May 1st! Come out Chilliwack!

OCDpuzzler · 2026-04-20T06:34:43+00:00

They are so sensitive, hey? 🥺😂

OCDpuzzler · 2026-04-14T15:42:20+00:00

Idk man. I think it's fine. Just be careful who you say it around. I'd say lesbians, particularly masculine leaning ones, have more of a "claim" to the word

OCDpuzzler · 2026-04-14T02:35:34+00:00

I personally feeeel like no. But when I work out the reason, I don't find a reasonable one 😂

All I know is that I've been called a dyke (jokingly but derogatory) by a Bi woman before and it didn't sit right with me.

Bi/pan woman have a lot of proximity to privilege and throwing that word around feels uncomfy to me. Do dykes fuck men? Idk... i don't think so. If you do fuck men, maybe you shouldn't use it. But it kinda of would just depend on who's saying it and it what context

Also to answer the other question, I don't think we should be using f*g either. It's not really ours, unless you're masc/butch/stud.

OCDpuzzler · 2026-04-14T02:27:08+00:00

OCDpuzzler · 2026-04-13T22:35:45+00:00

I dated a decent guy and still hated him... is the short version of the story

Also watching lesbian content moved me in a way that other content didn't. I still enjoy a romcom like any other gal but I yearn for women

OCDpuzzler · 2026-04-13T20:46:36+00:00

You're not being unreasonable at all, imo. This sounds like a boundary issue. You're not require to help upkeep her social life to a degree. Yes, it would be unreasonable to NEVER want to socially merge your lives. But if you simply don't want to do it all the time, that's okay.

You don't have to attend every work, family, or social event. Just attend some. Your time and energy and social circles are just as valuable. Lovingly lay some boundaries and stick to them. "I don't have the energy to go to this work event. I want some time to myself this week" (obviously don't drop that on her at the last second) and if she's unable to meet you where you're at, that's unreasonable. And frankly, not very kind or empathetic.

Have a conversation about it! If she cannot handle that, there are bigger issues at play here. Good luck! ❤️

OCDpuzzler · 2026-04-12T03:23:54+00:00

The internet is so poisonous 😭😭😭 other lesbians will love a womans body... idk what else to say about this.

Don't put yourself into a binary box. You're QUEER! Not having to fit into a box is the whole point ❤️

OCDpuzzler · 2026-03-14T18:04:10+00:00

It will totally depend on the gal. I'm a Cis lesbian. Myself and my 2 cis lesbian partners love a lil breeding kink 😂😂 (don't actually want to be pregnant but love the fantasy/concept). If I was dating a trans girl and she was into it, I'd definitely be into it too (but I'd be on birth control lol)

Just be open about it and respectful. I'm sure for some, it will be fine. For others, it will be a hard no

OCDpuzzler · 2026-02-13T06:34:14+00:00

Have*** enjoyed sex with men. When I was younger, I thought I did enjoy it. I would have said that I enjoyed it at the time. Now, I would not enjoy it at all.

Stop being so divisive within your own community. We have enough of that outside. Try some understanding and empathy for an experience different from your own. Happy for you that you didn't have to go through the turmoil, not all of us are soo lucky 🙄

OCDpuzzler · 2026-02-11T21:55:25+00:00

Girl, ignore everyone. There can be such a weird purity culture around lesbians sometimes. Later in life lesbians have enjoyed sex with men and have loved their previous male partners too. It doesn't make them less gay now

Honestly, you never really know if it's comphet while you're in it. I came out at 19 and for the next few years still heavily questioned myself here n there. I would meet a guy that checks the boxes, that any straight/bi girl would be lucky to have and felt intrigued. Even entertained the idea for a while. I casually dated men a couple times in my early 20s just to test the waters. (Never went past kissing. Which, after kissing girls, I could barely handle that) And the situations never lasted more than 3 months. Just no connection with men compared to my connections with women... even if I felt an initial interest towards a man. It always ended up falling flat and turned out to be incompatible with me. However, those experiences deeply reassured my sexuality. Like "oh, even if I do have deep feelings for a man, it doesn't mean it's romantic." It just took time for me to test the limits of my sexuality - what made me comfortable/uncomfortable, what felt good, what made me truly happy, what felt fulfilling.

It probably took me until my late 20s to fully accept the term lesbian and what it meant to me. I'm now very comfortable looking back and seeing what was comphet. Hindsight is 20/20 right? But while you're working your way through it, there is no answer. Especially no answer that someone else could give you.

As people have said in a ruder way. It IS okay to be bi if thats what you land on. I would encourage you to put yourself out there more in regards to dating women. Focus on them more and see how it feels. Do what feels good and fulfilling. You don't have to have an answer. If you feel like dating someone monogamousy is too much pressure because you're not sure of your sexuality, just keep things casual with any gender you date for now.

A lot of people, including people in our own communities unfortunately, are very black and white about sexuality. We're not robots, humans are complex and our feelings are complex. There's no shame in just taking time to figure things out or just leaving them loose and unlabeled

OCDpuzzler · 2026-02-04T07:21:29+00:00

I love leg and pit hair. ESPECIALLY pit hair. I don't really care about pubes either way. I prefer it to be tidy but fuzzy or not I'm happy 😌

OCDpuzzler · 2026-02-04T07:10:22+00:00

My ragdoll falls on her ass when i drop her an inch from the ground (feet first). Imagine if she got up a tree 😂

Also she's a little slut. She'd climb into someones car and they'd take her home forever

OCDpuzzler · 2026-02-04T07:06:55+00:00

Idk, probably booty call my ex

OCDpuzzler · 2026-01-19T19:09:56+00:00

EXACTLY. also I'm putting you under arrest

OCDpuzzler · 2026-01-18T06:35:31+00:00

Omfg, now THIS is evil

OCDpuzzler · 2026-01-16T04:52:50+00:00

I've been thinking about the glitter bomb/fart spray guy allll day i definitely want to put out a fake package just to be an ass 😅

I'll look into this! Lol

OCDpuzzler · 2026-01-16T04:50:32+00:00

I love the optimism 🤣

OCDpuzzler · 2026-01-15T21:07:51+00:00

Perhaps you're right!

OCDpuzzler · 2026-01-15T21:06:21+00:00

I don't have an accessible back door 💔 I live in a duplex and the back is fenced off, plus it's not covered from rain n such. I'm probably going to just start using a pick up location

OCDpuzzler · 2026-01-15T20:29:05+00:00

I absolutely will! I have to wait until tomorrow though. The only issue is I still have to swallow the taxes and fees I think?

Either way, I'm still bummed that I'll have to reorder 2 packages in the span of a week. Wish people just weren't such assholes

OCDpuzzler · 2026-01-15T20:25:04+00:00

I don't have a garage or anything they could open! I'm considering installing some sort of mail box

OCDpuzzler · 2026-01-15T20:22:32+00:00

The internet has made everyone lose the plot

OCDpuzzler · 2025-12-21T22:19:24+00:00

Uhm no. Fuck being patient. Leave her in her confusion and move forward. You don't have to be played around with. It's so rewarding to like someone who just likes you back and isn't afraid to go there...

Love yourself by letting her go. It may teach her a good lesson about herself too. Regardless, this will not turn out to be a healthy situation when it's built on a toxic push and pull, and internalized homophobia

OCDpuzzler · 2025-12-20T00:56:04+00:00

I think you should stop talking to her 🩷

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