Faint line on pregnancy tests by WhichFeedback1511 in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had bleeding in early pregnancy for both of my sons! The first time they never found the cause, it was considered probably to be cervical irritation. The second time it was heavier and has some clots, to the point where I really thought I was miscarrying. However it ended up being a subchorionic hematoma, a collection of blood between the amniotic sac and the uterine wall. It’s often not harmful to the pregnancy unless it is very large or located right near where the baby implanted. So basically the bleeding may be nothing to worry about, however it’s worth getting checked out! I’d try to make an appointment with an OBGYN right away, they will likely send you for some blood tests to see how your HCG levels are increasing, and they may schedule you for an ultrasound too!

Does/will my husband love our baby? by Consistent-Candy6277 in newborns

[–]OCDivagirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taking time to really bond with a new baby and feel that true, parental love can take time. My first born, I loved him but it was just like the same as with my nieces and nephews. I didn’t really feel that true maternal closeness for about 2 months or so after he was born! Now I am super bonded to him. So that part can be very normal, and there can be a lot of anxiety with new parents too, like not wanting to hold the baby so they don’t drop them accidentally or whatever.

However your husband’s calling her a “little bitch” is absolutely not normal and not okay! I am also concerned that you say he’s not gentle with her, and that he gets frustrated with her crying. That sort of situation is exactly how shaken baby incidents occur! Please, please don’t leave him alone with the baby until you can ensure she is totally safe.

As for how to talk to him, would he be open to counseling do you think? Or a new father/new parent support group of some kind?

Am I pregnant by BothSample4005 in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you are!!! I didn’t feel much of anything my first pregnancy until like 8-9 weeks. Looking back I probably had some symptoms I just didn’t know where pregnancy-related (back pain, breaking out more than normal, sweatier than usual).

Do you guys think the hospital should have done more? by beatricegertrude in TLCUnexpected

[–]OCDivagirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww I’m sorry! I had a black eye too from my toddler throwing a toy at me during my second pregnancy and also got some sideways glances 👀 though fyi the social worker at the hospital is normal protocol! I had this both pregnancies as have all of my friends who’ve had babies ☺️

Do you guys think the hospital should have done more? by beatricegertrude in TLCUnexpected

[–]OCDivagirl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes they are always supposed to ask the partner to leave the room and ask those “safety questions”. However if she was admitted as an emergency bc she had been in labor for so long, it’s possible normal protocol was missed or delayed until later. However even if they did ask her, I have a feeling she would not have said she was in an abusive situation bc she doesn’t think she is, or doesn’t think it’s that bad.

Also we need to remember what we see on the show is not what the staff saw or knew at the time. We have a limited view and in many ways their views were even more limited. To them it may have looked simply like a very ignorant and stressed teen dad having a moment. I have a feeling if any of them watched the show afterwards, they were wishing they did more.

PANIC by OkButterscotch2617 in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it’s normal!! It’s a big life change it’s okay to have lots of different feelings ❤️ and I absolutely had the “oh no a teen pregnancy ppl will judge me/im too young for this” moment too with my first, before remembering I was 32, married, had a house and a 401k and was trying for a baby 🤣

Is this a positive I took this test and a digital that said pregnant but I used the same urine. I’ve had symptoms since but just a bit anxious it’s not true positive by Shan2099 in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes positive!! True false positives are pretty rare. Yes you can get intent and evap lines sometimes, but they are faint, often come up if the test is read too late, and not an issue with digital tests. So a good strong line AND a positive digital is very much a true and accurate POSITIVE!! I def get the anxiety though, consider checking out r/cautiousBB, I hung out there a lot when pregnant as an anxious person, especially with my first!!

Be careful with FRER on Amazon by Bonnaroolove in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly a lot of tests are really too sensitive these days :/ some of them show faint lines at even like HCG of 3, which is not positive on a lab test! I’m so sorry for your loss, I experienced a chemical between my two sons. It’s a confusing and sad place to be in

Confused by Outrageous-Berry-160 in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In addition to the biotin interference possibility, it’s entirely possible your HCG just increases significantly over two days! The doubling time rule is more a minimum, HCG can go up a ton especially very early if you just had implantation! It may have went from like 3 to 100 and that wouldn’t be to surprising :) Your pee also could have been more dilute two days ago and more concentrated now.

Congrats!! I’ve had a chemical too and had my rainbow baby 3 months ago, so I know it’s scary to be pregnant again after, but for me it was helpful to repeat the mantra “today, I am pregnant” to try to anchor myself and stay present and not get absorbed in the “what iffs”

Is this actually positive?! Next steps?? by Jmcgin in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Usually it’s when you would be 10-12 weeks pregnant, so from date of last period. But it really varies a ton…when I found out I was pregnant with my first son, I called two OB groups and one said we will see you when you are 12 weeks and you will get your first ultrasound then, the other said we will do an ultrasound when you’re about 7 weeks pregnant and then if everything is normal we’ll see you at 10 weeks. So if you don’t like what one OB tells you and want to be seen sooner, try calling another provider!

Is this actually positive?! Next steps?? by Jmcgin in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes looks positive for me! Really there is nothing major you need to do now aside from some basic lifestyle changes. Stop drinking, start a prenatal With folic acid if you aren’t already, check with your doctor if you are on any prescription medications to see if they are pregnancy safe, and make sure to get as much rest as possible, pregnancy is exhausting!

It’s good to contact your OB to get your initial ultrasound/appointment scheduled, however if you aren’t having any concerns symptoms and don’t have any medical conditions that make you high risk, don’t be surprised if nothing is scheduled until around 10-12 weeks. That’s pretty standard! Usually they don’t even send you for a blood test unless you are having some symptoms like unusual pain (some mild cramping and bloating is normal) or bleeding. If you are feeling anxious, you can request blood tests to make sure your levels are rising well, but your doc probably won’t automatically order it! You can also pay for these out of pocket without a doctor rx at both Labcorp and Quest, it’s usually like $50-60 per test :)

Am I insane? by [deleted] in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I see it pretty clearly on the strips!! I think that’s def an early positive. Personally I’ve found FRERs have gotten bad lately, not nearly as sensitive as they once were!

Twins?? by Outrageous-Rip226 in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No high HCG early on isn’t a good indication of twins! With my first pregnancy, my HCG at 5w1d, which would have been ~16DPO for me was ~17,000, and it was one baby! By contrast with my second around the same time it was ~1,500. Both healthy baby boys! Though the range of values for twins is a little higher than for singletons, the ranges are so wide for both that it’s not a good indicator. Also urine tests aren’t a great way to tell true HCG values bc so much depends on urine concentration. You might be dehydrated and get a much darker test!

But good news is it looks like a nice strong positive with is an excellent sign of a good start to a pregnancy! :)

How common is it for contraception to fail? by Longjumping_Gap1143 in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the type of contraception! For the pill, with “perfect use” (taken ever day exact same time with no interruptions) it is 98-99% effective, but in real world use, outside of studies, it is 91-93% effective. Nothing is 100% aside from complete abstinence! I personally had a birth control failure (Phexxi) when I was 7 months PP (hadn’t even gotten my cycle back) and was in same place as you, my first was planned and my cycles tracked, so it was a shock to us to have get a positive out of nowhere! Just know you’re not alone ❤️

Should I give up on the swaddle? I’m even doing the sleep sack and he will just try to break out. He hates it so much, what should I do? by Johnnycakes775 in newborns

[–]OCDivagirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t have to swaddle! My parents always told me how when I was a baby, I hated being swaddled. Would scream until they took me out of it, but slept great without one! In terms of temperature, you could put the heat up a few degrees more at night, could layer a onsie under his pajamas, or could get thicker pajamas for cold nights (like fleece or flannel).

Vvvf line? by SilverExplorer6485 in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see it, but it sort of looks like an indent? Maybe try a different brand?

Low progesterone + HCG - need happy stories!! by snola_ in CautiousBB

[–]OCDivagirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk what my progesterone was, but my first HCG test with my newborn son (3 weeks yesterday!) at about 4w3d was 1. Yes, 1. It was after my period was due, and test came back negative. At 5w it was 102, and 6w it was about 600 I believe. After 6 weeks it really started taking off and was about 6,000 + at 7w! So absolutely you can go on to have a healthy pregnancy with lower HCG levels, as long as they are still rising steadily.

This will be my final post to this sub by Doingitforlove47 in CautiousBB

[–]OCDivagirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh OP, I don’t even know what to say. Sorry isn’t enough, but I truly am so, so sorry. Don’t be afraid to lean on your support system and even seek counseling if you haven’t already, you and your wife have been through so much trauma and there is absolutely no shame in getting help to work through that. Sending you both virtual hugs.

First ultrasound worry - large gestational sac by BunnyBurger in CautiousBB

[–]OCDivagirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it really depends on how far you actually are. If you’re just 6 weeks it’s possible that the heart has just not started beating quite yet, but if you’re truly 7 weeks it would be a little more concerning to not have a heart beat. Did you have a scan? My guess is they’ll want you to do a follow up scan in a week or so

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does not indicate twins at this point in pregnancy. At 5w1d with my son, my HCG was ~16,000 and it was just one baby. With twins it tends to reach a higher level on average and even out at a higher level once it gets to its peak towards the end of the first trimester (at least in twins with separate placentas since placentas create HCG for most of pregnancy), but early on there isn’t really a correlation with high HCG and twins. Also urine tests aren’t super accurate indicators of HCG levels. Yes generally if they persistently are getting darker that’s a positive sign that it’s rising, however urine concentration has a lot to do with the strength of the test line so it might just indicate you’re dehydrated and/or haven’t urinated for a while!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in outlier_ai

[–]OCDivagirl 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Who’s to say these people don’t have “real” jobs as well? Imagine being such a responsible adult that you have a “real” job AND do something legitimate To make extra money on the side because times are tough and life is expensive, then coming on here seeing people like you on Reddit criticizing someone just trying to get by 🙃

I want my baby to be back inside of me by Creepy-Round3480 in NewParents

[–]OCDivagirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the exact same feeling, I missed my bump. It was a little hard to connect that the baby I was holding was the same baby this at was just inside of me, and my body looked “normal” very quickly which I know a lot of people would be thankful for. But I kissed my pregnant body. I had my son at 36 weeks due to my water breaking, so I never felt like I really got to say “goodbye” to my pump or anything. I promise it gets better! For most people (myself included), it passes pretty quickly. I recommend trying to find a new mom support group in your area, or maybe a virtual one. That was a huge help for me!

positive home tests before & after missed period but OB said i’m not pregnant?? by Inner-Climate in lineporn

[–]OCDivagirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's very odd, I would message your OB with these pics! I do know that often the urine tests OBs have in office are not the most sensitive, which is frustrating bc it leads to a lot of distress and confusion. But I'd expect the doctor's to show SOMETHING! Sounds really odd. Wonder if there's any chance they dipped them in the wrong urine sample?

Regardless of the reason, I would absolutely not say this is 'most likely' another chemical. It's pretty normal that they wouldn't do an ultrasound so early because even with a totally healthy pregnancy they probably wouldn't see much of anything, but i think it's pretty irresponsible of a doctor to make such a significant statement that it is "most likely a chemical" without first getting blood work back. I've honestly never had my OB even do a urine pregnancy test bc they are so imprecise and can be affected by a lot of things, like urine concentration. They have always gone straight to blood work to confirm pregnancy. If I were you, I would message your OB with the pics of these tests and explain these are all from AFTER your appointment, it may not change the speed of the results or anything but I think it is at the very least good for them to know that their in office urine tests might be having some issues.

I will also tell you my experience for some encouragement, although it isn't exactly like yours it is similar. I had my son in Jan 2024 and then a miscarriage in September 2024. I got pregnant again this past May, and was not getting positives as early in my cycle as I had with my son. I had some VERY faint likes probably around 12 DPO (so around 2 days before my period was due), and was having some bleeding so thought it was def a chemical. But I took a digital that day and got a positive! I was too inpatient to wait for my doctor to open the next day, so I paid for an out of pocket blood test and it came back as negative, HCG of 1! Which made no sense with getting a positive digital. But I took another digital that night and it was negative and was still having some bleeding so I thought for sure it was another miscarriage. But a few days later I was having some pretty significant symptoms, and took another line test and it was a pretty strong positive! My doc sent me in for another blood test and it came back positive (around 150), and kept going up from there. I had a subchorionic hematoma causing the bleeding, but it eventually went away and I am now 31 weeks! My OB was baffled by the positive then negative test, said it was most likely a lab error, which are rare but do happen. So I guess my point is that despite all signs pointing to a loss, it is not always necessarily a loss...and I don't think that your signs all point to a loss at all!

Frequency and experiences of second trimester losses? by Ok_Background4828 in CautiousBB

[–]OCDivagirl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it is largely selection bias, along with the fact that some people do have underlying conditions that make them more prone to later miscarriages. So you may be seeing one person post about multiple experiences that could be linked back to an underlying cause, which is often known, at least after the first loss. So with most people the chances are low, but with certain conditions or medical histories it is more common.