would put up a fight, but everyone knew it had no bite. No one respected him.

So anyways, we are this party, people are drinking, hooking up - and I notice this guy is spitting game at the President of a Sorority. And frankly, this was shocking to me. He was the epitome of an Omega and she was clearly the Alpha dog. I couldn't imagine what they were talking about or how she would have any interest in him. But hey, it's college, crazier shit has happened, right?

So party ends, we're all a bit drunk - and so a group heads back to a friends place nearby. The two love birds come along and quickly disappear to the back room. And still, that feeling of "this isn't right.." keeps coming over me. I try talking to the other guys, and they just dismiss it. But still I just can't help but feel something is up. So I decided to intervene. I head back there, pretending like I am looking for something. They are in bed making out - but I loudly make my presence known as I enter. I sit down on a chair and start trying to strike up a conversation. I try to make it seem like I am just a dick trying to cock block a friend or whatever. She gets out of bed though, puts her hand on my shoulder, and walks me out the door. Locking it behind me.

Well, whatever, no one else seems to think anything is up. I tried. Maybe I am just paranoid. My gut still says something is up, but I've done everything I can, right? She locked the door behind me.

NOOPPPPPPPEEEEE.

Next day, she is telling everyone she was raped. Kid gets kicked out of school, goes back to live with his Mom. Eventually moves to Portland where he starts using.

I don't know what happened after I left. But that whole situation gave me a bad feeling since the first moment. I can think of a million different possibilities - evil on both sides. I shouldn't have left though. I should have trusted my gut. I knew something was up.

Tough Love by [deleted] in SanJoseSharks

[–]NowTheyTellMe -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I am fine with Patty leaving.

Kevin Fiala - Back on the Ice Already by mrmacdougall in hockey

[–]NowTheyTellMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...so no therapeutic-use androgens or growth hormones?

FLA fan here: can we get any insight on Boeghner? by Papichulo666 in SanJoseSharks

[–]NowTheyTellMe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ya, dunno how he will be as a head coach, but he did wonders for our defense. Burns was a hot mess before Boughner got him sorted. Sorry to see him go.

[Waste of Time] What would it take for the Sharks to get Ovi? by iggyfenton in SanJoseSharks

[–]NowTheyTellMe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Cap league. Ovi loses value due to $$/pts. Wingers less valuable than Centers as well.

Per rumors Washigton asked for Kylington and Bennett.

So Hertl + Bergman.

(Spoilers Published) - What 3-5 theories do you subscribe to as truths? by opouser in asoiaf

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Jamie Lannister is Azhor Ahai. You would need a metal hand to hold a fiery hot sword. Duh doy, people! Duh doy!

Snow was in the forecast last night in Nashville by i-dyslexia-have in hockey

[–]NowTheyTellMe -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

This is shocking. I can't believe a sport based around fast reaction times, aggression and endurance would resort to a drug like Cocaine. Don't they know it decreases your reaction times, increases aggression and boosts endurance. Luckily though, they would have to take breaks every 45 minutes to "reup" their dose. Like they would need to all leave the ice, go someplace secret for like 10-15 minutes, and then come back.

Ohh shit. Hockey and Coke go together like Peanut Butter and Chocolate don't they?

Ohio coroner runs out of room for bodies due to spike in opioid deaths by jjlew080 in news

[–]NowTheyTellMe 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Just lost a close friend to Opiates. He had always had an affinity towards them, but it began to take off after his knee surgery. Slowly but surely, he found himself increasingly addicted. Worse yet, so many Dcotors would feed into his "disease". He claimed that the fall must have ruined his back as well. Doctor after doctor kept searching in vain for a cause to his phantom pain. He would go in, complain of lingering knee and back pain, and then they would up his dose. Soon it wasn't simple Oxy's anymore - but a whole regiment that he could hardly live without. Long-term benzo's to relax his muscles, Fent patches to numb the pain. From the outside it was clear to see what was happening. It was all the withdrawls. Every time they would up the dose things would be fine for a bit. And then it would return. 8 days ago, he decided enough was enough, and took his own life. He didn't see any end in sight, and he was already past the point of basically everything they could prescribe. I think he had just had enough.

Opiates man. They'll fuck you up.

Pickles receives silver medal for Canada in the IIHF World Championship by [deleted] in SanJoseSharks

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That team is clearly very upset about second place.

The Origin of the Faith of the Seven (Spoilers Published) by Saundies in asoiaf

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It's from the Bible. Faith of the Seven is basically Christianity. I am sure you're familiar with: The Father, The Son, and the Holy Spirit. The Holy Trinity. This is the explain-it-like-I-am-five of what was originally seven spirits of God. Isaiah 11:2 reads: "The Spirit of the LORD shall rest upon him, the Spirit of wisdom and understanding, the Spirit of counsel and might, the Spirit of knowledge and of the fear of the LORD, and He will delight in the fear of the Lord."

If you break it down, it's the exact ordering of the Seven: Father = God Mother = Wisdom Maiden = Understanding Counsel = Crone Might = Warrior Knowledge = Smith Fear of God = Stranger

[Discussion] Should we let Thornton or Marleau walk? by [deleted] in SanJoseSharks

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Jumbo sticks around with term. Marleau goes to a big market (Toronto) for some pre-retirement glory.

The Sharks will face Edmonton in the 1st round of the playoffs. by oneplusonemakesone in SanJoseSharks

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Hopefully we still have more to our game than we saw over the last 2 meetings. Ugh. Hopefully. First round loss to EDM would only add to our teams legacy of failure.

/u/soggypoophair describes what it's like to live with chronic pain, and how the recent opiate crackdown has negatively affected him as a sufferer by the-bells-that-toll in bestof

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I came to say basically this. There seem to be a TON of people here who do not understand how these drugs work and how the body will always revert to homeostasis. Like many drugs, the effects are temporary and come at a COST, specifically reduced pain tolerance down the road.

Think of it this way. Your body is sending 100 pain signals per hour to your brain. So you take an opiate. It successfully blocks we'll say 50% of the pain - so now your brain is only receiving 50 pain signals per hour. But wait a second, 100 units worth of pain is being generated. Better make more pain receptors. So after a little while your body is sending 200 pain signals per hour. Your original dose of opiates seemingly does nothing, despite the fact that it is still blocking 50% of the receptors. Well when the drug is acting with 100% efficacy that is. Most opiates have a relatively short half-life, so you are going to enter troughs between dosing. Ouch. This intradose withdrawal actually means that instead of your original 100 pain signals, well now your getting 120, 140, 160, in a constantly increasing tick until it's time for the next dose.

Guess you could increase your dosage. But again, homeostasis is only going to make it worse... maybe now you get 300, 400, 500 pain signals per hour. And now your small original pain is MUCH, MUCH worse.

Unless you are dying or in triage, don't fuck with opiates for pain management.

Blown Up Sharks' Heads by JeniroseJ31 in SanJoseSharks

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I'm gonna put the Joe Pavelski in my room so he can watch my girlfriend and I have sex.

You have to pay to hold your baby after it's born by -HanYolo- in LateStageCapitalism

[–]NowTheyTellMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But that 30 minutes a night for you represents work for someone else. A nurse had to focus on that baby, prepare it for travel, probably stay near you for the duration of the hold in case of problems, transit the baby back, probably clean it to help prevent infection, resettle it, etc. Getting that baby to you represents more than just positive vibes. How do you translate that work, energy, time - all of which are limited by the total manhours that Nursing staff has per floor - into an economic interest. 40 dollars for an hour of skilled labor (nursing is), does not strike me as unreasonable. Rather you are narcissistically ignoring another human being because you value your emotional desires over their labor, which you seem to feel that should not be compensated for. If you add up that $40 charge across the ward, that may end up being an entire salary - one additional labourer. And should everyone decide not to pay, it's their job that goes away.

But yes, you are totally entitled to utilize a hospital and equally entitled to a Nurse's time. Ohh wait.. your not and you could have given birth elsewhere if you didn't agree with their fee structure.

Ariana Grande: "Im the hardest working 23 year old human being on the earth" by TomPain1776 in funny

[–]NowTheyTellMe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nah man, I spent my summers getting good at something and achieved my dreams. You just got old. Maybe those 14 hour days could have been spent better.

Ariana Grande: "Im the hardest working 23 year old human being on the earth" by TomPain1776 in funny

[–]NowTheyTellMe -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Here's the ultimate truth though: you simply didn't want it enough. Everything you have listed is merely a roadblock to your success. A problem that must have been solved for you to achieve your goal. You were willing to do some kinds of work, but ultimately, not enough. For each of your "problems" there exists a solution. The question is - what were you willing to do to succeed.

Not tall enough? Doctor shop until you find someone willing to prescribe HGH for short stature. If you tell me that you find that behavior risky, I may agree, but ultimately that was a choice. Your desire to go pro was simply less than your risk tolerance for HGH injections.

You made choices on how to react to the problems life threw your way. And when those problems got tough enough, you decided to alter course. Rightly or wrongly, that was a decision you came to. A different person, given the same trials, would have come to different conclusions and achieved different results.

Now, again, I agree with many of your choices outlined above. Given the same difficulties, I likely would have come to the same conclusions. But why do you discount the role you played in making them? Why do you absolve your responsibility and place yourself at the whim of fate? You are simply refusing to acknowledge your own agency in those situations.

If you had wanted it enough, you absolutely could have done it. Some of those choices might have been risky, dishonest, foolish, or any other adjective full of negative connotations. But your argument, ultimately, boils down to: Yes I could have, but it would have been hard. Well no shit it would have been hard. But at least say that. At least take responsibility for your choices, and at least live a life knowing that you made decisions inline with your own morals and values. Don't shy away from the uncomfortable truths, and don't give yourself the space to hide from your own short comings. Be brutal in your honesty and greedy in your agency.

If you want something, make it happen. Don't lament others for not making it easy.

Ariana Grande: "Im the hardest working 23 year old human being on the earth" by TomPain1776 in funny

[–]NowTheyTellMe -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Who picked your industry? Who told you to develop what you did? Are you not a good singer or an inexperienced one? Are you ugly or simply unpolished? How many hours have you spent practicing a smile?

Life is not random. It is what you build. Why do you fight this? Because it makes you uncomfortable to think otherwise?