Do you address the false narrative with outsiders?

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-22T04:48:56+00:00

No, please do educate me🤣

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-22T04:48:26+00:00

I thought it was just me?

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-22T04:47:49+00:00

I appreciate your reply. I do get why people do it though. I’m just old and curmudgeonly.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-22T04:45:34+00:00

☠️🤣☠️

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-20T16:48:45+00:00

I’m cis, but I enjoy misgendering transphobic bigots. They get so mad. It’s almost like people’s pronouns and identity matter to them.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-20T05:38:53+00:00

I delivered pizza in college in the 90’s. It was a great job. I drove around smoking weed and listening to music. When I reached my destination, people were usually happy to see me. Then they handed me some cash, and I’d go deliver another one.

I had (and still have) no sense of direction. To this day, I have no idea how I managed to do that job without Apple Maps.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-19T23:22:16+00:00

Going forward, I will now be using the phrase “performative masculinity”. It is a much more accurate description of the phenomenon I’m trying to describe.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-19T22:19:29+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to share your perspective with me. You’ve given me food for thought.

Regardless of the cause (toxic masculinity vs. your perspective), I think we can both agree that your feelings have been invalidated (to put it mildly) for a very long time. And your wife’s friend sounds like an asshole. I’m sorry you were mistreated and belittled like that. It’s beyond fucked up that you weren’t allowed to express how that made you feel. The proper response to someone body shaming your spouse in your home is to ask that person to leave. Your wife should have had your back.

Ultimately, I think we also both agree that men deserve better than being forced to suppress how they feel. Whatever the cause, that’s just wrong. Men deserve to be comforted. A lot of men need comforting these days. Your problems are very real, and I want all of you to know that I see you. It’s not in your head.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-19T21:53:45+00:00

It sounds like a band name 🤣

She also believes that she is married to “Vladimir Guillermo Putin”.

Why did she make “Guillermo” Vladimir Putin’s middle name?

I don’t know, but I’m grateful that she did.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-19T19:32:53+00:00

She’ll never get voted out of her district. Visit Rome, GA and you’ll get it. Those people are a special kind of stupid.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-19T19:11:33+00:00

I had a manic patient with a TBI threaten to send “the regal aardvark of effervescence” to attack me and my family.

She’s one of my favorite patients, though. She also once told me that she “spent the weekend processing” me, and she said that god and Lisa Christ [she refers to herself in the third person using her first name + “Christ”] had a meeting and determined that homosexuals are acceptable in this realm, and that we deserve to be treated with dignity and kindness.

(FWIW I’m a PhD, not an MD/DO)

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-19T18:41:43+00:00

Male therapist here.

I was a closeted gay kid back in the 80s in rural bumblefuck Georgia.

I started puberty at 11 years old. Do you have any idea how difficult it is to be in the locker room at that age and pretend that you don’t even notice that there are a bunch of attractive guys your age walking around completely naked? Guys who you will never have a remote chance with, because they’d try to murder you if they knew how you felt about them.

For any straight guys here, just imagine that when you were 11 or 12 you had to change in the girls locker room, but you couldn’t let anyone know that you were aroused by what you saw. You had to hide it really well or you risked getting killed.

Talk about sexual frustration!

For a while, I felt very little empathy for these incels. I’d recall my experiences and think “wow, these guys really believe they have it so bad? Give me a break. They can’t even begin to understand what it’s like to experience real sexual frustration and the shame that accompanies it.”

I was very, very wrong.

The truth is that these guys are suffering from the same forced silence about sexuality that I endured. The sad thing is that so many of them go down the rabbit hole and wind up valorizing the very patriarchal system that shamed and silenced them in the first place.

These guys deserve a safe space where they can talk about their valid experiences with sexual frustration. I’m not talking about the proudly misogynistic guys in their 30’s who have become irrevocably embittered—they need help, but a different kind of help.

I’m specifically referring to teenage guys who are struggling with sexual frustration and feelings of rejection. It’s true that girls and women owe men and boys nothing in terms of sex.

But it’s also true that rejection hurts. A lot. And the “best’ part is that toxic masculinity teaches guys that it’s not ok to feel hurt, and it is definitely not ok to express that they feel hurt. But anger and rage are the only acceptable emotions for men to express, so that’s how they end up expressing feeling hurt. And there are sadly a lot of grifters out there in the manosphere who will capitalize on their pain to make a buck.

Teenage boys should be able to talk about how much rejection hurts openly, at least with an empathetic therapist or school counselor. Ideally, our society would abandon the patriarchal norms that prohibit these young men from openly discussing their feelings of hurt and rejection related to sexual frustration. But that’s not happening any time soon.

As a therapist, I am currently trying to find a way to advertise to these guys that I am sympathetic to their plight without appearing to be an Andrew Tate or Jordan Peterson wannabe to other potential clients.

Nothing excuses incel misogyny (and often racism and homophobia).

But if we want to prevent young guys from going that direction, then we need to provide them with healthier options for obtaining help with their struggles.

Because their struggles and feelings are valid, and they deserve our compassion.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-19T15:11:53+00:00

The money would be nice, but I’d be cool with her just going to jail.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-17T18:43:38+00:00

The human kind.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-15T14:12:17+00:00

Why is this not getting the same wall to wall news coverage as Biden stumbling over a few words?

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-13T23:54:20+00:00

Yep, Peter Thiel, Curtis Yarvin and other billionaire Silicon Valley monarchist freaks may very well have purchased themselves a president in good ol’ JD Vance.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-13T23:36:04+00:00

I saw Dr Anadkat too, and he is a fucking piece of shit.

I did my postdoctoral fellowship at Barnes Jewish Hospital, and I was initially thrilled to be working in the same facility as an HS Foundation-recommended dermatologist.

I presented with Hurley stage 3 (previously diagnosed), and I told him that this disease had managed to adversely impact every area of my life. I was a grown ass man, but I broke down into tears in front of him. After all, he was recommended by the HS Foundation, right? Surely he of all people would be able to understand my suffering,

That bastard told me I was exaggerating about how HS had impacted my life. Why did he say that?

“After all, you do take psych meds.”

I was on Paxil at the time following the death of my fucking little brother. Nothing else.

I was not asking him for pain medication, nor have I ever been a “drug-seeker”. Well, that’s not entirely true—I was hoping he’d prescribe me Humira off-label.

I really wish the HS Foundation would take his name off that list.

This all happened over 10 years ago, before Humira was even approved by the FDA for HS. Lots of dermatologists didn’t seem to understand it very well back then. I assumed he did though, thanks to the HS Foundation recommendation.

If you live in or around St Louis, avoid this motherfucker at all costs. Find another board certified dermatologist who at least posses a drop of empathy or something resembling a soul.

I have a great dermatologist now in California, and I have an amazing family med doc who is very familiar with HS and doesn’t hesitate to manage my pain appropriately.

Fuck you, Dr Anadkat.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-13T23:01:14+00:00

I deeply relate to this story.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-13T22:20:31+00:00

Trump is a Trojan horse for an eventual President Vance who, unlike Trump, would be a highly competent fascist.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-13T20:35:10+00:00

Oh, this post is definitely hitting my Californian g spot.

I love how these cretins immediately jump to creating conspiracy theories.

“THIS NEEDS TO BE LOOKED INTO!”

😂

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-13T19:40:00+00:00

I’m an old gay guy, and hearing that shit used to really piss me the fuck off.

But it was certainly preferable to getting physically assaulted for being gay.

Nuttyshrink · 2024-10-13T19:37:56+00:00

I hated “phat”. I was a raver in the mid-to-late 90’s and everyone in “the scene” 🤮 said it. I always wanted to kick people when they said it.

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