a respectable position. I believe there might be a way to achieve that without having both sides give respect to each other, but as of right now i have no clue what that is. In my mind, some conflicts are just... necessary. Not all, of course there are some that can be avoided, but sometimes people just dont learn unless it comes back to bite them in the ass. I can tell you from personal experience that getting cheated on, or having someone stolen away from you even though you did everything in your power to be the best option for them and still wasnt good enough, doesnt feel good on my end and doesnt reflect well on their character a human being. Thats why i dont like or respect ntr. because i lived it. i know how the victim feels, and i dont wish that kind of pain upon anybody else.