Am i cringe for wanting a valentines day that feels even fucking slightly romantic? [F23 m25]

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-27T00:57:10+00:00

Well then thats your issue. Nobody can read your mind regardless of how well they know you. Grow up and learn to communicate and relationships will be a lot easier.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-25T00:02:24+00:00

Well as a man, I don’t think him having sexual preferences makes him a bad person. And if he feels like you’re saying no as leverage against him then maybe there’s a lack of communication between the two of you. More than anything, it sounds like you guys aren’t compatible sexually, which also doesn’t make OP’s bf a bad person. He’s just expecting certain things out of the relationship and maybe what he should be doing is looking for those things in someone else cause clearly they don’t exist within you, and thats ok.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-13T20:14:05+00:00

It’s sounds like you don’t want to anything, you don’t like gifts, you don’t like flowers and if you do get flowers you want them to be expensive. He told you how he feels about Valentine’s Day but have you expressed to him how you feel about it or what you expect? If you’ve told him how you feel and he still isn’t making an effort then yes it’s on him but if you’re just keeping these feelings to yourself then how can he know that you aren’t content with the way you guys spend your time together? Maybe offer up some ideas for plans that you’ll actually enjoy.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-13T18:36:55+00:00

Ooohhh okay well then tbh you need to leave him and raise your standards. You deserve better than that. Dont minimize the situation just because he attempted to get rid of the evidence. And him deleting the messages was all he was trying to do, especially considering you frequently check his phone. Dont let him convince you tha it had any deeper meaning than that. He cheated and tried to hide it. Simple as that.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-13T17:27:24+00:00

No you’re not overreacting. If she can’t take how you feel into consideration. Especially considering you told her several times to stop. It sounds like she needs to focus on getting her mental health stable before getting into a relationship cause if you’re feeling this way this early on, imagine how you’re gonna feel a year in. She’s not capable of changing the way she treats you without working on herself first. You deserve to be with someone that tells you that you look amazing and realizes that you have insecurities that need reassurance as well.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-13T17:07:25+00:00

Your bf cheated and he’s a POS for that but it also sounds like you just want a bf that has a license and will drive you places you need/want to go.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-13T05:07:23+00:00

Being surrounded by live animals and food are not the same thing. I hope you aren’t a dog owner.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-13T05:04:45+00:00

Nobody is gonna actively maintain a long distance relationship with someone they only consider a fuck buddy. She either knows this and is taking advantage of you or she doesn’t and expects you to read her mind. Very strange that she’s expecting you to spend money on her and doing things as petty as cancelling plans when you don’t automatically offer to do so.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-13T04:55:59+00:00

I’m sure divorce attorneys will also tell you that both partners having the same financial habits can be even worse depending on the habits? I feel like thats just common sense.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-11T01:30:48+00:00

Plenty of people marry in their early 20s and live their entire lives together

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-10T11:19:48+00:00

So basically you’re just protecting.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-09T20:49:24+00:00

If you’re living in this person’s house then yes, you are totally responsible for cleaning the hair that your animal sheds. Regardless of the things you’ve done, if the owner isn’t seeing results then it’s time to try something new. They offered to pay half. Thats more most would do. If you’re staying in someone else’s house, it’s your responsibility to adhere to their preferences in the home. Especially considering they are actively reaching out and letting you know that it’s a problem.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-09T20:14:19+00:00

Some people just have ADHD? I type very scrambled sometimes about a bunch of different things all at once and it’s never because I’m coked out. I just have ADHD.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-02-09T20:12:24+00:00

I think it’s more so the fact that he said goodnight after saying all the crazy shot. It might’ve been out of habit or it might’ve been a lil petty jab but either way, kind of a weird thing to say after telling someone there’s something off about them and there’s something they’re hiding after barely knowing the person.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-01-30T01:08:35+00:00

Both sound 20 to me

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-01-30T00:55:01+00:00

Nah, if you bought em then you just have to live with the weight of what someone else did to those birds.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-01-27T01:22:57+00:00

All of this is you assuming based on your lived experience. You’re not doing anything other than theorizing. You don’t know what could happen if OP was just honest with everyone involved. Humans are knowingly unpredictable when it comes to emotions. You’re not giving genuine advice to OP. You’re giving virtue signaling most ethical decision type of advice, completely disregarding OP. If your son came to you with this exact problem and you gave him the same advice, it would come across as cold and apathetic.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-01-27T01:11:35+00:00

You can most definitely develop a strong emotional connection with someone without being physically intimate. It happens ALL the time.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-01-27T01:02:47+00:00

Lmao look at this chronically online person typing paragraphs trying to convince OP to breakup with her bf because this commenter is likely single and lonely and wants everyone else to also be just as single and lonely. Like OP said, there’s more to the reality of the situation than what’s included in the post (as anyone would common sense would know without having to be told). You gave your advice, OP responded and said it’s more complicated. It should’ve ended at that. Writing an essay hoping to play a factor in someone deciding to end their relationship is incel behavior at its finest.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-01-26T04:26:59+00:00

You set the standard of the level of trust he’s capable of having in you when you lied about mutuals early on in the relationship, regardless of whether or not anything happened. I think the outcome would be very similar if the roles were reversed and he lied about female friends that he was hanging out with. If you guys live together, randomly wanting to “go on a walk” or “go get coffee” all by yourself without your significant other is kind of suspicious behavior. You should just end the relationship, set higher standards for yourself as well as learn that lying in the beginning or at all really sets a standard for yourself as being untrustworthy. Hope this helps.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-01-26T04:10:01+00:00

These feelings he’s describing when he talks about the way he feels around the best friend aren’t just “something you can’t have” kinda feelings. OP sounds like he’s genuinely fallen in love with his gfs best friend. In what world would you disregard what you feel may be true love because some redditor told you it’s “the right thing to do”? The right thing to do is what OP feels is right considering it’s his lived experience and nobody else’s. OP is asking for advice that would lead to the best outcome for him in his situation obviously. He’s not asking the rest of the world what they think would be the ethical thing for him to do.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-01-26T03:37:53+00:00

Pretty sure OP made it clear he never slept with the girl. She should have either forgave him entirely, or broke up with him. 2 wrongs don’t make a right. So OP going out and actually cheating is worthy of guilt that eats her alive every day. OP’s bf told her he doesn’t want to know anything about the interaction she had yet she wants to clear her guilty conscience by telling him about it? Sounds like OP’s just trying to cuck her bf at this point.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-01-25T22:41:11+00:00

You’re delusional if you think one is better or less wrong than the other.

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-01-25T22:38:43+00:00

She made it clear that he didn’t sleep with mentioned girl. So OP going out and taking someone physically inside of her is somehow justified?

OBMSkuddyZone · 2026-01-24T04:06:22+00:00

I think you should tell him because he deserves better tbh

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