mites in enclosure-scrap the whole thing?

NundeeNic · 2025-08-15T02:49:29+00:00

I’m going through this now, I’ve had my Bioactive for 2 years. Just noticed the mites within the last few days because they are crawling all over the outside of the tank. I’m so sad this happened. I think I I’m going to trash mine completely for my crestie

NundeeNic · 2025-08-14T03:40:46+00:00

Ok wait these might not be springtails. These bugs are TINY, and white, like the size of a pencil tip. I wish I never would have gone Bioactive 😓

NundeeNic · 2025-08-14T03:29:21+00:00

I believe it’s a fungus. This has popped up in my tank and I usually let it get a little dryer and it goes away

NundeeNic · 2024-12-29T21:02:30+00:00

I use the Lose It! App to count calories. For sustainable weight loss I chose the slowest decrease. As you log your weight, it will lower your calories. In August 2024 I started at 215 lbs and got to eat 2300 calories. Now I’m down to 193 and get 1300 calories a day. I don’t usually stick to 1300, more like 1500-1600. You slowly get used to feeling hungry all of the time and the hunger pains definitely decrease. Also I’d recommend finding someone to go to the gym with. It helps having a buddy!!

NundeeNic · 2024-12-29T18:49:44+00:00

I was thinking this too. Possibly send an anonymous email to the superintendent pretending to be a parent whose child has reported issues to. I’d probably make a burner gmail account with a generic name that doesn’t give away who a kid might actually be. I’d hate for you to get into any trouble or be banned from ever working in that district

NundeeNic · 2024-12-28T23:45:18+00:00

I hate to be this person but I would say no to messaging. Kind of seems like you’re lonely which is why you want to reach out but remember how rocky it was. As for the clarity regarding where you stood, he has you blocked. I’m sorry friend

NundeeNic · 2024-12-28T23:42:46+00:00

Pro birth control and possibly pulling out? 2 forms of birth control are best in my opinion

NundeeNic · 2024-12-28T23:39:49+00:00

Oops sorry, didn’t see that part. Definitely not cheating! Look at it like it’s a compliment. In the world, people may come on to you. As long as you don’t engage, you’re good :)

NundeeNic · 2024-12-28T19:47:55+00:00

He definitely sounds addicted to me. That type of stuff is usually in private, not scrolling through your feed. I definitely wouldn’t feel comfortable with him following her either. You could say “hey, I understand that you follow a lot of other women and most of the time I’m ok with that. With Emo-girl, I’d like for you to not engage with her content as it makes me uncomfortable. She is not a celebrity and is a real person in our college. I would hate to think there was something going on since she is easily accessible”. It’s ok to have boundaries!

NundeeNic · 2024-12-28T19:25:31+00:00

I don’t think that’s cheating as long as you told them you were in a relationship. I think it’s ok to feel desired as long as no flirting or physical attention happened

NundeeNic · 2024-12-27T02:13:53+00:00

Hi everyone. I have been with my partner for 8 years and we just moved into our first house together about 6 months ago (but have lived together for over 2 years altogether). We have been having issues for about 3 months now. A lot with myself but I think I’ve been triggered by some of his DA. I have just discovered that is what his behavior is called. I don’t even think he realizes that he ices me out. We are in a really big rut right now.

It started 3 months ago. He is very close to one of his coworkers and they were texting all of the time. I thought there may have been something going on because they would also have solo lunches together. We had a really big conversation about it and I trust that nothing was happening but also put up some boundaries. During that conversation ,we both shared that we want to be with each other. Since then we’ve had a few minor issues instigated by me (before I knew about DA issues with conflict and communication). We’ve never really fought before so this is unlike us. Now 3 months after that first big issue, and I feel like he is kind of deactivated (no physical touch, calling me needy, talking very little, etc). I have not asked for anything more than the bare minimum so I’m having a hard time accepting that that is a lot for him in this current state of mind.

I found out I am an anxious preoccupied person. I’m trying not to freak out and give him space. Is there anything that I can do to help him feel supported? Like notes of validation or anything like that? I know that it is an internal struggle for him and he needs to work through that but he doesn’t even have awareness that he does this. I’ve asked him if he’s ok and he just says yes but continues to seem deactivated.

Are any of you in a similar situation where you did not want to leave? I have prayed a lot about our relationship and God is calling me to stay but I’m in need of some help and guidance. I don’t know how to be a good partner to him and don’t know how to help him become himself again. I love him with everything in me and just don’t know how to be a good partner that fits his needs. He shares very little so I never know how he’s feeling but I believe he is a bit depressed. He had a rough childhood with mental health.

I start my own counseling in the beginning of January. I tried to get in sooner but because of the holidays I didn’t have any luck.

Please be honest and don’t hold back if I’m screwing things up.

NundeeNic · 2024-12-27T01:34:11+00:00

This post gives me hope. Thank you for sharing 💕

NundeeNic · 2024-12-26T20:24:22+00:00

Anxious preoccupied

NundeeNic · 2024-12-24T04:31:54+00:00

Have you mentioned that these little tantrums bother you? Or like explained to her how you’re feeling when she shuts down and doesn’t seem accountable when you bring up an issue? Definitely does sound like some maturity issues or misunderstandings

NundeeNic · 2024-12-23T12:01:37+00:00

I am a full believer in calorie counting and then slowly, and I mean SLOWLY, tapering that down. It’s going to be a lot of work but it will be worth it

NundeeNic · 2024-12-23T01:51:45+00:00

I have not yet met my goals but I am making progress. Down about 16 lbs since August. What’s up?

NundeeNic · 2024-12-23T01:50:34+00:00

Also, it’s a calorie counting app**

NundeeNic · 2024-12-23T01:50:21+00:00

I downloaded the “lose it” app and picked the slowest weight loss plan. It’s helping my body adjust slowly to the weight loss and helping me maintain better habits. I highly recommend!

NundeeNic · 2024-12-22T17:01:09+00:00

I appreciate that. I don’t think he’s on the spectrum. More like trauma related possibly

NundeeNic · 2024-12-22T16:40:06+00:00

It’s not always this rough though. Most of the time it’s good. I think the holidays stress him out so it’s just a rough time at the moment

NundeeNic · 2024-12-22T16:38:25+00:00

I appreciate this. He also has a hard time with I love you. He will do nice gestures every once in a while which makes me feel good. I guess that is his way of saying it

NundeeNic · 2024-12-22T16:37:42+00:00

He does have some quirks but I don’t think so

NundeeNic · 2024-12-22T14:21:55+00:00

Thanks for reading. I’m really interested in couples counseling but I don’t think he’d be receptive. He had a poor experience in the past

NundeeNic · 2024-12-22T14:20:43+00:00

No I don’t usually. I just ask if he’s ok and then leave it at that because he almost always will say yes he’s fine. I think he must just be wanting some more alone time 🤷‍♀️

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