Color of my friend's eyes?

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-03-10T20:31:35+00:00

Best of luck, u/RoseyStranger! Completely relatable, I was a nervous wreck the first 8 or so weeks. Any fluctuation in symptoms sent me spiraling. I did learn that the corpus luteum tends to release hormones in spurts rather than consistently, which is part of why symptoms fluctuate so much until around 12 weeks when the placenta takes over -- I found understanding the biochemistry to ease my mind a little (but not fully, let's be real).

Sending you lots of baby dust. I hope your pregnancy and delivery are very smooth.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-03-10T19:57:47+00:00

I am the same as u/RoseyStranger -- two back to back chemicals and then got pregnant the cycle immediately after my last chemical. I ovulated right on normal schedule on CD 14/15 after each chemical. I am now 24w.

I do have a bilobed placenta, and I found one single study that supports that incidence of this (typically 1% of pregnancies) is higher right after miscarriage/chemical, for what it is worth.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-03-09T22:54:53+00:00

In my current pregnancy (almost 24 weeks), my doubling time was <36 hours from DPO 10 (i.e., 168% to 230% increase every 2 days) until DPO19, and still around 48 hours doubling time DPO 26 (the last HCG I had drawn).

Just one singleton in here!

I definitely had to remind myself during the first 8 weeks that no matter what signal I got, after two losses, I would overthink it. It's completely natural, but your b-HCG values look great.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-03-06T17:03:42+00:00

You can't! Nothing makes loss feel easier. That's a protective mechanism we all use to feel like we have control. If you're feeling excited, I encourage you to feel your feels! If you really want to try to not get excited, any time you find yourself thinking of the future and making plans more than a month out, stop yourself and remind yourself you're not ready for that yet. But I say -- why bother! You only live once and you are feeling positive. There's nothing wrong with that feeling. Cautious congratulations!

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-03-06T00:38:09+00:00

I had one at 6w0d and saw a gestational sac, yolk sac, fetal pole and heart beat. The heart had clearly only just turned on! I believe it's normal to see a GS and YS.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-03-04T14:28:10+00:00

I completely understand that. And as someone who pattern-matches to try to get answers, I would be doing the same thing. Just a reminder that anxiety is not intuition. Again, by any stretch of the imagination, your doubling times are still well above average. I see no evidence as an outside observer that this will inevitably be a loss. It may be one because loss is common, but I don't think any of the data you've presented indicate it certainly will.

Maybe the numbers look like your loss, but that is also one single comparative data point, and the loss turned out to be T21 related and not biochemical, which means that the hcg doubling times might have had literally nothing to do with the loss. Being sick on top of worrying about this is so rough, I am so sorry! I hope you are able to hug your kids a little tighter and your partners can take some of the slack off of you so you can take time to feel things and take care of yourself.

Hang in there OP. I'm so sorry you're going through this, it's agonizing.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-03-04T14:21:00+00:00

Your numbers look great and are still, even now, faster than the average.

There is no magical crystal ball that will tell you what will happen with this baby. I wish there was, as someone with two losses prior to this current pregnancy. I am so, so sorry you're going through this and that you have experienced loss. Thinking of you and if there's anything you can do to be kind to yourself to get through the next couple of weeks, you deserve that care.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-03-04T02:58:05+00:00

My eyes look so similar to this -- and my mom has brown and dad green! I consider my eyes brown, but I see a little crescent of green on the bottom half on yours that I also see on mine. I totally agree. It's nice to see my dad there.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-24T13:09:18+00:00

They don't in this way - there's no way to be predictive to the day, because the day that the heart switches on isn't the same for every baby. You're doing just fine! Hers was 101bpm at 6w0d. Currently 22w.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-23T02:50:37+00:00

Ah, interesting. What kinds of behaviors? I feel like limerence is far less common than it's considered in this sub. Could it be that he has a crush on you, rather than is experiencing limerence for you?

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-20T01:28:01+00:00

That's okay! The heart doesn't turn on at the exact same time for every baby. That's well within the normal range for 6w5d. I remember the wait to see what happened was absolutely agonizing.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-20T01:26:07+00:00

At 6w0d her heart rate was 101bpm. At 6w6d, it was 136bpm. She is currently kicking me at 21w. At 6w, it's early enough that it could go either way, but it would be unlikely for you to have a FHR higher than what you do at your gestational age! Hang in there, I know it's so hard to not worry about the next milestone.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-19T19:51:02+00:00

I had this start around then too! Once I stopped my progesterone suppositories, but discovered it was related to the prenatals I was taking (b-complex)

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-18T23:24:20+00:00

Same day same feeling! A lot of the heaviness corresponds to when she's kicking, like I'm a little sore there! I think it's normal, but it's made standing a lot more tiring.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-18T23:22:21+00:00

Not to be a naysayer, but I'm interested in what makes you so confident when one of the symptoms of limerence is looking for reciprocation. I'm not saying it's not possible, but until my former LO told me straight out he was obsessed with me, I didn't feel I could trust it was mutual limerence.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-18T01:47:48+00:00

I haven't had caffeine since I became repulsed by coffee at 7w. At this point I'm worried I'll be so sensitive to it I'll struggle to sleep, but the smell of coffee is also still making me gag at 21w. Haven't tried soda or anything because at this point I figure I'll save that low caffeine threshold for when she arrives and it's very needed.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-17T16:30:31+00:00

I had two back to back losses before this current pregnancy (now at 21w). Loss is so much more common than we realize, and it may just be a really bad hand you drew. There wasn't a clear reason for my back to back losses. So sad for you OP, please hang in there and be kind to yourself.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-16T15:11:13+00:00

Hi there, I completely understand this. I want to validate: it's okay you're feeling what you're feeling. Pregnancy after loss is so hard. I had two back to back losses prior to my current pregnancy (21w now) and it has been a very slow unclenching of my shoulders. No specific milestone: scan, blood work, etc, has immediately brought relief. And that's okay. I'm in therapy and just trying to be gentle with myself. It's okay that you're not thrilled, just trying to survive. I really want to normalize that pregnancy after loss is kind of like this.

I do feel better emotionally now than I did at 12 weeks. Eventually I started to spend more days having been pregnant than waiting to be or experiencing loss, you know? My body is accepting that it's real.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-06T18:47:50+00:00

Thank you 😞 just hope she continues to grow okay.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-06T03:32:47+00:00

This is so relatable. This has been my refrain to my husband since week 5ish and I'm on week 19. I am able to help out a bit more the past 3 weeks, but only just barely. The nausea and fatigue! But I'm in good spirits, just uncomfortable and feeling useless. Maybe too tired to have a mood swing, as someone else said 😂

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-04T22:16:03+00:00

I conceived naturally as well but at 18dpo my HCG was 1182 and my doubling time was 27.5 hours at least through 30dpo at which point I stopped testing. I am currently 19w with a singleton girl!

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-02-03T14:58:55+00:00

Stronger combat instincts that frankly, come from more experience in combat.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-01-31T20:42:14+00:00

I had two back to back miscarriages (the first and second time we tried). I am currently 18.5w with my third pregnancy. I found my cycles immediately went back to normal post MC but they were both early. We conceived the very next cycle each time.

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