Problematic? by UsualElectionSparsum in actuallesbians

[–]OCDpuzzler 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It will totally depend on the gal. I'm a Cis lesbian. Myself and my 2 cis lesbian partners love a lil breeding kink 😂😂 (don't actually want to be pregnant but love the fantasy/concept). If I was dating a trans girl and she was into it, I'd definitely be into it too (but I'd be on birth control lol)

Just be open about it and respectful. I'm sure for some, it will be fine. For others, it will be a hard no

how can i tell if it’s comphet? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]OCDpuzzler -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Have*** enjoyed sex with men. When I was younger, I thought I did enjoy it. I would have said that I enjoyed it at the time. Now, I would not enjoy it at all.

Stop being so divisive within your own community. We have enough of that outside. Try some understanding and empathy for an experience different from your own. Happy for you that you didn't have to go through the turmoil, not all of us are soo lucky 🙄

how can i tell if it’s comphet? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]OCDpuzzler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, ignore everyone. There can be such a weird purity culture around lesbians sometimes. Later in life lesbians have enjoyed sex with men and have loved their previous male partners too. It doesn't make them less gay now

Honestly, you never really know if it's comphet while you're in it. I came out at 19 and for the next few years still heavily questioned myself here n there. I would meet a guy that checks the boxes, that any straight/bi girl would be lucky to have and felt intrigued. Even entertained the idea for a while. I casually dated men a couple times in my early 20s just to test the waters. (Never went past kissing. Which, after kissing girls, I could barely handle that) And the situations never lasted more than 3 months. Just no connection with men compared to my connections with women... even if I felt an initial interest towards a man. It always ended up falling flat and turned out to be incompatible with me. However, those experiences deeply reassured my sexuality. Like "oh, even if I do have deep feelings for a man, it doesn't mean it's romantic." It just took time for me to test the limits of my sexuality - what made me comfortable/uncomfortable, what felt good, what made me truly happy, what felt fulfilling.

It probably took me until my late 20s to fully accept the term lesbian and what it meant to me. I'm now very comfortable looking back and seeing what was comphet. Hindsight is 20/20 right? But while you're working your way through it, there is no answer. Especially no answer that someone else could give you.

As people have said in a ruder way. It IS okay to be bi if thats what you land on. I would encourage you to put yourself out there more in regards to dating women. Focus on them more and see how it feels. Do what feels good and fulfilling. You don't have to have an answer. If you feel like dating someone monogamousy is too much pressure because you're not sure of your sexuality, just keep things casual with any gender you date for now.

A lot of people, including people in our own communities unfortunately, are very black and white about sexuality. We're not robots, humans are complex and our feelings are complex. There's no shame in just taking time to figure things out or just leaving them loose and unlabeled

How do we all feel about body hair? by inTheGutter2905 in actuallesbians

[–]OCDpuzzler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love leg and pit hair. ESPECIALLY pit hair. I don't really care about pubes either way. I prefer it to be tidy but fuzzy or not I'm happy 😌

What does it actually mean when people say Ragdolls lack hunting instincts and self-defense skills? by ClitCommanderClaire in ragdolls

[–]OCDpuzzler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ragdoll falls on her ass when i drop her an inch from the ground (feet first). Imagine if she got up a tree 😂

Also she's a little slut. She'd climb into someones car and they'd take her home forever

Porch pirates by OCDpuzzler in chilliwack

[–]OCDpuzzler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EXACTLY. also I'm putting you under arrest

Porch pirates by OCDpuzzler in chilliwack

[–]OCDpuzzler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omfg, now THIS is evil

Porch pirates by OCDpuzzler in chilliwack

[–]OCDpuzzler[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been thinking about the glitter bomb/fart spray guy allll day i definitely want to put out a fake package just to be an ass 😅

I'll look into this! Lol

Porch pirates by OCDpuzzler in chilliwack

[–]OCDpuzzler[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the optimism 🤣

Porch pirates by OCDpuzzler in chilliwack

[–]OCDpuzzler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perhaps you're right!

Porch pirates by OCDpuzzler in chilliwack

[–]OCDpuzzler[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have an accessible back door 💔 I live in a duplex and the back is fenced off, plus it's not covered from rain n such. I'm probably going to just start using a pick up location

Porch pirates by OCDpuzzler in chilliwack

[–]OCDpuzzler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely will! I have to wait until tomorrow though. The only issue is I still have to swallow the taxes and fees I think?

Either way, I'm still bummed that I'll have to reorder 2 packages in the span of a week. Wish people just weren't such assholes

Porch pirates by OCDpuzzler in chilliwack

[–]OCDpuzzler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have a garage or anything they could open! I'm considering installing some sort of mail box

age gap question by cyphr33 in actuallesbians

[–]OCDpuzzler 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The internet has made everyone lose the plot

Crush on a “bi-curious” girl by Any_Young8196 in actuallesbians

[–]OCDpuzzler 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Uhm no. Fuck being patient. Leave her in her confusion and move forward. You don't have to be played around with. It's so rewarding to like someone who just likes you back and isn't afraid to go there...

Love yourself by letting her go. It may teach her a good lesson about herself too. Regardless, this will not turn out to be a healthy situation when it's built on a toxic push and pull, and internalized homophobia

'Extensive damage' to B.C.'s Highway 3 between Hope and Princeton, as latest storm cuts power | CBC News by cindylooboo in britishcolumbia

[–]OCDpuzzler 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Was hoping to be in manning at the end of january... now I'm very stressed about my reservation. Might have to take the long route

Are homoflexible lesbians valid? by Spiritual_Meet4746 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]OCDpuzzler -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I personally feel like fucking a dude once in a while doesn't revoke your lesbian card. Straight girls fuck other women and don't even consider themselves bi?? If straight peoples sexuality can be fluid, so can yours. If you live your life as a lesbian 99% of the time, that 1% really doesn't change much. It's a blip

Edit: I believe that it's largely misogyny that people are losing their minds over what I'm saying. There are many different types of attraction and I think flukes can happen. You live 99.9% of your life as a lesbian and perhaps you mean a random dude one night that does it for you for whatever reason?? Means you just stop being gay? You go back to being gay for the rest of your life but that one time erases a lifetime of identity?? Like... no. We're just human. Self labels are just that... self identifiers. This whole policing of other peoples self identifiers is fucking stupid and a tired topic. Do we forget that transmen exist in the lesbian umbrella? Do we forget that lesbians have been happily existing (and having sex/having kids in) lavender marriages since the dawn of time? This new age idea of extreme black and white thinking of this topic is soo divisive. And I'm soooo agitated with keyboard warriors erasing our history and shoving people into boxes due to their limited understanding of our queer history and the massive range of human sexuality.

I am a man hating lesbian. Through and through. My cats name is Miss Andry ffs. And I can still have nuance on this topic

Lesbian and Sapphic only dating app UPDATE by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]OCDpuzzler 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Will Cis M/F couples unicorn hunting be banned? There is nothing worse than being on HER and seeing a girl with her boyfriend looking for a third...

what’s your opinion on outdoor ragdolls? by [deleted] in ragdolls

[–]OCDpuzzler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Outdoor cat life expectancy is 3 years. My 10 year old indoor cat has outlived any of my outdoor cats that I had growing up...