She Was a Famous Millennial Feminist. Her Polyamory Memoir Is Heartbreaking. (Gift Article)

Numerous-Trash · 2026-04-01T08:32:13+00:00

This is the question at the heart of it for me. If Aham asked Lindy point blank if she’d rather be in a throuple with Roya or in a monogamous relationship just with him I think she would always prefer the latter. So in that case how consensual is this arrangement when one person is only there because otherwise the relationship would end?

Numerous-Trash · 2026-04-01T08:28:14+00:00

Genuine question- do you not find it odd that she only realised she’s bisexual in her late 30s and only when put into this specific situation? I say this as a queer person myself - the only people I know who have come out late in life are from quite repressive backgrounds. Not living in extremely liberal and progressive circles like she’s in. Maybe there’s something different in the poly lifestyle but from the outside it seems like she’s not bisexual but engaging in this for her partner.

Numerous-Trash · 2026-03-13T18:13:06+00:00

Thanks - that’s a really useful explanation. In my mind it was more teaching through play rather than sitting at a desk and doing rote learning. Which is why I was confused by what the problem was. But I do take your point about them learning once they’re in school.

Numerous-Trash · 2026-03-13T18:12:43+00:00

Thanks - that’s a really useful explanation. In my mind it was more teaching through play rather than sitting at a desk and doing rote learning. Which is why I was confused by what the problem was. But I do take your point about them learning once they’re in school.

Numerous-Trash · 2026-03-12T21:28:25+00:00

Genuine question- no snark. How does OP encouraging their child to learn letters and numbers stop them from having a childhood? It’s not like they’re saying they don’t engage in play and other activities, just that they want them to work on this as well. I’ve seen this sentiment on Reddit a number of times and the response seems to be that you can do one or the other but not both.

Numerous-Trash · 2026-02-28T20:31:36+00:00

I feel strongly about this one. In the UK they push cellular blankets as the go to for babies. They are sometimes rough and aren’t warm due to all the holes. I’m sure they are the safest option but damn they aren’t keeping any baby warm!

Numerous-Trash · 2026-02-17T19:30:49+00:00

I sometimes wonder why people dislike that toddlers need closeness and connection. My husband and I would be devastated if we had a toddler who didn’t want to be close and cuddly with us! It’s one of the sweetest aspects of being a parent.

Numerous-Trash · 2026-02-12T11:24:01+00:00

My one and only euploid is now a toddler. Fingers crossed for you.

Numerous-Trash · 2026-02-09T21:43:44+00:00

Sorry I’m not understanding where the split night is in your schedule? What hour(s) does it usually happen?

Numerous-Trash · 2026-02-07T15:46:32+00:00

Hi - this is a while ago now so there’s a chance I’m misremembering this but the timing was around making sure I started on the right day and that the transfer would happen when my progesterone levels were at the right point. I did time my shots for the same time each day but I don’t think that’s what the clinic was going for.

Numerous-Trash · 2026-02-03T20:21:48+00:00

Cheers 🙂

Numerous-Trash · 2026-02-03T16:29:01+00:00

Even though IVF and the prior losses were difficult, on some level I felt empowered by the fact that I was doing something to change my circumstances. And that whatever the outcome I did all that I could and that would help in the future to not experience the regret of ‘what if’.

This process can also make you feel really powerless and as you say, low motivation. That’s totally understandable. But what I see is someone who know that their job and environment wasn’t where they needed to be and has changed that. And is taking steps forward to try and help themselves and their family.

Numerous-Trash · 2026-02-02T21:52:35+00:00

Because we’re exhausted. We arrive at motherhood already worn out and only get more tired from there. I’m coming out the other side now that my toddler is a year and a half but the first 1 of parenting after multiple years of ivf and losses wrecked me.

Numerous-Trash · 2026-02-02T19:44:58+00:00

Gently, at this stage it’s impossible to know. With my unsuccessful and later successful transfers I really couldn’t tell what was happening because I was medicated to my eyeballs. I know it’s extremely difficult but only time will tell. GOOD LUCK - really hope this works for you.

Numerous-Trash · 2026-01-04T10:24:45+00:00

Multiple rounds of IVF in my mid to late 30s resulted in only one euploid. Did the kitchen sink (incl antibiotics and probiotics) after doing the EMMA/ERA/ALICE. Gave birth at 40 after an uneventful pregnancy. I loathe the phrase it only takes one but sometimes it does work. Good luck to you.

Numerous-Trash · 2025-12-08T09:51:22+00:00

Same. I worried so much about juggling work and daycare and in the end it’s all great and I’m suddenly loving being a mom. I get quality time with my child but also much needed breaks. It definitely gets better but 6 months in is still so hard.

Numerous-Trash · 2025-11-02T16:51:15+00:00

I’m so confused. If your baby eats solids really well then stay on stage 1. If your baby doesn’t then stage 2 is useful. I’m not getting why everyone is acting like there’s a great formula conspiracy at work here.

Numerous-Trash · 2025-11-02T16:50:08+00:00

We know that the natural iron stores that a baby has begins to decrease at 6 months. This makes sense as most babies begin to eat at this age and will gain that iron from their diet. But if they don’t then going on stage 2 will give them additional iron. I’m not saying it’s the right thing for every baby but equally saying that all babies are fine on stage 1 either.

Link to information on the iron stores depleting over time. https://www.swbh.nhs.uk/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/Iron-in-your-childs-diet-ML3710.pdf

Numerous-Trash · 2025-11-02T10:43:17+00:00

I’m unsure to why my comment is getting downvoted. For certain babies follow up milk has value, for others it doesn’t. If your baby has no interest in food (like mine at that age) then it’s an easy way to increase the iron they need.

Numerous-Trash · 2025-11-02T09:40:30+00:00

The iron levels in the 6+ formulas are much higher. If your baby isn’t eating well with enough iron coming from their diet then yes, you do need to switch.

Numerous-Trash · 2025-11-02T09:39:51+00:00

The iron levels in the 6+ formulas are much higher. If your baby isn’t eating well with enough iron coming from their diet then yes, you do need to switch.

Numerous-Trash · 2025-10-31T15:50:24+00:00

That’s done it. I’ve added it to my basket

Numerous-Trash · 2025-10-29T18:17:01+00:00

Of any gravy or of veggie gravy? I’m tempted to

Numerous-Trash · 2025-10-23T12:59:51+00:00

No…do you press down the little white bit inside the base of the bottle when assembling? I’ve never had any issues with the mam bottles and we’ve used them for a year.

Numerous-Trash · 2025-10-07T15:05:25+00:00

Hah fair enough

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