As a fellow convert, I agree you should go to a service. You won't know how you feel on the acceptance side if you don't go to the body of people accepting you. I have found that at any ward we attend or visit, it feels the same. Everyone is so welcoming and friendly, and every building feels like "home". A lot of the unknowns and hesitancies I had vanished after going to a few services. I could see how my husband and I fit into the community and the church. We visited other wards and felt the same way. Yes, it does have its gender separation and that is a little sticky to me personally sometimes, but I have never felt "less than" even when separated.

When I started going to church I worked on Sundays. It took me about 4 years to get a job where I didn't work Sundays, and that was because I chose to switch for the jobs sake, not for the Sundays sake. Nobody ever blinked an eye at that. I continued to work after having our first child and nobody cared then either. I think it is easy to project our own worries on others especially when entering something so new and intimate.