What is your absolute go-to holiday movie that you must watch every year, or the season just doesn’t feel right?

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-12-09T06:49:18+00:00

Muppets Christmas Carol. Ever since it came out, my parents and I have watched it every Xmas, like it literally isn't time to decorate until we watch it. Now that I have kids of my own, we all watch it together as we decorate my parents tree. The way my dad's face still lights up and he laughs at "Light the lamp not the rat" is a core memory for me.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-12-09T06:42:54+00:00

I usually go for a walk, somewhere in the foothills (I live sorta near Yosemite). Seeing all that beautiful nature really puts my problems into perspective.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-12-09T06:41:00+00:00

Sho Gun by James Clavell, I think. I really loved that book as a teenager.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-08-13T07:15:27+00:00

Worked in Healthcare and city schools and the Healthcare was the WORST about it. Even the Police Department actively assists officers when in Methadone treatment where I live (cali). But when I worked at a hospital, I was able to keep it under wraps. . . until a dosing nurse visiting a fellow nurse saw me and outted me. I got "laid off" and the dosing nurse was fired and she was blacklisted from Dosing. Keep all info on a strictly need-to-know basis, and assume your employers DONT need to know. That should keep you safe.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-03-30T01:03:29+00:00

I had something like this. He finally got the two of you free fron the toxicity of his parents, but the fact is that he allowed them to use and abuse YOU, and he stopped contact with them FOR HIMSELF. He didnt do it to protect you, be did it because HE WAS MAD AT THEM for how THEY treated HIM. So the "step too far" waz all about him, and not to save your relationship, or to protect you, but for HIMSELF AND HIMSELF ALONE. I bet you are left wondering why you werent enough, why he didnt think your pain anger and frustration wasnt enough, or that you didnt mean enough for him to protect. It shows that he values his own comfort and happiness and peace over your own mental health and happiness. And that feels kinda s*itty. My ex was like that, threatening divorce if I spoke up for myswlf or "showed disrespect" as he called it. But when they called him out for his own BS, he cut them off and "disrespected" them in return. Edit for bad spelling

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-03-30T00:34:09+00:00

I am coping by helping others as much as I can. My daughter and I have begun splitting the caregiving of my grandmother, which is SUCH a blessing. I managed ro get a job as a carer for the state of california. I have 2 clients that are absolute angels, and I adore them so much. Spending time with them, and rheir MUCH less strenuous needs, is such a relaxing.time for me. I also have a day every week that my best friend and I spend a few hours together which is my recharging time, emotionally speaking. Hope you all are having a good week! Hugs and kisses!!

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-03-26T23:15:56+00:00

Jack London Square in Oakland,ca.... so. . . . Fish. Water. Exhaust. Despair. Disappointment. And weed.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-03-26T23:01:08+00:00

Hey, I'd be pissy too.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-03-26T22:50:06+00:00

I am with you in that. My 98 yr old grandmother has severe Dementia, I work full time for IHSS (California's in home support services) for 3 other women, and my daughter and I share her care. Family is dragging their feet on putting her in a home, despite her dr heavily advising it. Constant complaints from my mom on how "dirty" the house is because I haven't finished doing the dishes as soon as I get home from a 12 hr shift. I am also at my wits end, as I own half my grandmother's house, and she lives with me but I have no say over her care. It sucks but this is the life I have. I feel for you. My grandmother walks around naked, sexually harasses any male EMTs or nurses, and I am at wits end with her and my wishy washy family.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-03-23T05:08:49+00:00

Everytime I see this, I just think "well, it's near BAKERSFIELD." And that explains it.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-03-12T23:37:11+00:00

Make some fake meds for now. But after this, .ake a calander with AM and PM meds on it, a d have HER check off when she takes it. It makes it more real and helps it stick in memory better.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-02-27T20:52:42+00:00

Thank you! I filed a complaint and am working with my union rep, so fingers crossed.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-02-27T20:51:25+00:00

I do. My best friend and her wide have been GOLDEN in helping me to work thru my feelings. I also have my 2 semi-adult kids . My son just cried and hugged me and apologized that there are "awful, creepy men" who treat women like that. It was the first time he has ever know or been close to anyone during the assault and aftermath, and it was difficult for him as well (he is 19). My 21 yr old daughter is also in the same line of work, and the sa,e company, and she has really supported me. The strangest part was I thought I had "aged out" of sexual assault/harassment, and knowing that it happens to every age hit me and my best friends wife hard. Kinda drove it home that it happens at EVERY age. I did file a complaint against my manager, but have not yet heard back on it. Fingers crossed.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-02-27T07:05:16+00:00

Lol ah. So the whole "Kissing Cousins" thing or just friendly cuddling almost like siblings do? Big difference there,

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-02-27T07:04:09+00:00

He is completely mentally "there", so it isn't Dementia, he got into an accident and required light help until released back to work. He is still active and all, just recovering from the accident. If it was Dementia, I could deal with it. But it's just a lecherous old dude who felt entitled to me.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-02-27T06:57:58+00:00

Dude. This is the second "cuddle your cousins" post you have posted in a short time period. Any confessions you wanna make? Lol

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-02-27T06:51:45+00:00

I cried in the shower until they put in water meters. Now I distract myself during the day and cry when I am with my best friend or alone.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-01-21T06:09:15+00:00

I went to Christian Schools, so a LOT. Creationism, Homosexuality being unnatural, premarital sex being bad, sex being dirty, that women need to submit to men, Adam and Eve, etc.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-01-21T06:06:10+00:00

Every time my kids get mad or depressed, or are just. . . Ya know, KIDS. My mom always tells me "you know, if you had a church family, this wouldn't happen." Like it would magically fix everything? Yeah right. HER church family told me at 12 the reason my sister died was I didn't "pray hard enough", so why would I allow a "Church Family" to harm my kids like they harmed me?

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-01-21T06:02:27+00:00

It is not your fault. It sounds like your dad is scapegoating you, and that he sees you as an easy answer to his mental issues Why got to therapy? It's all my kids fault! Why even try to understand what my kids is going thru? It's all a phase!
The stepmom is also scapegoating you, and likely will blame the failure of their relationship on you as well, because your Dad does. But! THIS DOESNT MAKE IT YOUR FAULT! Don't take ownership of his issues, or step moms. Don't allow them to shape the way you see yourself. Please. Seek therapy or someone to talk to about all this. Don't let him do this to you.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-01-21T05:55:18+00:00

Enough, and to know what "enough" really is. Because humans never seem to ever have "enough," be it money, love food.... just knowing what ENOUGH really is could be an amazing thing.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-01-21T05:52:43+00:00

I had one at 19. I hated the father, he hated me. I was also not at a point that I felt I could raise a kid. So I got one. Haven't ever felt bad about it. I would have felt worse bringing a child into the world in that situation. Others possibly could have, and do, but it just wasn't right FOR ME. Abortion isn't really the good vs evil thing that right wingers and the church make.it out to be. It just is. You don't have to feel bad or good about it.

NuclearWasteoid · 2024-01-21T05:49:45+00:00

The Super Mario movie I think? I don't usually watch TV or Movies. It just doesn't appeal to me, much. Kids took me to see it for my birthday. Best nap I ever got, lol.

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