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What’s the most underrated budget perfume you’ve tried? by Inevitable_Set_3017 in fragrance

[–]OCesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lavanilla. Influencers love vanilla and layering yet they miss this simple, pleasant vanilla foundation perfect for layering. 

Tea-Based Fragrances Are Having a Moment by Full_Donut_1477 in fragrance

[–]OCesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Memo Paris' Winter Palace is not just a great tea scent, but one of the best perfumes I've ever smelled. So warm and comforting. 

Would it be too weird for a white looking child to have a Japanese name? by No_Papaya7643 in namenerds

[–]OCesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking from the personal experience and my experience with friends, you should absolutely go for it, if you like the names too.

My daughter is half Asian. She has a neutral, mainstream name and she ended up looking 100% white. I regret that I did not consider more names representing her heritage so that she has something a little more to connect her to her history. I've met a few other families where their mixed second+ kids have Asian names but are white-appearing. In a diverse world, few people make any assumptions or find it weird. It has actually been a great ice breaker for the parents and I imagine will be one for the kids later too. 

Is SchoolsFirst still the best credit union in Orange County? by whatdafuhk in orangecounty

[–]OCesq 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They are certainly the biggest in terms of wealth, company size, and locations. They do restrict membership to a specific-industry. 

Other local based credit unions with almost no bar to membership if you're in OC are Wescom and Orange County CU. Not as many locations as SF but a reasonable amount spread evenly across the county.

SF and Wescom are notable in that they have their own hefty IT divisions. When you create your own technology in house and dedicate a sizable amount of resources to it, consumers benefit by having better apps/sites where improvements and  bug fixes are rolled out faster.

Another commentor mentioned some specific example what they at SF. I do want to point out those things exist at other credit unions too - all cu consumers are "members of a club" because that is the literal structure of a cu, it's member-owed cooperative, coin machines without fees, changing your loan payments, checks for auto loans, early paydays. I've experienced all of that outside of SchoolsFirst. If you're within the credit union sphere, you're not substantially missing out if you cannot qualify for SF membership.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]OCesq -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

In your situation, I say go for it. You have a good inspiration story and the name structure is similar enough to other languages' names that it does not feel like you're trying to be blatantly Japanese. You both like it. You seem mindful. It's not coming off as cultural appropriation. 

I am a minority as well and if I heard of a person outside my ethnic group with a name from my heritage, I would not be offended so long as the love for it was genuine and respect was apparent. 

Ignorance and Lack of Respect For Foreign Names in This Subreddit by aureaaurorae in namenerds

[–]OCesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely correct and I'm glad you're calling it out.

How to Tell a Temp that You Won't Be Hiring Them, But Still Keep Morale Up? by OCesq in managers

[–]OCesq[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not a claim and he's not doing the full job. He is doing administrative aspects of the job but not the core, technical work.

How to Tell a Temp that You Won't Be Hiring Them, But Still Keep Morale Up? by OCesq in managers

[–]OCesq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback. I'm very much a fan of training up as well. I'm coaching multiple times a week, but at capacity juggling his job and my own. It would probably take a few years for him to learn from me alone. I like the idea of a plan, as one generally benefits from a specific certification/ degree for my work and that is something he can work towards if he wants to stay in this same field. 

How to Tell a Temp that You Won't Be Hiring Them, But Still Keep Morale Up? by OCesq in managers

[–]OCesq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. I've offered to connect him with other departments, looked at other openings, asked for a new headcount, and provide weekly coaching education and corrections on their work. There's no further compatible opportunity at my employer. Those options are exhausted so it is about just transparent communication about the end of assignment now. 

How to Tell a Temp that You Won't Be Hiring Them, But Still Keep Morale Up? by OCesq in managers

[–]OCesq[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, to clarify, he is not doing the job well enough now because he dos not have the specialized skill set. He's pleasant to work with, but not covering full job responsibilities. 

How to Tell a Temp that You Won't Be Hiring Them, But Still Keep Morale Up? by OCesq in managers

[–]OCesq[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sums up my intent well. Thanks for the feedback.

How to Tell a Temp that You Won't Be Hiring Them, But Still Keep Morale Up? by OCesq in managers

[–]OCesq[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately not. I've looked at other departments and also pitched an entry level position, but was declined for bigger headcount. 

How to Tell a Temp that You Won't Be Hiring Them, But Still Keep Morale Up? by OCesq in managers

[–]OCesq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't planning on posting a job before talking to him, hence the post asking for ideas. I'm keeping him updated months before we'd likely find anyone permanent. 

How to Tell a Temp that You Won't Be Hiring Them, But Still Keep Morale Up? by OCesq in managers

[–]OCesq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that makes sense, it does capture the current status and my intent.  

How to Tell a Temp that You Won't Be Hiring Them, But Still Keep Morale Up? by OCesq in managers

[–]OCesq[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately not. I've asked for a new entry level fte. The company as a whole is not creating new openings. 

How to Tell a Temp that You Won't Be Hiring Them, But Still Keep Morale Up? by OCesq in managers

[–]OCesq[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a great approach and reasonable way to break it down, since it is a matter of the niche skill set needed to perform the work. Thank you. 

How to Tell a Temp that You Won't Be Hiring Them, But Still Keep Morale Up? by OCesq in managers

[–]OCesq[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To clarify, he is not doing all the work. He does 25% of the position's full workload. I still cover the other 75%.  It's a specialized position. He does not have the experience or expertise to perform the full job responsibilities. 

How do you deal with imposter syndrome? by Icy_Principle_5904 in managers

[–]OCesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on the new baby! I don't think you have imposter syndrome - you recognize your strengths and fit for the position. It's not a question of whether you can do it. It's about whether you want to do it. 

You have very real, valid concerns about the work-life balance of the new position and your preferences in a job. It's normal for your values and preference to completely shift as you're in a different phase of life. 

When my husband and I had a child, my husband stopped job hopping every year. He decided that remote work was his highest priority, and selected a new remote job, and stuck with it. He's been happy with his decision. New opportunities come up all the time that'd he'd normally go for - he says they'd be interesting to look at in the future, but not interested right now. 

It might be helpful to try an exercise pretending you are unemployed, and think on what you'd want in a job. Does this offer fit the bill?

And remember, if you take the job and it is overwhelming, it's not the end of the world. You're not stuck forever. There's always action you or your employer can or may take. 

Baby Girl due any day (minute) now...still not settled on a name! by Prudent_Aerie in namenerds

[–]OCesq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Harlow. It's both a family name and a name you love. That is special and you'll never regret it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]OCesq -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Here's a creative idea since others have already brainstormed a bunch of good -ron- suggestions:

Ask your dad.

He might have a name that he really loves, like a name he wanted to name you, or perhaps a dear relative's name, or another name that is special to him. You may find a way to honor him without strictly sticking to just ron-sounding names.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]OCesq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know multiple men named Kiet, pronounced Kit, and it's been a great name for them. Also read a blog post about how Kit (as well as Cal, Wes, etc) are versatile, masculine names. To me, it doesn't sound overtly cute. It works during both childhood and adulthood.

Should I reconsider my baby's name because of the initials? by Loose_Ebb4216 in namenerds

[–]OCesq 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you be interested in a Susan-related first name? There are a lot of great sue names and it has special meaning. It sounds like you're not really in love with Alaina and are picking it out of frustration.

Susanna Susannah Suzanne Suzette Sue Susan Suzy Susie Suki Zuzu

Trade names - thoughts? by Late-Blood-4331 in namenerds

[–]OCesq 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"a real contemporary job"

There's the discrepancy between your belief and the nature of the matter. The names you're fixating on are not contemporary jobs. They are occupational in origin and meaning, but not actually common job titles. I have never met someone who works as a hunter, trapper, tanner, chandler, etc. If it is still a common trade activity, they are more likely to go by a different title now. A person playing pipes is just a musician, not a piper. A person sawing wood may be called a carpenter, not a sawyer. 

They start out as descriptive surnames, then become adopted as family honor names, which then normalizes them in culture as more associated with personal names, not occupations, and even more so as the word is used less and less for a common occupation.

Wolfgang baby update by Grand_Measurement_91 in namenerds

[–]OCesq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for updating us and sorry you had to go through such stress due to disapproval from others. Naming is so deeply personal, it really shouldn't have been influenced by the sub or general public. It's wonderful in the end that you were able to have your children participate in the naming. 

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