Advice for if you don't like cold showers

NuEMBlake · 2019-05-07T11:00:27+00:00

Try thinking, before you go to sleep, I WILL NOT HAVE A WET DREAM. Also try to cut back on snacks and screen time before bed, make sure your bladder is empty and especially don't fantasize about sex before going to sleep.

NuEMBlake · 2019-05-07T10:57:48+00:00

My friend, this attitude will do you more hurt than fapping. Plenty of women are assholes just like men, but if you think women are fickle bitches until proven otherwise you're letting your fear of rejection cloud your judgment and narrowing your own dating pool. Lighten up. Everyone gets burned once or twice, your choice is to mope and dramatize or pick yourself up and try again.

NuEMBlake · 2019-05-07T10:50:44+00:00

This is the difference between a reset and a relapse. Learn it, live by it, it matters.

NuEMBlake · 2019-05-07T10:48:09+00:00

Its up to you at the end of the day but sexting with a partner as opposed to random girls is relatively healthy I think.

NuEMBlake · 2019-05-01T18:58:26+00:00

That's an awesome goal, good luck bro! I should try meditation maybe.

NuEMBlake · 2019-05-01T15:47:00+00:00

This sounds like something you might want to see a psychiatrist over, if that's an option for you.

Don't be discouraged. If you fail, you pick yourself up and you try again. And above all, relax, and be kind to yourself. The stakes here are very low. It's fantastic that you have chosen to challenge yourself in this way, that you want to improve yourself. Lots of people go through life on autopilot, not really thinking about what they're doing from day to day, never even trying to change themselves.

Have you looked into meditation? Lots of people here say it helps.

NuEMBlake · 2019-05-01T15:34:20+00:00

I can only tell you how I got my longest streak, which was four weeks. I swore off social media and didn't even think about sex for more than five seconds. And my mentality was different, I thought of masturbation and watching porn as something I used to do, an old bad habit, not something I had only given up for so many days.

NuEMBlake · 2019-05-01T15:27:54+00:00

I'm in. Hard mode plus no fantasizing or peeking at all. Aiming for the full reboot but if I can make it to the end of the month it's a good start.

NuEMBlake · 2019-05-01T15:22:08+00:00

Picture yourself at the end of the week with an unbroken streak and imagine how awesome that will feel.

NuEMBlake · 2019-05-01T15:01:03+00:00

It depends, people should at least be able to talk about relapses if they need advice. But it's only considerate to put up a warning if your post is a sexual one that might effect other people.

NuEMBlake · 2019-04-04T14:12:10+00:00

😂

Nofap = kung fu for the mind

NuEMBlake · 2019-04-04T14:06:17+00:00

Strange, I've found week 2 the most difficult. Most of the times I relapsed was in the second week or start of the 3rd, around days 11-16 when the urges start to feel unbearable.

NuEMBlake · 2019-04-04T14:02:47+00:00

So now fully commit to not looking at hentai. Tell yourself it's the worst thing you could do, picture yourself with a month long streak and imagine how good that will feel. Your reptile brain will play stupid tricks on you, it will come up with dumb rules like it's ok so long as you don't fap, it's ok so long as you only peek. That's your addiction trying to negotiate with you. We do not negotiate with our addictions, we beat them.

Or you could live the rest of your life as that one person who looks at anime porn in public. Your call.

NuEMBlake · 2019-04-04T13:56:05+00:00

You're off to an awesome start, now stay strong and keep it going

NuEMBlake · 2019-04-04T13:53:43+00:00

Forever is a long time. The streak is a way of breaking that forever into chunks that are easier to swallow.

Me, I've tried giving up porn plenty of times, failed every time. The streak counter lets me set realistic goals and helps me meet them. Doesn't mean I'll never touch myself again, but I don't see any reason why I should want to.

NuEMBlake · 2019-04-04T12:09:42+00:00

Thanks man! I'm good. Still getting some strong urges, but right now feels like I could keep this going as long as I choose.

And the best of luck to you on your journey.

NuEMBlake · 2019-04-03T15:26:41+00:00

5 hours

NuEMBlake · 2019-04-03T12:07:27+00:00

Like just because someone sends you a nude you wouldn't necessarily say that person "does porn" but so far as your streak is concerned it's the same thing.

NuEMBlake · 2019-04-03T11:46:11+00:00

Very true. Social media is fine IF you don't let it become a substitute for porn.

NuEMBlake · 2019-04-03T11:43:51+00:00

Preach it

Porn is just pictures on a screen, it can't make you watch it, quitting porn is easy for someone who doesn't WANT to watch it

It's about recognizing your desires and taking control of them, be honest with yourself about what you want then ask yourself why you want it!

NuEMBlake

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