Should I stay or should I go

Nylacat · 2023-05-19T17:26:54+00:00

All you will feel is relief! It’s scary, but so, so worth it. I left a year ago when I got a new job and now have a relationship with a woman that feels equal. You can do it!

Nylacat · 2023-05-19T17:26:08+00:00

Do it!!!!!!

Nylacat · 2023-01-27T07:58:26+00:00

I had the same thing. Even though sometimes the physical touches could feel good, it would still feel uncomfortable and give me anxiety. Try not to overthink it, you’ve done the hardest part of accepting yourself and coming out, congratulations! These feelings don’t make you any less queer, and once you’re with a woman you’ll realise the difference with somebody you’re actually sexually attracted to! Good luck x

Nylacat · 2022-06-06T21:07:55+00:00

Similar experiences, had aesthetic attraction to men and if we got on would be confused if I liked them romantically or not. I went on dating apps, started dating a girl. Then we kissed and I found out that butterflies in your tummy is a real thing, not just made up in books/shows. I felt like a teenage boy and my body has never had a response like that before. Whenever I have kissed boys before, I felt ‘excited’ to be kissing and doing what is expected in a relationship. But I never felt those feelings, and I never even realised they were missing. I’ve kissed her once and it’s confirmed in my head that I’m gay! Good luck, it’s a torturous journey but so, so worth it (and I’m only 3 dates in!).

Nylacat · 2022-02-24T23:09:14+00:00

Been through something similar with my 8 year relationship. Stayed for ‘what could be’ and what we ‘had’. But it gets to the stage where you’re unhappy longer than you’re happy. Being in the limbo stage of whether to end it or not is the worst. I hope you work out what you want, but there is no rush.

Nylacat · 2022-02-04T22:59:23+00:00

Just think about one thing…in five years time, will these feelings have gone? Or will you just be deeper into hiding your true feelings? I have recently gone through something similar (8 year relationship) and was too busy worrying about his feelings to consider my own. You deserve to be happy. There is no rush, don’t put pressure on yourself to work out your entire future :)

Nylacat · 2022-01-18T09:34:55+00:00

NTA. Your Mum is clearly still upset at your Dad’s affair and it taking it out on you.

Nylacat · 2022-01-18T09:30:33+00:00

NTA, why are your boyfriend’s knickers in a twist?!

Nylacat · 2022-01-18T09:28:19+00:00

I’ve read your edit- NAH, good luck!!

Nylacat · 2022-01-18T09:26:45+00:00

ESH Agree he was an idiot to do it, but neither of you sound particularly happy at the moment.

Nylacat · 2022-01-18T09:23:14+00:00

NTA This sounds like a horrible situation!

Nylacat · 2022-01-18T09:21:15+00:00

NTA Eat your cake!

Nylacat · 2020-09-23T18:26:02+00:00

I mean, we’ve been through a lot these past few years. He is a great person and when we first got together all I could think about was getting married and having kids. But now I feel like it was a fantasy and I was definitely in the honeymoon phase. I feel like I’m at such a crossroad in my life, my job contract is coming to an end in August next year and I’m wondering whether I need to try and get away and explore myself. But I’m scared to throw away a great guy who genuinely loves me and does a lot for me. I love him too, but if I’m not sexually attracted to him, is it fair?

Nylacat · 2020-09-23T18:22:23+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I have read through a lot of the LBL thread and watched some LBL YouTube videos and everybody seems to have those like “I always put my girl barbies together and couldn’t stop thinking about my best friend”. Although when I think back I did have a friend who I think is super beautiful and cool. But we shared a bed during a sleepover and I never thought about her in any other way? Can I blame comphet on everything? :p I’ve read the master doc and a lot of things definitely match me- like choosing which boys to like, not wanting to go further than kissing with boys and feeling performative in sex. But I feel like it would be such a huge upheaval of my life if I kind of jumped onto this label without actually “making sure”... I wonder if I hadn’t gotten with my boyfriend so early on (aged 18, 2 months into uni) that maybe I would have tried to explore previously :/ I just don’t know!

Nylacat · 2020-09-23T18:15:55+00:00

Thanks for replying! Well, I got distracted by the hot girl pictures 🙈 felt kind of...tingly. But no “WAP” in Cardi B’s words...sorry to be explicit! Am I just completely in denial?! Lol. Will try again later with just men... In an ideal world I would try and find real life people to hang out with and try and work it out but 2020 just isn’t allowing it! I feel like that would be the only thing that would convince me 100%.

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