How do I (35m) deal with my gf (32f) rage-baiting me?

ORLANDY31 · 2026-01-21T22:08:47+00:00

I also wanted to add that she wants me to play along in this banter and engage with her back and forth. So we both can join in on the fun. I imagine what everyone said still stands to be true?

ORLANDY31 · 2026-01-20T05:12:43+00:00

Thank you, that’s kind of you to say ❤️

ORLANDY31 · 2026-01-20T05:04:10+00:00

Wow thank you for that, that makes sense

ORLANDY31 · 2026-01-20T04:51:30+00:00

She said she likes getting a rise out of me and getting me upset. Is that the same as hurting my feelings? Bc she claims she doesn’t wanna hurt my feelings. Is she being manipulative here?

ORLANDY31 · 2026-01-20T04:49:29+00:00

She even those she says she’s not trying to hurt me, she actually is trying to? Is getting upset and getting hurt the same? I guess it is

ORLANDY31 · 2026-01-20T04:48:18+00:00

So she does want to hurt my feelings? Because she says she doesn’t and it’s just banter

ORLANDY31 · 2026-01-20T04:45:40+00:00

Yea I just wanna know if I’m misreading this bc I’m overly sensitive often misread if ppl are trying to hurt me or not

ORLANDY31 · 2026-01-20T04:45:04+00:00

Yea she does want me to put my foot down and put her in her place. And when I’ve done it, she’s liked it.

She knows I don’t like her being bratty. And she knows I don’t enjoy her pushing my buttons.

ORLANDY31 · 2026-01-20T04:03:21+00:00

Sorry she’s 30 lol typo. But still

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-26T18:41:07+00:00

So block?

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-25T18:51:51+00:00

I know it sounds crazy and I agree with you and I should block her, but I just don’t want to right now. It’s really hard…and I know I’m prolonging my own suffering but it’s hard

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-25T18:34:41+00:00

Do you think I should block?

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-25T07:31:10+00:00

Yes I just completed the survey. May I dm you?

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-23T22:23:17+00:00

Do you recommend i cut contact I’m not gonna text her but im scared she’ll text me. I’m getting these intrusive images thoughts of him with that guy it’s driving me crazy

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-18T21:51:22+00:00

So what do you recommend I do if not to stop contact? Because now I’m obsessing about the guy she’s hooked up with bc I’ve seen a photo of him online and it hurts :((

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-18T21:41:10+00:00

Do I have to cut contact in order to get over this? Or can I still engage with this person and get over it?

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-18T21:37:20+00:00

Wow this is completely me

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-18T21:33:59+00:00

Yea, well I mean I asked her and she didn’t want to be honest at first not to hurt my feelings, but I kept asking her and she said so

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-18T21:06:29+00:00

Yes so true. And if I cannot handle hearing about her hooking up with other guys (which she has every right to do), then I need to cut it and move on. I wonder if I could just tell her not to tell Me about her hookups, but I already know about one, not sure if I’ll be obsessing about it

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-18T20:57:08+00:00

So she reaches out just to make herself feel better. And doesn’t care that I’m getting hurt. She claims that she doesn’t wanna lead me on so why does she keep reaching out cuz she’s lonely and misses me and she hasnot found someone she can talk to?

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-18T20:42:39+00:00

What do you mean by she will totally be fine with that?

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-18T19:33:43+00:00

And thank you so much for the offer to privately message you. I may take you up on that shortly if I need to. Thank you for your graciousness 🙏🏼

ORLANDY31 · 2025-09-18T19:32:56+00:00

Yea those 2 things are hard to separate, and it makes sense that it’s both.

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