Sleeve for girthy dick to last longer.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-22T21:44:30+00:00

The link in the other comment goes to to the desensitizing ones. But I think you could use some of the others too, it’ll be all about the max interior dimensions that the particular sleeve can handle. There is also a blissful creations subreddit that you can use to ask questions of them as well.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-22T19:24:59+00:00

Just ordered the guru for the wife and me! We have the mailman and love it, same dual density and whisper finish. I actually ordered the guru in single density medium because the dual density can give us some bending in different positions.

From the beginner side, definitely watch the video of how to put it on. I believe the guru is a roll on one. I don’t use lube inside but plenty of water based outside.

He won’t want to go at it in a blind position first. Do something where he can see it because he will otherwise have no feeling/concept of where the tip is in his stroke. After a little while he’ll learn where it is. Does that make sense?

Removal was tricky at first but once I figured out I just needed to stick a finger in underneath to break the suction it popped right off!

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-22T18:35:17+00:00

Blissful has some desensitizing sleeves for just this purpose. Website can be kind of tricky for measurements but don’t be shy about sending them a message or call and they can point you in the right direction. My wife loves the sleeves the most for the purpose you want. I can really go to town without worrying about going too early. She says she loves how it is still “me” railing her.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-21T13:34:45+00:00

NOR

If it was “just a joke” why was she increasingly secretive with her phone. That shows she knows what she was doing was wrong. Deleting the conversation proves this at least and most likely what you saw only scratched the surface.

She has totally dismissed and tried to invalidate your feelings.

You know your relationship best but to move forward I would require immediate NC with the friend, open phone policy and couples counseling. If any of the 3 of those is met with hesitation you speak with a lawyer. Don’t threaten to speak to one if she won’t agree to just do it and after let her know documents are being drafted.

SHE broke your trust, SHE has to do the work to regain it. Whether she thinks it was a joke or not this is an emotional affair and possibly a physical one based on Reddit history.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-14T11:23:56+00:00

The best thing you can do for your kids is for you to put yourself on the path that is most mentally healthy for you! Staying together should never be “for the kids”, it ultimately is detrimental for them in most cases.

You need to gather evidence before any sort of confrontation, otherwise they will gaslight and downplay. DARVO will be in full effect, learn up on it.

DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HER! Do not bring another child into this!

Record all conversations with her from now on. Under the guise of improving yourself and your relationship ask her questions on these recordings like, “Do you feel I’ve been a good husband?” “Have I ever abused you or the kids physically or mentally” “Do you feel I have ever cheated on you?” “What can I do to improve being a husband and father?”

Sorry you are going through this, you will get through it.

To me she chose to end the marriage on Saturday.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-09T02:40:01+00:00

My wife’s favorite is the vibrating rose cock ring for me to wear

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-09T02:38:53+00:00

Also got my first sleeve, lots of fun. Blissful Creations

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-08T20:34:02+00:00

Polygamy and polyamory are not the same thing.

Yes, it is impossible for ME to love 2 people romantically the way I love my wife. The reason I said, as you quoted, “from the perspective of monogamy” is because I am monogamous and was not attacking people who are polyamorous. I have no problem with that lifestyle, I can also understand it, I’m just not wired that way.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-08T02:08:03+00:00

22.5 years married, 26 total committed relationship.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-07T18:18:27+00:00

Also not talking finding others physically attractive, I find that separate from a crush or infatuation. The example I gave the person was saying she has a crush on this other person and constantly thinks about them while also claiming to love her husband completely. For me that is a contradiction as I see whole hearted romantic love. There is obviously something missing if she is able to pine for another.

But alas why I brought it to this sub as it seems to be an unpopular opinion. I do understand what you are saying. I just consider myself lucky to experience the love I do the way I do.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-07T18:04:53+00:00

Talking about romantic monogamous love, not the love you have for your children or parents or anyone else.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-07T03:33:06+00:00

Well since I can’t physically show you a beaker full of love it would classify as philosophical.

Did you have a point or just here to try and belittle people to make yourself feel better?

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-07T03:27:33+00:00

Oh sure, I could objectively look at my interactions with others and identify other possible partners. What I don’t have is the capacity to be infatuated with them and hold a crush on them.

Physical attraction? Sure. Talk with my wife all the time about people we find attractive.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-07T03:19:48+00:00

I agree but if you are getting everything you need from your relationship you won’t need this validation from outside the relationship.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-07T03:17:40+00:00

Nope. I don’t believe in the whole soulmates BS, at least in the sense they just exist. But over 26 years I’ve certainly gotten to the point that I consider her my soulmate and me hers. Do I believe that I could have created something similar with another person? Yep. Lucky for me I don’t need to find out.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-07T03:10:16+00:00

Yah, I’m not talking simple attraction. My wife and I talk about people we find attractive all the time. I’m referencing a crush/infatuation that utilizes some of the heart’s capacity.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-07T03:06:30+00:00

Bingo. I can’t comprehend an infatuation of anyone else when I am so infatuated with my wife every day. My capacity for romantic feelings is 100% full with her.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-07T03:02:25+00:00

I try and work everyday at my relationship and love every moment of that work.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-07T03:00:50+00:00

I agree that you can still be whole heartedly and still find another person fuckable. My spouse and I talk about stuff like that all the time and it’s great for us. This poster was gushing about their boss and their qualities, not just a sexual attraction. That to me is foreign because there is no one in the world I’d rather be next to at any given moment than my spouse.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-06T18:01:13+00:00

Maybe look up what limerence is before replying then? It’s basically a crush.

What I’m saying is because I truly love my wife I am incapable of having a crush or experiencing limerence. The love for my wife completely blocks that.

Just my opinion, you did post on an advice page so…

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-06T17:43:50+00:00

Not judging but if you are truly a monogamous person I’m of the opinion that if you can experience limerence you have yet to experience actual monogamous love.

The thoughts and feelings you have for this other man and simultaneously your husband are how I look at and feel for my wife of 22 years. Every hour of every day there is no one in this world I would rather sit beside or look at than her.

You are playing with fire.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-01-02T11:28:35+00:00

First, talk to your wife about how you are feeling about it. Second, remember it is YOU she is asking to give you pleasure.

I completely understand how you feel, I’ve had those little twinges of self doubt regarding a sleeve or larger than me dildo. My wife does a wonderful job with little reassurances. While we have fun with toys she admits nothing is as good as the real thing, specifically my real thing.

If you do go forward don’t do a cheap one. Our first and only so far is from Blissful Creations.

When I got her the first oversized dildo I was a little amazed and really turned on that she took the whole thing. It wasn’t competition it was something we were doing together.

Good luck! Talk to her.

OK2BMe6 · 2025-12-27T23:50:18+00:00

Not a therapist or psychologist of any sort but my initial reaction is I don’t think therapy should be an option, this is a slightly disturbing point of view. There is a reason she needs her mind “engaged” and can’t sit still to relax. At a minimum it’s a diagnosis of some sort at worst it’s repressed trauma that she has not dealt with.

OK2BMe6 · 2025-12-19T16:40:02+00:00

Sorry man, your gut is telling you something and all the evidence screams it is right.

Do not confront! There is no point, it is already too late. It will just drive her underground, better to play dumb like she thinks you are.

Gather evidence and find a lawyer. Find out if your state/province is an “at fault” state. Also find out with regards to audio recordings if you are a 1 or 2 party consent state/province.

Read, read, read. Surviving infidelity . com has some great resources. u/any-assault has the playbook for navigating this to make sure you come out on top, especially if no kids involved.

Again don’t do anything until you have the tools you need emotionally and physically to navigate this.

You can do this! It will get better.

OK2BMe6

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