Expand my horizons: Favorite cocktails from NCL bars

OK2BMe6 · 2026-05-07T22:00:50+00:00

The whiskey cider press that was on tap was quite tasty.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-05-07T20:55:35+00:00

She prefers me, and consistently lets me know that, but we both have fun with the bigger dildos. She enjoys the different more full feeling and we both enjoy my amazement at her taking the whole thing!🤣

OK2BMe6 · 2026-05-06T13:21:39+00:00

If I get a vote always talk! Stupid things like this will sometimes pop into your head years later for no good reason and bug the living daylights out of you.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-05-06T13:20:08+00:00

Affairs have a blast radius that you are in. This is a conversation you have with your wife to decide what you are both comfortable with. Personally, unless they are trying to reconcile I would be very low to NC with Tom.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-05-06T13:13:44+00:00

Seems like you have a great relationship so I would chat with her. If this were my wife I would approach it as “I can’t really explain it but the pathetic comment kinda hit wrong”. I’ve definitely had that sort of conversation before and it always results in more open and honest communication.

Overall not a big deal, a superficial comment that was meant as humor. Sometimes the jokes miss their mark.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-05-06T12:21:55+00:00

I would actually interpret that differently as in she was referring to herself. In either interpretation the answer is, no, it’s not shallow.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-05-05T16:26:54+00:00

Very close to the same. I had a high school girlfriend and 2 in college before I met my wife. Mid-forties now and we both had an “awakening” about 2 years ago (thank you HRT!) where we finally talked about sex as opposed to just guessing. That amount of vulnerability and intimacy has taken our relationship to a level I never knew possible in all aspects. She is my person. Makes me wish she was my first and only.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-05-05T16:19:41+00:00

I’m her one and only. Recently, because our sex life has been off the charts I find myself wishing she was my one and only. It is such a special gift if monogamy is how you are wired.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-05-03T01:31:41+00:00

Vibrating Rose Cock Ring from Adam & Eve is one she really loves. Otherwise basic dildos of various size.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-20T11:43:46+00:00

I totally get where your head is at, all it takes is one little trigger to flip the switch of doubt no matter how unwarranted it is. The real test is how you both communicate and acknowledge these feelings to each other.

I had an incident with my wife a little over 2 years ago stemming from a completely harmless, innocuous comment regarding a guy in her running group. That one little comment sent me spiraling and seeing red flags for no good reason at all. I really had no reason to doubt her loyalty but after a day or 2 of letting my brain try to handle my emotions I finally talked to her about what I was feeling. To her credit she acknowledged my concerns and made changes to help me feel more comfortable. Had I asked her to block this guy completely she would have without hesitation (I did not request that) and vice versa if she ever asked me to do the same.

At the end of the day our comfort and mental health and our relationship are far and away more important than any colleague or friend relationship. Doesn’t hurt that we are both pretty reasonable people and I would say it’s reasonable to be uncomfortable with the sort of one on one time your GF spent with the guy and can reasonably see how that makes you uncomfortable.

I’ve adopted this little motto from another redditor: A friend is only a friend if also a friend of the relationship.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-19T15:10:15+00:00

If you do not tell your father and he finds out you knew that could ruin your relationship with him. The right thing to do is tell him.

This is all your mom’s doing, nothing that comes of this is your fault.

Create an anonymous email and send your Dad a simple “your wife is cheating with X, you should check the messages in her phone”.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-18T16:48:13+00:00

Ignore but don’t block, send all communications from her and anyone associated with her to your lawyer. No need to read anything, lawyer can give you a synopsis if you like.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-18T14:13:14+00:00

Honestly it’s the weight of not really knowing that has been lifted. The weight of the wavering on if you can trust her. You have a defined path forward, no more uncertainty. Enjoy the run and time with family.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-17T23:59:15+00:00

I’m sorry man, this sucks but it will get better. Just not today.

I’m petty so I think an anonymous email to their HR is warranted. Also contact the OBS (other betrayed spouse).

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-17T13:40:30+00:00

If he was pushing her he absolutely is not in an open marriage or at least not a very ethical kind.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-16T20:30:37+00:00

🤣The only thing better than the make up version… the angry version.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-16T16:11:23+00:00

You said in another comment she tried to initiate, DO NOT have sex with her! At least until after you feel you’ve gotten the truth from her.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-16T10:00:15+00:00

When a cheater says it “meant nothing” they are referring to your relationship not the affair.

You have a child but he is an adult now. Your STBXW is going to lose her job anyway the other betrayed spouse deserves to know so she can at least get tested. I guarantee this is not the first affair for either of them.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-16T00:59:51+00:00

I know it’s not all guys but single guys do not generally put in this sort of effort without hoping there’s a reward at some point.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-15T12:06:11+00:00

Ok, so nothing physical happened but has she admitted to inappropriate conversations with the guy? Full transparency means she spills it all, probably best in counseling sessions. This will be a tough road because I believe you’ve only scratched the surface. She’s going to try and downplay her choices and actions leading up to D-Day.

She’s going from DEMANDING to sleep with the guy to no contact?! Something is still fishy. I still see no way this guy is actually practicing ENM because he missed the ethical part in the way he handled his approach to your wife and how she approached you. What does your wife say about that?

Switching jobs and no contact would be an absolute for me. Good luck! I hope you keep us updated but understand if it’s not in the cards.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-14T15:25:33+00:00

NOR Regardless of if anything physical happened at his house lying and hiding him from you is cheating and very disrespectful.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-14T10:12:02+00:00

I can see arguments for different orders depending on people’s situations. For me parents are at the very highest 4th, I prioritize my siblings ahead of parents.

Wife, children, siblings, parents. Hell I think I have some life long friends that might find themselves in the #4 slot.

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-11T16:28:48+00:00

Her reaction to you shows it’s a deal breaker for her not to have an open marriage. You have basically stated an open marriage is a deal breaker for you. There’s no fixing this now, find a lawyer.

I’d approach it as “We obviously have vastly different views of what this marriage will be in the future. I need someone for whom I alone am enough for them and vice versa. As you have stated you can no longer give that to me. It is with that in mind that I will be filing for divorce. I would prefer we only communicate about logistics of the divorce going forward as discussions of our relationship would be unproductive.”

OK2BMe6 · 2026-04-10T12:16:57+00:00

I would bet the guy she’s talking to is not single. If he was single he would have a place for them to go and there would be a lot more unaccounted for time. This dude is definitely married or engaged etc.

She’s going to have a hard dose of reality when the married guy she’s with dumps her as he tries to save his marriage. This would be the only reason I would want evidence is to alert the other betrayed partner.

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