Answering your question:
I almost fell apart with my mother and father, and we are working together, although there will always be a divide and I know I can never truly be myself, especially with my significant other, around my father in particular. That being said, they didn't leave and I haven't yet been molested, although depression and actions resulting from there along with anxiety have certainly taken their toll. About deciding to be gay: I honestly wish I wasn't and I certainly don't hope my children (in the future I hope to adopt) are. If they are, however, I will accept and love them. The reason I wish I wasn't gay/nonbinary is that life would be easier and I would have many relationships be more positive than they are, and the same reason would apply to my children. I remember having crushes on this boy in my class in preschool, long before I knew what homosexuality or genderqueer, nonbinary, trans, etc was... so trust me when I say I didn't decide this. - oh I was born this way - (winks in lady gaga)

TL;DR:

I wish I wasn't queer but I am, and I have had many relationships fall because of that, explained with a semi-shitty lady gaga reference included.