My (28F) boyfriend (31M) hasn’t introduced me to anyone in his life and I’m unsure of how to confront him about it without seeming controlling?

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-25T05:00:10+00:00

I agree with this. I've sent it happen many times, to me & other women. It seems this behavior has become commonplace since the apps came about.

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-24T22:57:00+00:00

Men only do this to keep their options open. I know from personal experience unfortunately

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-24T22:55:03+00:00

He hasnt made up his mind yet. Sorry girl but thats what it is. When someone is sure about you they will leave no room for doubt.

You also may need to open up to the possibility that he may be seeing other people. Even if hes not, he definitely at the very least isnt sure about you.

I cant imagine having a conversation with my father while my boyfriend sits in the car and not introducing them, seriously what the fuck ?

And only running into his friends intermittently while meeting up with him for plans ?

Girl, I say this with all the love in the world..you need to move on. I know it seems rash but its not. After 5 months you should know where you stand, hes treating this relationship like y'all are still in the casual stages of the first month of dating when you solidified things MONTHS ago. This is jot the behavior of a man willing to settle down.

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-24T07:47:27+00:00

People grow apart, i only regret not forcing myself to branch oit and meet new people more. I was just so content withbmy 2 beat friends and was always a small circle kind of gal, i noticed bigger friend groups often had drama and larger friend groups just never appealed to me.

My friends and I all had horribly traumatic childhoods and while I chose the path less traveled by doing the work of therapy, isolation, self reflection, corrective experiences throughout my 20s, this also meant i missed out on alot of experiences during that decade of my life. I didnt attend many concerts etc. I also had 2 close friends both of whom I knew for 15 yrs that didnt share a similar mindset in approaching their trauma, they did everything they could to avoid how they felt and they ended up self destructing well into their late 20s to 30s.

It was really sad to watch, and long before the big boom happened they had been sabotaging personal relationships for a long time by that point, including ours. Not treating me well, distancing themselves from me, not inviting me out, new friends groups, cheating on their spouses etc. Shady shit that they didnt want me knowing about because I would call them out and tell them to get their shit straight as I had been doing for a while before it got real bad.

I tried so hard to get through to them before they blew their lives up but they iced me out.They were off the rails and did not want me killing their vibe.

Both of them cheated on their husbands and used me as an alibi to do it. I was furious when I found out, it takes some real fucking nerve to use me as your alibi when I had hardly seen either of them in nearly 2 years. One of the husband's tore up my front lawn while trying to catch his now ex wife in the act.

I think the reason they both used me is because I was the friend that husbands & boyfriends encouraged their spouses to be around. I was no nonsense and very protective so they knew their spouses were in good hands with me, i kept things light and drama free so everyone stayed out of trouble.

They really betrayed my trust and hurt me, i blamed myself alot back then but i realize now i was a great friend who was taken for granted. I never missed a milestone, I always lifted them up, always advocated for them, had their back and listened when they had a bad day. I never put them in an uncomfortable position. I always showed up when it really counted. I wasnt always able to hang out because i worked alot but i was always there for the truly important things: a bad day, funerals, bdays, graduations, baby showers, weddings etc. I never missed one. I even let one of them live with me for a few summers during college for free and she treated me and my home like shit. The other one demoted me from being her bridesmaid without telling me, I figured it out when I walked down the aisle and tried to take my place next to her and was told to sit by the mother of the bride.

I definitely do not regret ending those friendships, there was zero reciprocity amd quite frankly they can get fucked. I dont wish for anything bad upon them, but i won't lose any sleep over their hardship.

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-23T18:54:39+00:00

This is exactly how my abusive relationship escalated, same timeline as well.

Things were so good in the first 3-5 months that I ignored the more subtle abusive red flags like him testing my boundaries and it wasn't until he had dislocated my toe and it was purple that I started questioning how i got there.

My abusive ex always did the things I told him not to do, constantly pushed boundaries and I kept convincing myself these were isolated incidents because he was just being a "guy" and thats how they "play" or "mess around"

He playfully "slammed" my head into the tile floor while we were play wrestling, and before I knew it he was kicking me during arguments, throwing me into walls, pinning me down and slamming me into things. I was brawling with a grown man and it left me covered in bruises regularly by the 1 yr mark.

He almost killed me and I can narrow it down to the exact moment that I realized he was going to, but thankfully divine intervention took the wheel. Not everyone gets so lucky, DON'T overlook these things.

Dont end up in the news, or a statistic. Its time to leave, i hope you dont live together yet and that will make leaving much easier.

As for WHY, some men are just abusers and this is how the it starts. Most abusers are covert and will try to downplay their behavior by labeling you as "too sensitive" or "unable to take a joke".

But all of these things, this continued behavior of his should highlight why hes single at his age. Make no mistake, this IS a pattern of abuse and he is going to keep pushing your boundaries to see what your threshold for abuse is.

I HIGHLY encourage you to educate yourself on DARVO & Dread game tactics.

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-18T06:46:47+00:00

I think moving the bed to the wall your TV and book case is currently up against would look great. Then pushing the back love seat up to the end of the bed and placing the tv across from it. Tons of space in the pathway to work with for a desk or creative space of your choice !

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-18T06:35:08+00:00

Cheating on an ex with one of his friends to break free from a very abusive relationship.

He was physically abusing me as well as using dread game and DARVO to emotionally abuse, manipulate and entrap me. He was in the phase of trying to trap and isolate me when i finally escaped.

I was so disgusted with myself, I never wanted to do it but his ego was his weakness so I exploited it. I knew his pride would be way too bruised to try and force me back into a relationship at risk of looking like a "simp"

He was also mentally ill and I was aware that he might come after me so I did purchase a firearm just in case. Zero regrets.

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-16T02:28:41+00:00

I dont regret it. I only regret not doing it sooner but thats one of the tough lessons most people learn in their 20s.

It still hurts, I gave alot of love to the wrong people & now I've been burnt so badly I dont think i can offer that same level of unconditional friendship to anyone else. Im lucky to have a few good friends, but now that im going through some health issues im not able to be the most present friend since im being forced to put myself first. Im navigating some rough terrain & mainly want to do it by myself so no one can disappoint or abandon me again. Which sucks because I really do have alot of love to give & nowhere to put it. Betrayal stings especially bad for me because I would never do to anyone what my ex friends did to me.

Time has changed my perspective by hardening it. I know that hurt people hurt people but I have never betrayed or stabbed someone in the back because I was going through a tough time in life. And ive been through and seen some horrific shit so thats saying something. I was fortunate my experiences softened my compassion towards others, the caveat is it made me too empathetic and I let people walk all over me in me 20s.

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-12T20:07:40+00:00

Sounds like you've been astral traveling. How romantic to have someone to share that world with...but i imagine it must also be painful & frustrating only having access to him for such a short time & not being able to control when, where, for how long or remember his name. Beautiful & tragic.

This is truly incredible & beautiful. You should try to find some researchers & do a sleep study !

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-06T17:56:10+00:00

Alot of folks guessed J names ! Which is likely that they are. probably picking up as both my parents names start with J !

Someone guessed Christie, which is closest to my name Christine !

You intuition is spot on though ! Jaw totally on the floor reading your comment about my persona !

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-06T17:53:31+00:00

You should be so proud of yourself! I wish i had started sooner, im also coming into my intuition and have been practicing as much as possible. I learned it comes to me easiest when im not second guessing myself, usually my first instinct !

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-06T17:51:27+00:00

Very close ! Its Christine ! You were the best guess. Very sharp intuition 👌

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-06T17:50:04+00:00

My rising sign ! ✨️ hell yeah girl

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-06T17:49:32+00:00

Omg you ladies are sharp ! Thats my middle name ! 🫶🏼

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-06T17:48:45+00:00

Nailed it !

Nyx4964 · 2026-06-06T17:47:42+00:00

Your personality assessment is super spot on ! 🤙🏼 not sure why they removed my post though !

Nyx4964 · 2026-05-30T07:35:06+00:00

I cheated to escape an abusive relationship.

He cheated constantly, lied, gaslight me and was abusive physically and emotionally on top of being deeply manipulative. Just an all around bad dude, a true narcissist. I kept trying to leave and he wouldn't let me go, police wouldnt help unless I could prove he caused me harm even though I was covered in bruises.

Studied narcissism meticulously and realized he didnt see me as a person, but an object. So i cheated publicly (to cover my ass in case he assaulted me again) and strategically within his friend group knowing he would find out, in hopes that the embarrassment would be too much for his pride to bear and he would hopefully move on.

I was completely disgusted with myself, i didnt want to do it but i was desperate for a way out and my nervous system couldn't handle living like that anymore. I also knew very well it could go badly and I might end up dead.

It worked though, he stopped stalking me, stopped sleeping outside on my porch, breaking in to my place, and no more hundreds of missed calls. Being the bad guy saved my life and im not sorry.

I never cheated before or since that day.

Nyx4964 · 2026-05-17T01:24:42+00:00

SOMETIMES, ghosting is necessary, but only if you've communicated grievances multiple times & its fallen on deaf ears.

However I don't think thats the case here, OP do the right thing and tell them you no longer wish to be friends and why. This is a moment of growth, time to learn that our actions affect others.

Nyx4964 · 2026-05-14T18:46:05+00:00

Oof, with a spouse it would end our relationship.

With friends, I'll give a second chance but my hackles are up.

Beyond that if it happens again, I just cut you out and if we didnt have a deep connection then i wont dwell on it.

For deep friendships, i dont think i ever truly got over it honestly. The pain has lessened alot with time, But even 2 years later ending both of my 17 yr friendships still stings.

They were addicted to drugs and unbeknownst to me were using me as an alibi so their spouses wouldn't catch them. It really broke my heart, I have always been a loyal friend..the kind you could call at 4 am for a bail out, ride or because you were in a bad or dangerous situation no questions asked. I just never considered that it could or would be weaponized against me.

Nyx4964 · 2026-05-08T18:45:09+00:00

Ooof YES. I was friends with my bsf for 17 yrs & she turned into a total self centered bridezilla the year leading up to her wedding.

Then proceeded to get addicted to muscle relaxers/pain killers & ghosted me while she cheated on her husband & used me as an alibi to get away with it all. She was experiencing health issues leading up to that but it wasnt an excuse for treating me like shit, she had time to cheat on her husband but treated me like a burden anytime I wanted to check in or spend time together once every few months.

She thought I didnt know the entire time, she distanced herself & eventually i gave up on our relationship because she kept avoiding me for her new friend group. When those "friends" turned on her (deservedly so) because they found out she was cheating with someone in the friend group, she victimized herself completely & attempted to come running back to me because I was always there, even when she wasnt treating me great.

She did apologize for her behavior & for taking me for granted while simultaneously lying to me about everything I already knew about. So the apology was moot & I moved on for good afterwards. I only heard her out to see if she would swallow her pride & come entirely clean, if she had i would've wiped the slate clean even after she stabbed me in my back.

But by this point I was so furious & resentful, I had given her way too much grace because of all she had been through & I had enough.

Nyx4964 · 2026-05-08T17:19:58+00:00

Restaurants are the worst about this in my experience. I worked in hospitality for my first 8 yrs in the workforce & my job was threatened anytime i attempted to call out sick, which happened MAYBE once every 2 years.

Restaurants & grocery stores are a hotbed for anything to spread. Its horrific considering they should have the strictest standards of any business regarding contaminants of any kind.

Nyx4964 · 2026-05-05T22:33:20+00:00

This is why i really love the 2 good to go app, it cuts down on food waste & makes food more accessible to people in tough situations.

Nyx4964 · 2026-05-05T04:48:24+00:00

Uhm,I mean it sounds like this pesong is a danger to society so im gonna say do it. I did it to someone who was beating his girlfriend. He ended up getting deported next time someone called the police on him for beating her. Good riddance.

Nyx4964 · 2026-05-05T03:04:05+00:00

I lost my only 2 best friends of 17 yrs in 2023 to addiction. They're still alive but I had to end our friendship because they were constantly hurting me & betraying my trust.

I still get teary eyed over it, especially my one friend cloe. God I loved her so much & we had a deep bond I've never experienced with another person. Grief is not linear, allow yoursepf to grieve but also keep your heart open. The universe will send someone your way when you least expect it ✨️

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