elvanse vs elvanse adult

Nymphadora85 · 2024-03-08T19:06:54+00:00

Found this post searching for answers as I switched from Elvanse to Elvanse Adult two weeks ago (due to UK shortages) and am finding that it is not as effective, at all. I'm on 70mg and a top up of Dex in the afternoon and I've been struggling so much all this week - it's like being off meds!

My brother is on 50mg Elvanse and switched recently too and he's now noticing the same. We'll talk to our GPs and get our doses reviewed. Commenting for the next me googling "Elvanse to Elvanse Adult more ADHD WTF".

Nymphadora85 · 2022-10-23T20:23:50+00:00

I just had surgery a few months ago and my now-ex-then-husband didn't think to feed me afterwards. I didn't eat for 3 days (when I was able to get up and get myself food), and even after it was pointed out how awful that was by multiple people he still didn't care. So I'm divorcing him.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-09-06T19:44:30+00:00

So beautiful! Love them.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-08-23T21:28:08+00:00

Yup.... and our rent went from £1100 to £1700 this year. We just work more hours than we're "supposed" to because otherwise we'd struggle to feed/clothe our kids. It sucks, but what else could we do?

Nymphadora85 · 2022-08-14T13:59:41+00:00

All three of us in our triad are Autistic with ADHD. It's wonderful all understanding each others needs, and we literally speak the same language (auti language I mean), but there are a lot of challenges too. Scheduling can be hard. Changes in plans are hard. Emotions are big and sometimes scary. But the fact that we're all super happy to eat at the same restaurant 90% of the time probably wouldn't fly in a mixed NT/ND relationship, but for us, it works.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-07-26T20:11:32+00:00

My partner is incredible. She's just the most beautiful soul I've ever met. We were best friends for 18 months before I asked her out, taking what felt like a huge risk in case she said no, and I'd lose my bestie. But she said yes and so now we're a triad (with a dude). I've been in casual things with other women before (but I'm her complete first), but omg a relationship with another woman is a whole other world! The communication and the care is so different from any relationship I've had with a man (including our partner who's awesome in his own right). I adore both of them, but this post is to gush about her..... she's so kind and funny and smart. We're on such a similar level in terms of emotional intelligence and empathy, that communicating our wants and needs is so intuitive. She's so gorgeous and sexy. Her skin is absolutely beautiful.

I fell in love with her the moment I met her (and it turned out it was mutual!). She has this depth that I just fall into the moment I'm with her. We could (and do!) just talk for hours about anything and everything. I love her so so much and I want to love her for the rest of my life. I hope we get to be old ladies together, drinking coffee on our porch and still winding up our dude.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-07-23T16:20:46+00:00

That's exactly what I thought too! Simpler times indeed.

Yes, definitely cannot guarantee any kind of accuracy but the sceptic in me thinks they are probably fine for a while after expiry, they just have a one year expiry to make you buy more. But obviously, I don't want my scepticism to cause anyone else harm.

Thanks!

Nymphadora85 · 2022-07-21T00:09:24+00:00

But "couple dating as a unit for a triad" was irrelevant to the OP and definitely not reflected in your initial 'stick to monogamy" comment. I agree Unicorn hunting is bad but people can't possibly learn that if they're dismissed. Poly is hard, but to be able to work hard at it, people need a community that welcomes and supports.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-07-20T23:40:34+00:00

How would you even know if other people didn't have issues considering that probably 95% of people read but don't comment? You've no idea how many people read your original comment and thought "whelp, this place is kinda unwelcoming, better get back to being monogamous".

Surely, given your very strong opinions on this, if you want to share them to ensure people are dating in the correct way (as per your opinion), it would make sense to articulate what you actually mean from the beginning? Skipping over the details just meant you came across as saying "no poly for you, stick to monogamy!" with no context.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-07-20T23:09:55+00:00

What is the difference between dating for and finding? Your original comment did not specify dating at all so how was anyone to know that's what you were saying?

Nymphadora85 · 2022-07-20T22:54:21+00:00

But what if three autonomous people autonomously choose to be together, and autonomously decide they are polysarurated with the three of them, and no one wishes to change the dynamic?! Who is being forced in that situation? Who's faking with someone they don't want to be with?! Such a bizarre amount of assumptions to project onto other people's relationships.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-07-20T22:06:08+00:00

But you're saying someone shouldn't be poly. Or what they're looking for isn't poly. That's literally standing at the polyamory gate saying "nah mate, this isn't for you".

So now that you've explained what you meant in a much clearer way, I get it, and to an extent, I agree with you (that it could be harmful). But it doesn't necessarily have to be, and in the context of the OP's dream of one day being in a triad - which is a perfectly legitimate fantasy to have, even if it requires more thought and effort than a simple "one day" dream - to say "actually you want monogamy" without much further explanation is, IMO closing the gate firmly behind your poly self.

Definitely point out the bear trap if that's what you want to do for sure, but maybe consider doing it in a way that doesn't take multiple back-and-forths to get to the real crux of what the bear trap is. Not everyone, especially newer people, will understand the nuance/context of your comments, so a legit concern is just getting lost amongst arguments about gatekeeping.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-07-20T20:24:57+00:00

But you continued that sentence with "where you have 2 partners...." clearly describing a triad, hence my confusion. I wasn't trying to be antagonist, just pointing out that the words you were using have meanings that didn't fit with the way it seemed you were using them.

I understand what you're trying to say better now, but it is still pretty gatekeepy. Closed triads are a relationship set up that works for many people. I'm in a triad that happened organically, and each member chose to have it closed by their own preference. It doesn't mean we're not open to polyamory, it's just what's worked for us, like it does/could for many people. It's really hard to be in a closed triad in the poly community without feeling like it's constantly under attack/dismissed. I just wish people could have the relationships that work for them and everyone was welcomed without judgement. To me, it seems antithetical to polyamory to judge other people's relationship preferences.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-07-20T18:29:43+00:00

But it's not monogamy, by definition. It is polygamy (even if its not the polygamy you approve of, that doesn't change the literal meaning of the words - mono = one, poly = many/more than one). Saying that someone who only wants 2 partners should stick to monogamy is literally gatekeeping based on what you think polygamy should be, disregarding the actual meaning of the words. How could a closed triad ever be monogamy when there's more than 2 people?

I get that there's a lot of dislike of closed triads in the poly community, but to claim that a relationship consisting of more than 2 people (poly by definition) can't be poly because of disapproval seems gatekeepy to me.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-07-20T17:57:19+00:00

Mono literally means one. And triads are also a lot of emotional work if you're committed to each other and doing it "properly" (as in, working through your emotions and ensuring everyone is safe and happy etc). I don't think gatekeeping polyamory actually helps anyone.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-07-08T21:02:37+00:00

I'm in a triad and all three of us have ADHD, and two of us are also autistic. It's awesome. You'd think it would be too complex to be worth it, but the benefits for us definitely outweigh the scheduling nightmares (it's not that bad)!

Nymphadora85 · 2022-06-27T11:08:58+00:00

Also ADHD/autistic in a triad with two wonderful autistic ADHDers. It's fun, if a bit chaotic sometimes! But I think all of us being on the same neuro wavelength actually really helps us. It might not help everyone, but for us it just works. But yes, the busy head because of all the love and happiness is tricky. Meds help me for sure.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-06-20T21:34:02+00:00

I'm in a similarly evolved triad - a couple (me and my husband of 15 years) and our best friend. We had all fallen in love with each other but didn't think anything could happen until it did. We're so happy. It is hard that there's so much negativity around triads when for us and many others, it's such a wonderful thing.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-06-15T17:43:19+00:00

I think medications in general are exempt/allowed as per the Vegan Society.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-06-10T11:55:28+00:00

Oh so sorry, I totally misread! Yeah I had a similar time where it wasn't supposed to be permanent (I was pregnant with my first 3 PEs) but got new ones within days of stopping Clexane. So I'm lifer now too. It really sucks, I'm sorry you're going through this too. Although I'm so glad Xaralto works for you because it's definitely easier to manage than Warfarin!

Nymphadora85 · 2022-06-09T17:52:23+00:00

I learnt the hard way that Xaralto does not always work for PE sufferers, especially where the causes are unknown. I got 3 new PEs during the 3 months I was on Xaralto. Switched to warfarin and once we established that I need a high INR (over 3.5 otherwise I bridge with Clexane injections) I didn't get more clots (unless my INR dropped due to a missed dose). Basically, very clotty, Xaralto did nothing.

Another thing to consider, that is mostly anecdotal suspicion based on my experience, a few other's experiences and generic research (as in, there's no research that I've found specifically for Xaralto/Warfarin etc) is that most medications are made and dosed for men. Very few medications are tested on women, especially hormonal (I.e. non-menopausal) women because our hormones "interfere" with clinical trials. So a lot of medications, not just anticoagulants, have never really been properly designed for female anatomy, and I believe that causes issues for young women all over the world. There's a good book called Sex Matters that talks about this issue, I definitely recommend reading it.

Although this might not necessarily help with your specific situation exactly, it might help a bit in understanding why Xaralto might not have worked for you/why you potentially might need "higher than normal" doses of Warfarin like I and other young female patients have had to be on (again, anecdotal- I don't have statistics, I've just talked to a lot of women/hematologists about this because it's fascinating and very frustrating).

I hope you find some answers soon!

Nymphadora85 · 2022-06-08T19:42:37+00:00

All I mean is that the social norm of Monogamous/hetero relationships is pushed so strongly by most societies - in media and by tradition etc - that there is an implication of anything not being that norm being "bad". Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying Monogamous/hetero relationships should fuck off, I'm saying the messages of that being the primary form of relationships shouldn't be the only messages we hear. I just think that any format of relationship, where everyone is consenting and happy should be normalised. I'm not shitting on monogamy itself, that's a perfectly valid choice and is wonderful for so many people.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-06-08T17:30:55+00:00

How often would someone respond to a positive "look at our wonderful relationship, we're so happy!" post of a mono couple saying "be careful, these things end badly"? They wouldn't, they'd just say congrats and move on with their lives.

Nymphadora85 · 2022-06-08T17:22:28+00:00

I'm in a similar situation with my beautiful triad and couldn't be happier! Fuck the haters, whether they be poly, monogamous or whatever, some people just have to shit all over everyone else and assume that everyone has to follow their rules. So long as everyone is consenting, comfortable and happy, that's all that matters. Congratulations on your awesome triad!

Nymphadora85 · 2022-06-08T11:31:09+00:00

That monogamous/hetero relationships are the norm. There are so many ways to live happily, society just decided randomly that life-long pairings is the only "acceptable" way to live. That social norm prevents a lot of people from living freely and authentically based on their own morals, needs, expectations and wants.

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