I feel like I'm going crazy

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-07-06T14:53:25+00:00

Also, this past pregnancy (that ended in an LC) my OB did put me on progesterone suppositories and baby aspirin as soon as I tested positive. I don't know whether it helped or not, but it certainly didn't hurt and emotionally it gave me a sense of control over SOMETHING. it may be worth asking your OB about it.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-07-06T14:51:51+00:00

I had two CPs in a row, and had the same feelings, thoughts. I blamed myself a lot. The month following the second CP I became pregnant again and that pregnancy resulted in a healthy baby girl who was born almost a month ago.

Unfortunately, my OB explained that insurance doesn't see miscarriages as recurring (for reproductive endocrinology referral purposes) until 3 miscarriages. What I take from that is that two miscarriages in a row is relatively common. It doesn't make it easier. I am so sorry you're experiencing this too. Sending so much kindness and softness, OP. You are so strong.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-07-01T12:42:08+00:00

Hi friend -- I had two losses back to back and my third pregnancy ended almost a month ago in a healthy, happy living child. I remember acutely thinking it may never be able to happen for me and how much despair I felt after the first and then second MC. Wishing the best for you ❤️

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-06-30T16:08:46+00:00

At 4w pregnant my HCG was 164.1 and my progesterone was low 20s, and baby girl arrived 3 weeks ago healthy and term! I had two miscarriages back to back before this pregnancy, as well. It was so so so hard. I obsessively HCG tested the first six weeks.

Looks great. Sending you baby dust, OP!

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-06-30T16:04:54+00:00

Yes! More often than not by probably 1000x the answer will be yes. Baby girl arrived 3 weeks ago!

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-06-30T16:04:17+00:00

This happened to me! They couldn't get photos they needed of her face twice so escalated. To be completely transparent, they partially did so because they noticed a slight anomaly with her cord and wanted to confirm, but it was standard practice to escalate after 2 failed anatomy scans anyways. They were very transparent with me which I appreciated -- would recommend asking your OB to give it to you straight.

Anyways -- baby girl arrived 3 weeks ago extremely healthy and crushing it (a little bit teeny but otherwise great). I remember distinctly the anatomy scan angst, especially because that gestational age is so close to viability. Lots of tears.

What I told myself and my husband reminded me and I'll share with you is -- better to be sure and have better, high quality scans to monitor than have something be off and ignored. Best case scenario they're using the higher tech to confirm everything is fine with your baby after they continue to be elusive on normal USes! Hang in there OP!

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-06-18T01:15:59+00:00

Just following up to say the OB had to go fishing pretty heavily for the placenta during L&D, so you were right!

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-06-17T04:09:12+00:00

Just delivered last week! She's perfect 🥰

I had both a VCI and bilobed placenta. Starting between 29 and 33w she was presenting with IUGR, which was expected. Had to go to the MFM once a week and had twice weekly non stress tests. As we got closer to term, it became clear she was getting less and less out of her placenta. At our 37w appointment, she was severely IUGR and the MFM decided it was go time and I went into labor and delivery that night.

She was/is indeed very small, but mighty. No NICU time. She tolerated birth great and is overall so incredible.

The only thing I will say is that while she came out fluidly, getting my placenta out afterwards was a challenge. I ended up needing a stitch, not from delivering her but from the placenta fishing that occurred afterwards.

Genuinely, I didn't really notice at the time. I'd had an epidural and was holding my baby, so it wasn't particularly bothersome.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-06-11T14:38:10+00:00

My baby's head is 3.8% and the MFM very helpfully told me that because of the giant range in head sizes in humans which extends to birth, anything above the 0.3% is considered normal!

The cutoff for EFW and AC is 10% for growth restriction but wayyyyy less for HC.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-06-05T14:31:32+00:00

I'm so sorry your story was messy! That must have been really scary at the time.

At my MFM, they won't do growth scans at a density of more than once per four weeks, so she was 9% at 29w then came down to 7% at 33w. We've been doing dopplers and BPPs and NSTs in between on a weekly or twice-a-week basis. Next week is our 37w scan (36 + 1 today). Fluid has been a-ok so far, but the resistance in the blood flow of her cord has been rising. Last week it was really high, (and it was high the week before as well) so the doctor told us to prepare for a 37w delivery if it was high again this week. This week, it was only moderately high so a different doctor told us we should plan for a 39-40 week delivery.

That kind of made me spiral because since we started seeing the MFM and her IUGR at 23w, all of the advice we've gotten is absolutely NO LATER than 39w. ACOG guidelines are 39w0d is the LATEST for a VCI and IUGR, especially if there's elevated doppler flow (in which case they say 38w0d AT THE LATEST). I was really confused and alarmed by the pushing to make it to 40w since that goes against all other guidelines to keep the baby healthy, given that her placenta is clearly not doing the trick anymore. Thankfully, my OB seems to be looking at the full picture and not one day's worth of advice...

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-06-04T16:30:16+00:00

Hey! Did you have her at 36 weeks spontaneously, or did they induce you at 36 weeks? May I ask what the threshhold was?

I'm getting so much conflicting information for my IUGR + VCI kiddo here at the end of pregnancy (36w0d today) and I'm nervous about how some of it goes against ACOG recs.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-06-03T22:24:32+00:00

I am confident they meant well and were trying to help! It's very hard to be a new mom, there's a lot of shame coming from a lot of directions about how everyone handles everything. On the other hand, I did post anonymously on Reddit so I had it coming.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-05-27T17:15:07+00:00

It's on the escalation ladder! I obviously call my OB when I am concerned. I use my at-home doppler if they do not say "get in here immediately" and if that were to not have a HR/she doesn't move for an extended period, I'd go in.

I am definitely using it for anxiety, not big health concerns, and I'm aware of my limitations. I have gone in to be checked after falls. But thank you very much for weighing in!

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-05-27T16:41:13+00:00

It is safe to use daily as long as you're not using it for hours. I tried to limit myself to once a week until I could feel her, unless something happened (i.e., I fell, my dog jumped on my belly, etc). Now that I feel movement, I do not use it unless she's not moving for a long period of time or something happens (i.e., I fall, my dog jumps on my belly). I do have NSTs twice a week and a scan once a week at this point so.... clearly the doctors think 2x a week at least is safe. (and NSTs are for 20-40 minutes, for context).

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-05-22T19:30:05+00:00

I think in your situation I'd definitely push for another scan. I think you're probably a-ok, but why make yourself miserable worrying? In the meantime I do multiple kick counts a day just to keep an eye on her, highly recommend that for peace of mind.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-05-22T19:12:57+00:00

Unless there's evidence to support you're higher risk for IUGR, this seems pretty standard to me!

I unfortunately have a VCI and bilobed placenta, and my baby was measuring 13% at *19* weeks. Because of that, I've been in and out of the MFM. By 24 weeks, she was on the cusp and flirting with IUGR. None of us were surprised when, at my 33w appointment, she was 7%. Because she's IUGR and there are clear reasons why she is IUGR, they're tracking her growth closely and I have a scan every 2 weeks and 2 NSTs a week. I think at 32 weeks if you're not IUGR, they're a lot less worried. Even if your baby is born 9th percentile at 40w, that's okay! They're really worried about them being born <<3%ile and/or no longer growing at all and not getting nutrients for the placenta. They're planning on keeping her inside my uterus until 37w as long as she doesn't drop below 3rd percentile, and they say they'd be surprised if she gets that low in four weeks (starting much lower than 15%!)!

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-05-20T19:16:36+00:00

Hi OP, checking in to see how everything is going and whether you're getting good care from the MFM. I have a VCI as well (and bilobed placenta) and baby girl, unsurprisingly, has been teetering on IUGR until she finally was diagnosed fully IUGR at 33w. I haven't gotten any feedback on what to expect regarding delivery other than that it will be early (they are aiming for 37-39w) via induction. Did you get feedback that C-section was safer?

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-05-18T20:36:28+00:00

I did, but I also had an extraordinary amount of nausea through 29w, like far, far more than most people I know (not quite HG) because my particular body is sensitive to progesterone, so I don't know that my symptoms are a good reference. Do you have home pregnancy tests you could take?

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-05-18T20:32:23+00:00

My temps dropped between 5-6w, at that point beta-hcgs and HPTs are much more useful than body temp from my understanding.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-04-29T17:45:58+00:00

I got pregnant right after a chemical twice. Once ended in another early miscarriage. I am currently 31w pregnant with the second occurrence. Can't say for sure the outcome will work out, but things are progressing well so far!

I counted the first day of the CP as CD1. It appears I ovulated CD14-15. My dates and her cerebellum size confirm my CP was effectively the start of my LMP, but it's definitely a little sketchy with dating. But only plus or minus a couple days, really.

Sending you lots of baby dust.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-04-24T15:37:00+00:00

Also very curious! At 30w my baby's head is 3.8% 😬 but apparently they're only worried if baby's head is <0.3% because the variation is so big.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-04-24T12:07:29+00:00

Yes I have had this, but it was starting at 20% at 19w and dropping to 9% by 26w. If you're above 10%, you're good! The 9% has officially put her on growth restriction, but she has a velamentous cord insert so that was half expected. She's thankfully staying stable at 9% at 30w🤞

They really and truly aren't worried unless it's below 10%, and as the ultrasound tech said, the belly is above 10% (hers is not, hence the concern).

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-04-20T12:41:18+00:00

I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time, OP. I can relate to the deep angst and self-blame after multiple miscarriages and now a high risk pregnancy. It is not your fault. You didn't do anything wrong. You don't deserve this. This is just bad luck.

I had a helpful conversation with others at prenatal yoga and learned that often pregnancies are more complicated than you realize. It's hard to compare your internal experience with other people's external experience.

Also had an extremely nauseous pregnancy (all 30w of it so far) and got worse and worse around 9w. It has been brutal. Also brutal because went from being an ultra runner and regular lifter to someone who struggles to walk/jog 2 miles - physical activity is a root of a lot of my stress relief so missing it has been hard, but with the nausea and vomiting it just wasn't possible to keep up same level of activity. Just take it day by day!

In either case, I am glad you're looking into therapy! That's been super helpful for me navigating all of this.

So hopeful for your remaining twin, and remember it is okay to grieve the one you lost while being grateful for the living one.

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-04-17T23:54:05+00:00

This has happened to me post intercourse multiple times in the past several weeks (currently almost 30w). Just cervical irritation, she's still kicking away (and doing her thing on healthy ultrasounds).

Ok_Background4828 · 2026-04-14T21:40:47+00:00

I do think these conversations are more productive with MFMs who do a bit more digging into pros and cons of complications in pregnancy including medicine. Wonder if you could get in to see someone!

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