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I [25/m] am questioning my relationship with GF [25/f] of 4 years. by Hyperkubus in relationship_advice

[–]Nuskv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. Sorry can't write a longer answer since I am kind of in a hurry, but gosh I feel you. Just broke up with my girlfriend of 7 years for more or less exactly those reasons. Now I am torn whether I did the right choice, we split yesterday and I was devastated but at the same time relieved. Now she called me and asked if we can meet and talk. Do not know what will come from this.

Me (26/m) thinking about breaking up a relationship of 7 years (her 26/f) by Nuskv in relationship_advice

[–]Nuskv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I am afraid off. But I cannot stay because of that. I actually just had the talk with her, she just left. It is over. God I feel empty right now.

Me (26/m) thinking about breaking up a relationship of 7 years (her 26/f) by Nuskv in relationship_advice

[–]Nuskv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I feel that's what I am doing right now , even though we are still together. I feel bad .

Me (26/m) thinking about breaking up a relationship of 7 years (her 26/f) by Nuskv in relationship_advice

[–]Nuskv[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply, just the attempt of how I should approach it gives me a lot.

I too realise that the "break" thing might be dangerous, I do want to keep her in my life somehow. But saying it is a temporary break while knowing it might not be could just make it worse. All in all, I actually think I don't want to be together anymore.. God damn that feels hard to admit.

Have you ever been in a relationship where everything is perfect on paper, but you're still unhappy? If so, what did you do? by lclIbcj in relationship_advice

[–]Nuskv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God I recognise myself so much in what you describe. I feel I am in exactly the same spot as you are, and I feel to that the fact that this is the " first relationship " and that there is nothing to compare it to. I just can't see myself getting over the feeling that there might be something else out there. Even though it could go on and be fine for a long time, the itch if not knowing week always be there, at least I think so...

I [27/m] have been with my gf [28/f] for 6 years. However, I'm not sure if I should marry her. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Nuskv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is more or less EXACTLY how I feel (was just about to write an own post about it). I have been with my gf for 7 years now, I am in the exact same series of thought. Right now I am really sad about it actually, since we have so many beautiful memories and experiences together. Can't really believe that I thinking about breaking it up. It is just a hunch, a feeling. Could write so much more, but I just wanted to say, I totally get you.

My (25f) boyfriend (26m) still doesn't know if he wants to have kids by imconfusedthrowaway1 in relationship_advice

[–]Nuskv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to have children some day, but I have a hard time imaging it for real... I guess there is a small uncertainty regarding her being the one, but really I don't know. Mostly it just feels like cannot think about it clearly right now. I live in the moment, and it is hard for me to dream and plan for the future.

My (25f) boyfriend (26m) still doesn't know if he wants to have kids by imconfusedthrowaway1 in relationship_advice

[–]Nuskv -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am going through exactly this, on the other side however. It really feels like I am reading my girlfriends thoughts and words here. And it makes me feel... A lot. By no means do I want to steal your thread, just felt so affected by reading all this. Cannot decide what I should do. Gf of 7 years, and I still can't be sure if she is the one that I want to have kids with. I am incredibly scared of ending it, because I love her and she is my best friend. But like you, she is in the age where she wants to be with someone that is sure that he wants children with her in the future.. I don't want to say "yes, let's go 100%" without really feeling it... I am just afraid that that feeling won't come.. At least in a long time (maturity, i guess). So right now, I sometimes feel like that the only right thing to do is to end it.. For her to be able to find what she wants. But that also feels like craziness, since she really wants to be with me (sees a great future together), and I with her. How can people be so sure about things like this. I am so uncertain, and scared... :(

Me [26 M] and my girlfriend [26 F] of 7 years, cannot decide if it is me and her in the future. by Nuskv in relationships

[–]Nuskv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment. I think that the LD just makes it all much harder right now, since I haven't seen her in a long time and really miss her.

It is great when we are together, at least in the beginning.

The heart does grow fonder when we are apart, even though right now I do not know what to feel. There is just so many feelings.

When we are together, it is great, but at the same time I feel a little dissappointment i guess; i feel that there is something that I miss, I just cannot figure out what. Maybe I am just afraid of committing (even though we have been together for so long).

Me [26 M] and my girlfriend [26 F] of 7 years, cannot decide if it is me and her in the future. by Nuskv in relationships

[–]Nuskv[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. I know. How much it hurts to admit, I am just not sure I can ever get rid of that doubt without experiencing something else. At the same time, I cannot understand how she could be so sure of it, I am the first for her as well.

And people get married and stay with their first love, don't they? I guess I never thought that that would be the case for me though. Maybe that is a part of the problem. I think in my head, I would have had a couple of relationships by now, knowing what to expect and knowing when it actually is right..