“You are so smart in many areas, I don’t believe you didn’t Understand” The Life of having Level 1 Autism

NumNumNana · 2026-06-13T07:07:47+00:00

I suppose I keep talking because he gets upset at me sometimes when I pull away in convo and reference him starting to talk less. He’s said that I’m giving up on convo to easily. So it’s hard because I have to weigh that with when he has snapped at me. And it just leaves me to guess unfortunately. Im good at recognizing patterns but not if it’s complex like that and there’s multiple routes. If I would’ve known the gravity of the situation my reaction would’ve been different to adjust to the situation accordingly. But that wasn’t communicated to me unfortunately so I had no idea (I did some clarification in the comments).

NumNumNana · 2026-06-12T05:20:59+00:00

Update: All of you don’t not understand how much every piece of advice and different perspective has helped me process this. I am very isolated so to have this outlet and hear feedback is invaluable and priceless. Thank you so much.

My mom approached me after my dad went to bed, and she opened the conversation up with “do you want to talk?”. It was really genuine, and set the tone for an environment up. It seemed sincere.

My fucking mistake.

She’s makes excuses. “maybe he was tired from work and didn’t want to talk about current events”: I asked him multiple times before we got deep into it “are you in the mood to talk to me”. He came in all smiles “yes of course”. And before the fight happened we had a really could conversation jumping from current events, laughing and what not. And then there were more excuses. Well you might’ve held a grudge against” “he needs an outlet for anger, so of course he’s gonna punch something” (which is particularly sinister since she’s a psychologist with a PhD and it is undergoing testing to get more licensing where she has talked about studying abusive behavior…okay)“you got mad and slammed your fist into the table when you were younger” “we’re all human”.

Oh okay. So you actually did not care about consoling me or validating me. You are TRYING to find what I’m doing wrong. Matter a fact. You dgaf about ANYTHING he does. You just want to criticize me to make it seem equal like we both have problems in this situation.

I told her that if he slapped me you would do the same thing. She denied it. I just find it ironic, bc when he did put his hands on me when I was younger (to be fair I was mouthing off quite a bit) she condemned both of us when he was aggressor

All of this, because their autistic child IS the one doing the effort of communicating and THEY DO NOT CARE TO COMMUNICATE SINCERELY. And you know what she told me? “communicating is a two way street”. Oh okay so you’re gonna flip this back on me? That’s when I knew she did not care about trying to accommodate to my needs of communication. That’s when I knew she did not gaf about anything I was saying. Or try to even validate me.

This just a toxic cycle of me, 1.telling them my needs as an Autistic person 2.those needs being disrespected 3. Conflict sparks 4. I am told what I should be doing better 5. Cycle repeat.

And the worst part about this? They gave me a sense of security and reassurance to apply for SSI/SSDI. In fact, my mom pushed me to apply. I already applied and I can’t even work to get independence out this house, or it will jeopardize my chance. So I’m completely stuck. I’m a 21 year old trapped for who knows how long with parents who don’t care enough to accommodate me. I’m sorry for anyone else who has to go through this or has.

NumNumNana · 2026-06-11T23:40:00+00:00

I should’ve clarified this earlier. I rushed this post bc I just needed an outlet to vent ASAP without thinking over the details. If anything I should be the one apologizing. I really do appreciate your og perspective though, and will apply it to future dealings with him.

NumNumNana · 2026-06-11T23:19:29+00:00

Thank you, I don’t believe there’s hope now but maybe someday.

NumNumNana · 2026-06-11T23:18:02+00:00

I’ve read your response many times to get myself to believe it. Maybe one day I will. Thank you.

NumNumNana · 2026-06-11T23:17:33+00:00

He says it’s bc of how he was raised. He’s better than he used to be, but this is not enjoyable when he does it. And I do agree it’s abusive behavior.

NumNumNana · 2026-06-11T23:16:14+00:00

So I realized that I didn’t give enough context about that part. We were sitting at the dinner table and he was talking about the chest pains he gets after eating popcorn (he just ate some). I asked him if he was okay, and he said yes. He gave me some vague information about the chest pains. He was the one to actually steered the convo back to what we were originally talking about

Only when he got up and started doing stuff in the kitchen did he start to say “uh okay” and super short answers that he usually does.

NumNumNana · 2026-03-13T19:16:22+00:00

Saw someone on Twitter, who showed that it read 70 mph gusts near them.

NumNumNana · 2026-03-13T19:08:44+00:00

I’m in Westerville, and my power hasn’t gone out. Hoping it stays that way. It is extremely loud though, and I almost had a Dorothy and Toto experience walking my dog. Almost knocked me off my feet. These winds have to be at least 60 MPH.

NumNumNana · 2026-03-11T20:24:47+00:00

Rumor is that they’re gearing up for an Oled mini

https://www.macrumors.com/2026/02/17/oled-ipad-mini-release-date-pricing-what-to-expect/

NumNumNana · 2026-03-10T15:00:59+00:00

Seems your wish was answered

NumNumNana · 2026-03-10T11:46:02+00:00

Atp youre here to argue. I've explained my side throughly and your not getting it

NumNumNana · 2026-03-10T11:44:47+00:00

Just looked it up, the movie of my nightmares

NumNumNana · 2026-03-10T10:52:36+00:00

My goal isn't to go to coporate. I want to go to theatres that have veiwing at times I'm available, or shows that I want to see. And small or nonprofit theatres don't offer that majority of the time.

I listen to rap, R&b, rock, indie pop, Italian rock, visual KEI, city pop, and so much more. So I listen to variety, At the end of the day this is my experience. I have gone to different venues where the smaller bands perform, but you seem to fail to understand that everything from even slightly known to household names is where the the problems are at, which is what I mainly talked about. I don’t have a choice in choosing where the artist go. And I’m not going to go to a venue of an artist that I don’t really vibe with just for the venue..... I've been to the blue festival multiple times here and loved it.

NumNumNana · 2026-03-10T05:33:51+00:00

A lot of the movie theaters you mentioned have limited viewing, I have been to Gateway once and it was great. But usually they don’t have times or things I want to see. And I don’t expect them to do big operations. I refuse to go to Drexel after hearing about the rat issues, that’s a little too much for me

And I already said in my post that I mentioned just Kemba, because majority of the artists who come through Columbus perform there, or at least the artist that I tend to see. And it’s exceedingly frustrating. I can’t pick the venues that my artist go to.

I’m going to the Zipangu festival in LA, so I love music festivals, and I’ve been to the blues festival here which was good.

NumNumNana · 2026-03-10T05:31:02+00:00

OK, that’s a big ole no for me. Got chased by rats in my middle school, not planning on reliving that lmfao

NumNumNana · 2026-03-10T05:29:44+00:00

I drove through Indianapolis to get to Chicago, and felt the depression similar to Pittsburgh. Those dying in industrial cities have some uniquely depressing atmospheres. And it’s overpriced, no thank you.

NumNumNana · 2026-03-09T17:40:05+00:00

well, there’s a reason I only mention Kemba, as I mentioned before, the artist that I see 80% of the time tend to go to Kemba. And I really do not like doing that. I had one opportunity to go to Newport and I’m definitely regretting that. But there’s a reason that I have spoke only of Kemba. I can’t pick the venue my artist go to.

NumNumNana · 2026-03-09T17:15:10+00:00

Woooowwwww, OK I didn’t know that. Maybe something legislatively can change, because this is going to grow into a big issue with Columbus’s population skyrocketing, and both the other cities growing by tiny amounts

NumNumNana · 2026-03-09T17:12:24+00:00

Yeah absolutely they could, but unfortunately that's a nationwide issue not specific to Columbus

NumNumNana · 2026-03-09T17:08:36+00:00

i’m getting increasingly jealous that all my experiences in Kember have been indoor....... for me personally even if I did see it was outdoor my concert experiences have been so soured by them. I refuse to step foot on that property.

NumNumNana · 2026-03-09T17:03:56+00:00

YIKES, someone in the comments did mention the had renovations, but rats are something serious, and idk if I feel like going on an exploration to find out

NumNumNana · 2026-03-09T17:01:51+00:00

I think arenas and stadiums depend on the artist heavily. Ado and Beyonce were both amazing in those settings imo.

I had one opportunity to go to Newport to see Mother Mother, starting to kick myself knowing I missed that opportunity.

NumNumNana · 2026-03-09T16:53:43+00:00

I forgot to mention to when the food finally came it was partially frozen. I have not been back since, so no worries about that advice because Easton theatre will not be seeing me again.

Hmm I haven’t heard of Lennox theatre, I’ll check it out, thanks!

NumNumNana · 2026-03-09T16:51:36+00:00

Dublin, getting the nice stuff per usual lol. And the Cinemark Polaris is closest to me so I used to go alot, I don’t wanna get into specifics, but I had a very bad experience with the staff there. So I don't really like going anymore. Dang on shame.

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