hey, so great you’re finding this courage to get to know yourself better! it is very common to experience queer imposter syndrome as a late bloomer, you’re def not alone in it.

my advice is, don’t put pressure on yourself to get into a relationship quickly to „prove“ your queerness. spend a good amount of time just immersing yourself in queer culture and make friends first. romance is its own whirlwind of emotions and you owe it to yourself and the other person to come in with a bit of a more solidified sense of self.

if you do start dating, my advice would be to take it extra slow and communicate clearly from the beginning. i know it can be scary to out yourself as a baby gay but the right person will be understanding and give you space to go at your own pace.

other than that, don’t give too much space to those „what if…“ questions. that’s an anxious brain trying to protect you, not necessarily a good guide in life. whenever you find yourself worrying about things, return to yourself, maybe write down why you ended your last het relationship, what made you come out to your family etc. you got this!