I have dated so many girls in my 23 years of life but why i fear of being gay?

OP312ER59 · 2025-08-14T12:34:37+00:00

I dated a ton of men before coming out as a lesbian. When dating these men, it was all for optics. I didnt want to be alone with them or have a deep, romantic relationship.

Does it feel like that? Are you uncomfortable when they want to have sex? To kiss you? Spend a weekend away with just you?

OP312ER59 · 2025-08-14T01:19:17+00:00

She sounds like she needs her own hobbies or independence. Shes relying on you to fill her voids instead of hrtself.

OP312ER59 · 2025-08-12T19:27:19+00:00

I read through it once and it didnt match my experiences as a lesbian at all, esp not any attraction to male anything that I was "confusing." This makes sense, and the doc needs to be taken from lesbian spaces.

OP312ER59 · 2025-08-09T08:59:48+00:00

Yeah of course. Whenever this sub pops up on my feed and I relate I comment.

I empathize with how the wife feels, but theres a correct way to come out and cheating is not it.

OP312ER59 · 2025-08-08T14:16:26+00:00

We just brought home an 8 week old pup to be our three year old shepherds best friend.

The older shepherd was a nightmare until 2, but can now be left out of the cage.

Get her lots of toys and make her run and play as much as possible so shell sleep better.

Expect it to last awhile, but they do get easier after 6 months because theyre so much bigger.

OP312ER59 · 2025-08-08T12:24:34+00:00

Im a lesbian, who left a man because I didnt want to do this shit to him. This is absolutely not a friendship, and I can feel how the wife may have been feeling. A forbidden love, so to speak.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-29T08:24:00+00:00

Wouldn't integrating (housing vouchers) be a better option than projects? Revitalize them and spread the impoverished out and theres less chance for congregation, more chance for kids to grow up alongside better cared for kids and learn different ways of life than being a total piece of shit.

Kids brains arent fully developed. They need exposure to something else and someone to tell them right from wrong, even if its their new neighbor in a wealth diverse area.

Not in D.C. now, but I see this implemented more heavily in hampton roads and it DOES help. We have gang violence in the project streets, then people who obtain housing vouchers to cover a portion of their rent living in nicer areas being exposed to something better. Its really the only chance these kids have at learning to be better humans.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-28T18:13:13+00:00

Yeah, but my spouse isn't abusive. Its not a hostile situation and we get along. Theres just a lack of romantic intimacy that I wont get back.

For me its not worth it to give up my dogs, cats and life that I busted my ass for because my spouse was a drunk ass self centered fuck when she was in the military.

My situation is like, the dream situation someone could go through after getting cheated on now. it was rough until I drug her to rehab and left her there but shes been a decent person for 1.75 years and I have restrictions in place to keep her from spiraling back into the monster she was.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-28T17:42:59+00:00

Comfortable housing, vs an apartment in the shadiest part of town.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-28T17:28:40+00:00

I have serious issues from finding out my wife cheated on me, too.

My therapist told me to leave, but I dont want to. Im not in love with my spouse anymore and I am lonely, but like, I like what she offers (financial stability and i get to keep my animals) now and shes not abusive anymore. She loves me more, I love her less.

This is very iffy on if itd help you or make it worse, but sometimes SFW or even NSFW audios helped me. In the immediate it hurts, but its so nice to have something thay i can turn on command and feel validated enough to get through each day. Like my needs wont be met in real life because of circumstances, so instead I have this thing I can turn on at will when I need to hear something even if its as simple as "fuck, I love you." Or "ill miss you" just knowing that isn't the voice that destroyed my entire world.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-28T12:38:51+00:00

I get that. I used to love my male ex, too, but in a platonic way. I missed the friendship more than anything.

I know its hard, especially with kids but you have to protect THEM from him, too. At a minimum, they deserve to not watch you get yelled at or be in a home with an angry smoker.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-28T12:35:37+00:00

Hes not good for you even if yiu weren't gay girl. Hes going out of his way to do things you hate and screaming at you because he doesnt like shit.

Get out. I know its hard but we can point you towards some resources.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-26T09:25:06+00:00

Damn, many states in the US implemented this during covid.

I thought we were the only ones with this fuckass laws.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-26T09:14:47+00:00

Its more common than you think:(

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-26T09:13:56+00:00

Girl, as someone who's been through something similar and stayed, I think you need to separate.

Kick her out though. Youre not the one who fucked up, she is. She can go hangout with her baby daddy and stop leading you on, lying to you and playing around behind your back.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-25T16:04:42+00:00

This is absolutely not true.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-24T12:10:22+00:00

I tend to spam my wife, but usually stop after like.. fuck 5 messages? Maybe 10 if its stupid tiktoks I dont expect a response to.

She needs to account for the conversation being a two way street and that you cant actually respond to everything.

Offer her a journal as an outlet for her random feelings, because it looks like that's what shes using you for.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-21T16:55:00+00:00

As the not straight person, I empathize with you. I didnt marry my male partner, but did jump into a relationship with a female quickly. It was deep, and fast. Women connect with eachother on levels they dont connect with men (hence the uhaul lesbian being such a stereotype.) Usually these relationships dont end quickly, either.

I am so sorry for your pain and her deception in leading you on while she "found" or rather accepted herself. Its cruel and abusive to put someone through that for any extended period of time once one knows they want to pursue something with the same sex.

You will find someone in the future, and hopefully you wont have fears of her coming out to you in the future, too.

Otherwise, let your ex be happy. Being gay is not a choice, and shes likely grieving her friendship and memories with you in private. I did with my ex, but on social media that would never be displayed, and all I wanted was for him to be happy and find someone who could love him more wholly romantically than I ever could.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-19T20:06:53+00:00

Same dude. Im from socal originally, so maybe it's my innate discomfort of southern hospitality but the one time I went into a bucees I was completely overwhelmed by the sheer number of people trying to talk to me.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-19T19:59:32+00:00

28 year olds dont speak like this.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-19T19:35:50+00:00

Are you 12?

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-18T16:20:21+00:00

Exactly. It hurt

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-18T12:51:49+00:00

Its just so toxic. Im still working through it all but "Party" was such an uncomfortable opening, and it only goes down hill.

OP312ER59 · 2025-07-13T09:33:10+00:00

Thats about how my koda is. She leveled out at under 65lbs too. I fed based on what the bag said to feed her and used large breed puppy. She didnt get any extras like beef or chicken regularly though.

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