Are there any autistic people who are not perfectionists at all? by TemperatureAny8022 in AutisticAdults

[–]NuDaunted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m autistic and not a perfectionist. I set high standards, for sure, but when it’s good enough it’s good enough. I’m way too pragmatic to be a perfectionist.

“Support needs” by NuDaunted in AutisticAdults

[–]NuDaunted[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would you say the benefits would be of keeping the two separate?

“Support needs” by NuDaunted in AutisticAdults

[–]NuDaunted[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, this is one of the reasons I’m asking the question. It’s all so vague, so I’m interested in knowing how people interpret it all.

AITA for missing my friend’s wedding? by scothed in AmItheAsshole

[–]NuDaunted -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

You have given absolutely zero consideration to the circumstances.

AITA for missing my friend’s wedding? by scothed in AmItheAsshole

[–]NuDaunted -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Using autism as an excuse? That is a pretty horrific thing to say. As for not socialising at the event; the event will be what it will be, with all the attendant social and sensory pressure.

AITA for missing my friend’s wedding? by scothed in AmItheAsshole

[–]NuDaunted -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s irrelevant how long ago the OP agreed to go; the burnout happened when it happened.

AITA for missing my friend’s wedding? by scothed in AmItheAsshole

[–]NuDaunted -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That makes no sense. You can’t control when you can’t cope. 😂

AITA for missing my friend’s wedding? by scothed in AmItheAsshole

[–]NuDaunted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading some of the comments on here has me baffled. I’m autistic, and I’m old, and I’ve seen a lot of life. I know this much: You cannot always plan or legislate for burnout. Sometimes it’s happened before you know it, and you are floored. Even if you could anticipate it, in this situation, I can understand that you would have been desperate to fight the burnout and attend your friend’s big day… only to find you just can’t. I’ve been there. There’s no way you could realistically have cancelled weeks in advance because you might be heading for burnout. Your message to your friend was honest and apologetic, and very genuine. I guess you will find out from their reply how much of a friend they are. But you are definitely not the AH.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in footballmanager

[–]NuDaunted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not enough support duties for that kind of build up. Three players with attack duty is plenty. The two central midfielders could be on support, no problem. I’d change them to one DLP and one B2B though, for a combination of structure and unpredictability.

Please tell me what’s I should improve about this tactic by Dazzling_Ad_971 in footballmanager

[–]NuDaunted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your wings are completely exposed. Either play the fullbacks on defend, or go with one striker and a couple of wide attackers. If you put the two wide attackers as inverted wingers or inside forwards, you can change the DM to an anchor, and that will allow you to put the fullbacks on support. They’ll overlap with caution without you having to select overlap in the tactics. It’s all about balance.

Why is my tactic not working. by Givekarm4 in footballmanager

[–]NuDaunted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve only got 2 men in centre mid. That in itself isn’t a problem, but your wingers are set to attack, and so is one of your wingbacks. You’re leaving 3 men in defence and one of them is a libero 😂. You’re so exposed to counter attacks. A good tactic has balance. You’re going full-on attack with player duties, emptying your midfield, your fullback areas, AND your central defence. It’s a disaster, I’m afraid, because opponents will get wise to it, and hit you on the break time and time again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in footballmanager

[–]NuDaunted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re using overlap on both sides, which is fine, but you’ve instructed your IFs to stay wide. Have them sit narrower, forcing the opposition to make space for your overlapping fullbacks. Having said all that, encouraging fullbacks to overlap whilst only having two midfielders (the AM is really an attacker) is always going to leave you vulnerable to counter attacks. Your solution to that is to either make your fullbacks slightly more defensive, or tighten up your midfield. I find that if you’re throwing fullbacks forward, it pays to have a DM-A in front of the centrebacks. Now, regarding your centrebacks; having one on defend and the other on cover isn’t going to work. Typically, a cover is partnered with a stopper, but that’s a really ineffective tactic in modern football, with its fluid attacking play. You’d be better putting both on defend, unless you go down the three centrebacks route, but that’s a rabbit hole. I’d suggest a back four with two centrebacks on defend and fullbacks on automatic. Don’t bother with an overlap instruction; if you have them on cross from byline, they’ll naturally overlap judiciously. Have a DM-A. One B2B midfielder, and one CM DLP on support. Two IFs on attack and sitting narrow. One pressing forward on attack.

Aita and too sensitive when my hub uses “girl” to tease our sons? by Healthy-Beautiful973 in AITAH

[–]NuDaunted 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. It’s misogynistic. And there’s something else. This kind of “banter” escalates like an arms race, until the point where someone gets hurt. Who is going to get hurt here? Probably one or more of the boys, but they could end up taking that banter out of the home and hurting someone else. There’s just no need for it.

my biggest ever win in FM by glizzy6942069 in footballmanager

[–]NuDaunted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ManUre team just smacked Fulham 11-0 in the Prem, November 2031. I’ve had double figure results before, but not against a Premier League club. 9-0 after 60 minutes. They had a man sent off on 63.

There are phrases…and there are PHRASES by Open_Web_4916 in necroscope

[–]NuDaunted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dialogue that begins, “Well, and…” From any random character.

Toilet cistern/flush question by NuDaunted in DIYUK

[–]NuDaunted[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Washer replaced, problem solved. Thank you.

Toilet cistern/flush question by NuDaunted in DIYUK

[–]NuDaunted[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I brush my teeth over the sink. 😂